You obviously know what to do and now you are doing it. Don't get loss in the depression of messing up. You are on the right track now and just keep trying to stay there. If you slip now and then, remember that you are human! You've lost 127 pounds in one year! That's nothing to sneer about! I've found that the last couple of months have been the hardest. Not only does the weight loss slow to next to nothing but you find yourself able to tolerate more foods and able to eat larger quantities. Do your best to try to keep up the water and exercise. You can do it!!

Height: 5' 5" Starting weight: 345 Current weight: 165 Total lost: 180 pounds!!! Surgery date: 11/19/03

I am having problems and it scares me to death. My boyfriend of 3 years has not once said anything nice to me since I had the surgery. When I try to talk about it and say how I feel he says I liked you the way you were, I had no problems with your weight. (grrrrr) I am happy about myself and feel so much better. BUT I can't stand all this stuff with him. In August he ended up in the hospital with pancreatitus from drinking, he lost his job because of the company closing in April and he started drinking very heavily. He was in the hospital in August and almost died and then went to a rehab for 16 days. He has not had a drink since and he does attend AA meetings at least once a week. I also attend Al-Anon. I am very happy I lost all this weight and that he stopped drinking. BUT he is not affectionate, caring, or anything. I need love, I need caring, I need hugs..... When I quote, unquote ***** about this stuff, I get called a ***** and told it totally turns him off. I tried keeping my mouth shut about all this for two months after he got out of the hospital and rehab. Now I am told not to hold my feelings in, by al-anon and my doctor. So I try to tell him how I feel and he just doesn't want to hear it. I feel lost no matter if I keep my mouth shut, or I tell him how I feel I get nowhere! I am to the point I want to just give up on us and move on. He does not want to get married again. Says it is not cause of his first wife dumping him but who knows..... I am the new me. I like myself now and I want a married life again and someone who truely loves me and cares about me. I do everything for the man and his 14 year old son who lives with me and my 11 year old son. BUT I feel like I am getting no where in life. I just want to be happy, I want a family life. And I have always wanted this because my first marriage was a disaster. Am I asking for too much? Are my expectations of a relationship like expecting a fairytale? I see so many happy couples and I just want to have a relationship like they have. I want to be happily married again before I get too old. I am going to be 41 in April. I am not getting any younger. Sometimes I just feel like he lives here with me just for convenience because he lived with his parents after his divorce and before I met him. We share the bills, but he is greedy about money, I have to pay him back every dime I use for anything that goes wrong with my truck, my life, my things that I want or need. Isn't a relationship supposed to be better than this??????? (Thanks for listening, sorry for rambling)

Hight: 4' 10" Starting Weight: 218 Statring BMI 45.6 Current Weight: 113 Current BMI 23.6 Total lost to date: 105

Height: 5' 6 1/2" Starting weight: 314 Current weight: 145 Total Loss: 169 lbs. Melissa