Hi all,

I had my RNY last week.  I am needing to go to a support group.  There is one at Salem Hospital isn't there? Can someone tell me when and where they are?  And can you attend if you didn't have surgery there?

Thanks,
Linda

God bless you! I know it means a lot to this little girl.(even if she is upset now)
My Grandmother raised me my since I was 10 days old , and I am so grateful. she even raised my cousins for the most of their lives. she just turned 77, she is an awesome woman.

last year my husband and I fostered my cousins children, a two year old and a six month old along with my one year daughter. Three kids under 2....LOL. and I'm only 22
 I became too attached to them and now their mother has them and she is terrible-but apparently not doing anything that counts as "illegal" anymore. BAH!

I pray for the good works that you are doing!

I see that you're in Pennsylvania.  Should this message be posted in the Pennsylvania board instead of the Oregon one?

Sandra,
I know Oregon system very well. I serve on the state foster care board.   as well as many other hats in the state. I am an foster/ adoptive mom.  what a Blessing to have the girl go directly to your home without quick licence.  Typically they go directly to another home first.  Please feel free to email me privatly as well you can also find me throught Oregon Foster Parent Association.  We have many wonderful people that can help you with any questions.  Sometimes the lingo is overwhelming not to mention the rollercoaster of emotions. One of the things I teach is being an advocate for these kids and not stopping and letting the system take over! You are doing a great job already knowing she went to a home she new has saved her trauma already! Documentation is important as well.  Make sure you are documenting in a wire bound book.  This will help you as well think clearly.  oops I forgot I am not on my typical foster parent board! I can get you connected to others in your county as well.

Great job to your family- Your kids also! It takes a whole family and they will to be Blessed for sharing their momma!
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Danielle

thank you all for all of your encouraging words and prayers. i guess some of it really helped because today in court the judge granted me temporary guardianship and as a condition of her release she is to have NO contact with the child. i enrolled her in school today and her biological dad and grandpa brought me a check to go out and buy her school supplies and school clothes. he is going to go to the courts and get paternity established so that he can fight for full custody of her. and with that he has agreed to leave her here with me on a full time basis , if he gets custody. so she can have the stability of our home. and he will just visit with her. he is a good boy, and works hard for his family business. and i trust him. he just had a one night stand with the child's mom and ever since then she has played him. she wouldn't let him see her unless he gave her money, but on the other hand she would never make her available to be tested for paternity. because she didn't want him to have any rights to her. so she had him between a rock and hard place.

for now she is doing well , she loves being at our home. she loves playing with her 'brothers' my boys. she is very excited to start kindergarten in the morning. and i have a little less worry in my heart for now. but we will see where this all goes in a month or so. so all pray for us and that she can continue to be with us .....