My husband's expectations on my weight loss
We were watching football and Faith Hill comes out singing in her size 0 black leather one piece suit thingy. My husband says “Oh man she’s hot, will you be that skinny"? I said, I will try. He then said something that just makes me sick. He asked me how long it will take to lose the weight. I said around 8 months to a year. He looked shocked and said he thought it would only take a month to lose the weight. He was like, why are we paying for this surgery if it will take you a whole year to lose the weight. Why don’t you just diet and exercise again?
I was “awe struck" and just left the room crying and didn’t talk to him the rest of the night. Drop 80 lbs in one month…really??? My husband has obviously laid out these unattainable expectations for me along with not being supportive and sugery is Thursday. Oh geez, this is going to be a long road. Thanks for listening to me vent!!
I started off at size 18-22 depending on the brand...I am now mostly 8's, and have 1 size 6 skirt. I had been overweight all my life and don't remember ever being in the single digits. When (if) I can afford a tummy tuck, I'll surely be in 2-4-6 I would think. For reference, on surgery day, I was 194 lbs, size 16-18, today I am 135 lbs. It took me 6.5 months to get to my goal of 140, and I've maintained under that for 4.5 months now.
I hope things get better! You'll do great on Thursday!
No, seriously! It is hard for anyone that has never had a weight problem to understand how we feel and how hard it is, surgery or not, to lose the weight. Try not to let him deter you from your goal and your expectations. Don't let his remarks get to you as hard as it is. My hubby is supportive but he can still say some really dumb ass things.
One more thing...my bet is that once you start to lose that weight and start to look good and feel better his expectations for you to be a "Faith Hill" will start to diminish because he is going to find you more attractive I am sure. My hubby now thinks I am the sexiest thing alive and I am FAR from a size 0. And I think personally it is because I carry myself a bit differently too.
Good luck on your upcoming surgery and remember YOU come first and hubby will soon follow :)
What a tool!!! Seriously!!! I agree with Dawn....I just bet he has TONS of faults...does HE look like Tim McGraw??? I highly doubt it.
Why do overweight/obese/morbidly obese women put up with such arrogant BS from our significant others? Is it our own insecurities? Probably. co-dependencies? Probably.
What does he think about how much healthier you will be? Is that a concern? Is it only about how you're going to look?
You need to stand up for yourself and focus on how you will feel -- NOT on how your husband is going to feel. The surgery is about your health and wellness. Looking "better" is a bonus...not the real issue!!!
Good luck on thursday.
Sorry if this comes across as bossy, but I just hate it when men take advantage like this.