i feel fat, ugly and disgusting

I've been heavy my whole life and I feel I made the best informed decision in my life having this surgery. For months I read success stories on here and dreamed of losing 100 lbs in 6-8 months and eventually getting under 200. I truly feel that I will make it there someday. I decided I have 2 choices. I can stick with my program and let my body purge the fat at it's own pace and relish in my success or I can let all those negative feelings that I spent most of my life feeling ease their way back into my mind and let it possibly sabotage my success. We can't always help how we feel but we can alter what we think about which influences how we feel. When I weigh myself whether I have a loss or not I always remind myself that never in my life have I lost this amount of weight in this short period of time and continued to lose. I also remind myself that I did not get this heavy in 9 months and it's going to take me longer to lose it but I will. None of this makes you feel better when your feeling down about yourself but I guess what I am trying to say is that when you see yourself having negative thoughts think about the success that you have already accomplished and how daily your life is changing for the better. Truly look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are looking better and better each day and believe it!! You are doing fabulously and you will see yourself in onderland soon enough. Keep your chin up!!! Hugs!

(((hugs))) We all have days like that.  I still have a hard time looking at myself and seeing that I have lost over 80lbs.  We tend to judge ourselves more than anyone else would.  I could look at you and see a completely different person than what you see.  Don't be so hard on yourself. Know that you current state is only temporary and you will be thinner tomorrow, the next day, next week and imagine a month ,a year from now!  I know I will never have my 15 year old body back but I know that every day I am getting farther away from that 304lb person that I was.  I will always have flappy arms and saggy thighs and a spare tire around my middle but they will be nothing compared to what they once were. Hang in there sweetie!

So true... One of my favorite sayings (and I don't remember where I heard it) is "what you focus on determines what you miss".  I choose to focus on the good, positive, see the best in each situation, and miss the negative yucky stuff.  It really keeps my outlook in check and feeds the good, not the bad.

Wishing everyone to focus on the good!
Kristy

We all have our days of ups and downs. I know it's hard to see today, but you're doing fantastic! I would highly recommend going for a walk or something just to get your endorphins up and clear your head. It works wonders. Try to focus on what you're doing RIGHT and keep working the program and the weight WILL come off. Keep you head up sweetheart! Sending lots of love your way!

AWW hunny! Don't be so hard on yourself. I just posted about feeling deflated and ugly about a week ago. I just think there will always be something to find in ourselves to make us insecure and unhappy. Put a smile on your beautiful face.

Oh, dear. Please stop all that awful self-talk. You are NONE of those things. One bit of advice - take it for what it's worth... Go buy yourself one really cute outfit with each new size (on sale of course) so you have a go-to that isn't falling off or safety pinned... It will change how you feel about yourself. You're doing awesome - keep it up!!!