I am sorry you feel the way you do, but I too think that in 6 months someone doesn't start to do all this at once. She probably always had lesbian tendencies, and now that her self confidence has risen, maybe now she is comfortable with expressing it openly. As for her being self absorbed, well that does happen, because your body is changing, and one would think that jealousy on your part might be part of what you are feeling, or possibly even a loss on your part as your control of your daughter is deminishing. As for the drug use, well... that too is not without question as if it were a problem pre op. I would think that drugs might have been another part of a hidden life she kept private, that she is now exposing. Maybe the things she is doing are so vivid now, because she doesnt have to hide behind curtains now. Maybe she does have coping problems, obviously with drug use, she does. But to think that this surgery was the cause, I highly doubt it. As for her child, much care needs to be given to her, and possibly for the time being you can be a grandmother who shows the grandchild love without putting down the mother who is according to your standards not at par. If this is har**** is not meant to slam you, it is only a response to how I percieved your post. Maybe you might not see how you are portraying your daughter as I have read your post, but this is the picture that you have painted to me. Maybe many of these Problems that you see now, are deeply related to the reasons your daughter was morbidly obese to begin with. Support post op, is just as important as it was prior to her having the surgery. She will always be your daughter. Best wishes for resolution to you and your daughters problems, and safety of your grandchild. Ivanna

Hi. I just wanted to comment about your question. My friend had the same problem and she ended up having to have her gallbladder taken out. You may want to have that checked out by a doctor to make sure that isn't what it is. Just a thought...

You are doing great Eileen!!! Remember that you have the entire month to reach your goal!!

I want to stick up for Dawn here. If you look at what Cindy wrote, she said her daughter had been lost and was now involved in "lies, deceit, and lesbianism" . If the lesbianism wasn't the main problem, then why would she state it that way?. I say everyone has to live their own life.

congrats and way to go Jennifer 262/180/140ish