michelle.z
Big Changes...Fast Summer!
Sep 16, 2012
Hey Everyone! Hope you all had a great summer. It's been since May since I've really been on here, and I feel bad about it! I hope everyone who is approaching the 1 Year mark like I am is still doing well and things are going well for you.As of today, I am down 93 lbs since my RNY last November. I have lost weight slowly and steadily and to be perfectly honest, I'm happy with that! I went back and read my blogs from a year ago and it's so hard to believe so much has changed! Life is good and I am blessed.
I am almost finished with nursing school, and I will graduate in January! It's really flown by and I had the whole summer off, but am now back into it and so far so good with it.
On a not-so-positive note, I am now separated from my husband, and we are filing for divorce. We have been apart for 6 weeks now, and honestly, it's been the best thing. I am adjusting to being single again, and I have my 3 wonderful kids (by my first marriage) to keep me going. We were married 5 years, and things just kind of fell apart for us after he had his VSG last October. I guess you could say he is one of the "not so happy endings" of WLS. His weight loss really affected him in a negative way. He really was not prepared for the lifestyle changes that came with the surgery. Even though he went through the 6 months of medical management before hand, he truly was not prepared. Basically, he has wasted away, and continues to do so. He does not look good, feel good or think straight. His personality has completely changed to the point where he is withdrawn, doesn't enjoy life at all, and basically just sits and stares at the tv. He can eat very few things, and when he does eat, he throws it back up. This is stuff he doesn't bother to tell the doctor. He is on numerous prescription drugs from his PCP, for pain, anxiety, depression, bi-polar disorder, you name it. He lost his job as a registered nurse for stealing prescriptions from patients. He has just made terrible chioces that he would not have ordinarily made. During the last 6 months of our marriage, we went nowhere or did anything together. I would ask him to go to the gym or for a walk with me, and he always declined. Basically, when he moved out, he just said he wasn't happy anymore. He has been seeing a therapist but I'm not sure if it will help him or not. I really honestly believe this VSG was a bad idea for him. He used to eat a LOT of food, and that was taken away from him very abruptly. I just don't think he enjoys his life anymore. He has lost about 100 lbs and he really looks sick, pale and scary. I really have decided to move on with my own life, focus on school and my family and leave this behind. I
don't see this as being a very pleasant divorce, so I just have to be ready for whatever comes.
I have to wonder how many others are out there who are struggling with their WLS. The ones you don't hear about, or see on here or go to support group meetings. They just struggle to get through the day with their new digestive systems and make poor choices. I don't know where I'd be without people to talk to...whether they've had surgery like me, or just friends who know what I've been through or support groups. I'd be lost! I've had to re-learn how to eat...what I can and cannot tolerate...ordering smaller portions when eating out, or even splitting a meal with someone, which I do often. I still have to drink a protein shake every day, usually at breakfast, to make sure I get what I need. My stomach still makes really loud digestive noises after I eat! Which can be so embarassing! But I get through it. I've told most everyone I know that I've had a RNY, and people are very supportive if you give them a chance. I really had a hard time at first telling anyone, feeling almost ashamed that I had to resort to something so drastic to lose weight. Now I feel great about what I did. No regrets at all! I would do it again for sure. I still have about 60 more pounds to lose, and today, I bought a pair of size 16 jeans, not 16W's and they fit very well! I can wear a regular size Large shirt now, and I still find myself creeping over to the Women's section of the store, still unable to fathom that I don't wear a size 24 anymore! It's a great feeling for sure, but I certainly will never forget how it felt to be where I was a year ago. I hope to be down to a 14 by the end of fall. We'll see what happens.
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About Me
Barberton, OH
Location
33.8
BMI
Surgery
11/07/2011
Surgery Date
Oct 05, 2011
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