Really???

 

I just stopped off at the post office on my way home from my 3++hr pro-op appointment.

DH had a notice for a package so I went in to get it for him. The woman at the desk happens to be an old client of mine and she mentioned 'needing' a treatment. I said 'I won't be able to since I'm having surgery on Thursday, I'll be off for a month, but my new therapist will be there'. Of course she asked what kind of surgery... I responded honestly...

her reaction threw me for a loop... Se had had gastric bypass and said...oh no, I wish I had never had mine!!!

Really?... I'm having this in two days!!!

She has been gaining some of the weight back and has hypoglycemia, she' s four years post... But I'm a little put off that she would do that so close to my surgery...I realize it was probably with the best intentions ....  

People say stupid things all the time hun...

If she said she wishes she never had hers then she is in the minority... And if she has been struggling with re-gain it may have a large part of why she said it.

Of all of the people I know who have had WLS done... The ONLY ones I have ever heard say they regret it... Are those who were struggling in some respect.

And to be honest... It may not have been with the "best intentions". Misery loves company...

With all of that said... you've spent a lot of time researching, and making changes just to get to the point that you are at. You are an active member of a support community... Those three things have you light years ahead of someone who may not have had those, or made use of those... You will choose to do what is best for you. Just as I did 6 days ago.

*big hugs*

Shell

More than likely she's  having some issues (psychological) with the weight gain. It could be natural bounceback or more...who knows? Often people with RH have to eat more frequently and this can also be hard for us and yes, lead to some gain. So she's in a bad mental place. I know.  I 've been there!

I'm 6.5 years out, reactive hypoglycemic and yes had some weight gain...but would I not have had it.

NEVER.

Best thing I ever did for me. I won't kid you though - it's hard now. It's very different.  It's mentally a struggle some days - much like the lady you were probably talking to...but I would never ever go back and be 130+  heavier.

Dawn

It's not nice that she rained on your parade.  This is one of the reasons why I don't put myself out there (not saying you shouldn't).  However, without putting myself out there I have heard so many horror stories.  Mostly because a girl where I work had GBP a year ago and put herself out there and that opened up a whole can of stories. lol

Chin up !  You have made the best decision for you in your life/situation.  Don't let one negative nelly get you down :)

Who knows where she got it done and what kind of prep she's done before and after.  The program we're in is a healthy one that prepares us long before and long after.  She obviously thought it was going to "cure" her for the rest of her life and isn't interested in putting the "work" in.

It just amazes me the things that people will say.

I am 5'4" & was 281 lbs when I decided to ask for a referral for GB surgery. I have embraced the lifestyle change & had gotten down to 252 last summer. Since then I have wavered between 252 - 258 ish. Jan 2nd when I started Opti I was 259.5. However - I have always carried my weight very proportionately. My own sister, who is an RPN, guessed my weight on Boxing day at 160...well, ok maybe 180. WHAT????? I (nicely) said if I was 180, I wouldn't have been approved for this surgery. She said well, lots of people have said they don't know why you're getting this surgery, you don't need to lose that much weight. And THAT is the story of my life lately. I had a friend actually freak out on me, telling me I'm not big enough to have this surgery & "oh no, Sue, you're not really going to do that, are you? Oh no, I can't believe you're going to do that. You don't need that surgery!!" & on & on. I told someone at work - & said, I wasn't going to tell anyone because I'm tired of convincing people that I really AM big enough to get this surgery. She said: Well that's what I was thinking, you're not that big. You don't need to have that surgery.  Ran into an old co-worker the other day. She said "I heard you're going for gastric bypass surgery." Yep, I said. She said "oh, you don't need that. No way you need to have that surgery. You don't look that big." (she is & always has been very thin).

Sigh...I don't know whether to defend myself or say thank you. I know people are well-intentioned, for the most part. But I am just so tired of trying to convince people that I AM fat enough to have this surgery.

Soooo glad surgery day is almost here!!!!!

Ditto what DNA said. You made your decision based on your reasons. Perhaps she is just upset because she is starting to regain.  

She hasn't really put real doubt in my mind... I've been in this process for almost 2 years, I know all about the possibilities pro and con... More just put off by her statement and lack of tact.