Totally OT

So I am a frakin mess right now. On my home from Toronto we drove by a just happened accident, I said a little prayer and pulled over to cry. ( I was in an MVA in 2004, where I lost my husband my son and almost my life) I do not know these people I was not crying for them I was crying because it brought up to much stuff.
I just heard that we had just witnessed a woman die and I was crying for myself. I feel terrible and I am at a loss. I feel like a selfish cow, and I wish I could make things better, I hope that her souls rest in peace and that her family finds solace. I just wanted to put that out there into the universe and pray that karma understands. 

First, i am so sorry for your loss.  That is somethiing you will always carry, and affect your interactions, thought and feelings for others.
Second, you understand all too well what her family is going through, and while you may call yourself "selfish" i call it empathic. You thought of her family, and the pain that they are expeirencing.
I hope that you find some peace  and comfort to know that others will be holdiong you in our thoughts and prayers tonight as well.

I'm so sorry to hear what you've been through!  Please cut yourself some slack, there is no need to feel like a selfish anything.  Very sorry to hear this loss as well.

Hugz!

 Thanks guys.

 You are far from being a selfish cow!  You have been through more then many of us may see in a lifetime!  I think most of us would have stopped to cry just like you!  May God bless you and that other family who will be going through a very difficult time!  

Hey, easy on yourself!!  Most often when we cry, wheather at a funeral, (something sad) that has affected someone else, we cry for ourselves and our personal losses.  You are not a selfish cow, just a woman who lost more at one time than many of us ever have.    May you find peace and comfort on your new journey!!!

Hugs to you!

Your reaction is totally normal! The feelings related to such a horribly traumatic experience are often triggered by seeing something similar (I do a lot of trauma counselling).  Grieving doesn't follow a prescribed path.  Sometimes we need to revisit it, especially such a horrible loss.  Please let yourself feel it.  You will get through it.

I'm so sorry for your losses.  You must be an incredibly strong woman to have gotten through this.  Thank you for having the courage to share this with us.

Hugs, HH.

It's ok to feel what you're feeling. Horrible things happen, and when we cry, its because it brings back all those emotions. You know exactly how that woman's family will feel, because you've felt it. Those are empathetic,  not selfish tears.

Hugs. You're a real person. imagine that.

You should never feel any guilt over your personal feelings.  You are a good person and the universe knows that.  No higher power would judge you in that moment of grief.  I cannot imagine the terrible loss you suffered but seeing something that reminds you of that cannot be easy.  I am 100% sure that no person on earth or elsewhere would ever mis-understand your feelings today.  Love yourself - do something good for you...and don't beat yourself up!  HUGS

 Thank you so much. I really do appreciate the words of kindness. Doesn't change how I feel but I really really do appreciate the support and the words of kindness that I receive here. 
You are an amazing bunch of ppl that I am thankful for each day.
Alisha