HOW SHOULD I DEAL WITH COMMENTS ABOUT WEIGHT?
Those of us who didn't hide the surgery or its effects (especially any vomiting while at work) are going to have to accept (good-naturedly) the well-meant comments of our peers.
They DO mean well.
And I am hearing "that's enough now - you're starting to get too thin!" a lot these days.
I keep telling them - "I am still overweight according to the scales" and they keep saying "No way! You're thin!" but I know that if I don't continue losing a wee bit, I am going to gain it back - and that is my greatest fear.
I absolutely refuse to accept that idea, that I will gain it back, and sofor the moment (in my head), I dismiss what they are saying as soon as they've said it.
Of course there is a "bottom" to this losing business - there are a couple (not many) OH'ers who went the other way and became anorexic. But we must all deal with these extremes in adult ways, seeking professional advice where needed. NOT from co-workers and family.
They DO mean well.
And I am hearing "that's enough now - you're starting to get too thin!" a lot these days.
I keep telling them - "I am still overweight according to the scales" and they keep saying "No way! You're thin!" but I know that if I don't continue losing a wee bit, I am going to gain it back - and that is my greatest fear.
I absolutely refuse to accept that idea, that I will gain it back, and sofor the moment (in my head), I dismiss what they are saying as soon as they've said it.
Of course there is a "bottom" to this losing business - there are a couple (not many) OH'ers who went the other way and became anorexic. But we must all deal with these extremes in adult ways, seeking professional advice where needed. NOT from co-workers and family.
I have had a few of these encounters. When I came back to work (@ school), in September, one of my student's grandmothers literally said "What have you done? You need to stop. That's enough now, or you'll be sick. Too much!" I was taken aback at first. At that point I was still a good 40-50 pounds from my goal. I just thanked her for her concer, told her I was feeling very well, and was working closely with my doctor.
My Nona (grandmother in Italian), always worries when she sees me. No one told her about my surgery because she is a HUGE worry-wart, and would have freaked out. All she knows is that I was really big, and then the next time she saw me, I was about half my weight. I think she thinks I have been starving myself. Anytime I refuse food, she says (in her old Italian, broken English, way), and with a serious evil eye.... "Eat! Eat!"
My Nona (grandmother in Italian), always worries when she sees me. No one told her about my surgery because she is a HUGE worry-wart, and would have freaked out. All she knows is that I was really big, and then the next time she saw me, I was about half my weight. I think she thinks I have been starving myself. Anytime I refuse food, she says (in her old Italian, broken English, way), and with a serious evil eye.... "Eat! Eat!"
Referral Sent: March 19, 2010
Surgery date with Dr. Denis Hong: December 9, 2010
I have been getting the same comments. So funny as we were getting bigger and bigger nobody said "OMG you need to stop eating your getting big"lol
I try not to let it bother me. We have lost large amounts of weigh, usually in a short time. It is hard for us to wrap our brains around it so for people its a shock.
I have been saying "My body will decide when I'm done, I feel fantastic"
Your doing great!
Char
I try not to let it bother me. We have lost large amounts of weigh, usually in a short time. It is hard for us to wrap our brains around it so for people its a shock.
I have been saying "My body will decide when I'm done, I feel fantastic"
Your doing great!
Char
Char
Dr. Reed
VSG May 24/2011
Thanks for the thoughts, guys.
I think I will just smile and say "I'm almost where I want to be" to the folks who don't matter.
To my husband, who matters very much to me, I explained that for the first time in 25 years I see the promise of actually being an almost normal weight. I also explained that I needed to lose 10 more pounds to even make it out of the obese class, so that there was NO CHANCE that I was getting too thin, yet. He explained to me that he was having some difficulty getting used to seing me at this size when only a few months ago I could barely climb stairs. He said he is only concerned that I might get sick losing weight so fast and said he would try to be more sensitive. Isn't he a great guy?
I think I will just smile and say "I'm almost where I want to be" to the folks who don't matter.
To my husband, who matters very much to me, I explained that for the first time in 25 years I see the promise of actually being an almost normal weight. I also explained that I needed to lose 10 more pounds to even make it out of the obese class, so that there was NO CHANCE that I was getting too thin, yet. He explained to me that he was having some difficulty getting used to seing me at this size when only a few months ago I could barely climb stairs. He said he is only concerned that I might get sick losing weight so fast and said he would try to be more sensitive. Isn't he a great guy?
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