In a Weird Place Right Now

I guess my thought is, in addition to ideas already discussed, focus on the successes you have each day. How many good choices are you making regarding your diet, your exercise, etc... I know for me, I've had 48 years of reinforced bad habits, its going to be a good long while to replace those bad habits completely with the good ones. And I'm one to dwell on the bad ones without much consideration of all the good I've achieved.

Totally understandable Keith! I have a bunch of family and friends that ask me questions, for advice and recipes all the time. They act like this is a cake walk, no pun intended or marketing ploy to get you to want cake. I need to remind people that this is STILL and always a work in progress for me. You don't just lose this weight and it magically stays off. I am my own worst critic. I guess if people don't see my failures or struggles (since I don't brag about them) they think that I know it all. I am just more introverted when it comes to self motivation.

I have the family/friends who are used to the 24-26 size me and wonder why the smaller version still wants to lose "more weight". I get the, more weight, from where?! Uh, please...there is still more. They are called goals people...**** to work towards!

Keep up the great work Keith, I always try to read your posts because I love hearing from VSG'ers the most. It's easier coming from people who know what you are going through.

Not gonna lie dude......

Some of your posts are very hard to read cause you give out some advice based on zero experience.........just theory from something you read.

You try harder than most everyone in most ways...... but you still have many more phases to go through........ Sometimes I'll read one of your posts and think "I remember when I thought that".......

frisco

I try to not dispense advice when I don't have experience with it or at least preface it with "I do not know but here is what I think" or something to that effect. So when I do, please call me out on it. Most of what I talk about I have experimented with or done, particularly when it comes to exercise or nutrition (which I am currently working on certifications for). 

Having urges and desires are nothing that I did or didn't do and talking about them helps me to #1 to put it out there to show that I am just like everyone else on this board (including you) and visualize what is going on with me and #2 that no matter what your plan is (good or bad) that you will run into road blocks. 

This is a bump in the road and part of the process and sadly its the part of the process that only a few on here (like you and Elina) can talk about and certainly not something most people's doctors tell you about.

There are a lot of factors going on with me now and I really sat down to document them I would probably curl up into a ball and just rock back and forth. I have some additional stresses in my life right now, I am out of my comfort zone that I built all summer long, I am working more than I have in a couple of years, I am trying my best to maintain the workout schedule I had which means getting up at 5am on most days and trying to get to bed by 10pm. I have increased my weight on all of my workouts trying to build more muscle and I am constantly wrestling with the fact to really gain the muscle I want to gain I should be eating more but I will not do that until I have hit my goal weight. So lots going on. I need to step back a bit and regroup. 

You and Frisco need a man hug!  ;-)    I love you two!

It's nice to see a very honest relationship where people can say what they think in a respectful way and it doesn't turn into a big swordfight or *****fest lol

Since your so very close to goal could it be sub conscience self sabotage??
I have been jonesing for chocolate BIG TIME this week!!
While food shopping I actually bought muffins for the kids then added a cinnamon twist and coffee cake, cause I thought they looked good and wanted it, so I brought it home for the kids..talk about transference!!
Maybe it's the season...those Halloween displays are hard to miss...but maybe, it's more than that...the devil on my shoulder saying have one you deserve it..he shows up just like every other time I've tried to take weight of to temp me...I'm resisting..it's easier than before, but old habits die hard....

I don't think its self sabotage. I work very hard at getting the fat off and I am very very motivated to reach goal. No reason not too. Its most likely complacency and external stressors.

Thanks for your posts on this situation. I am pre-op and was talking about this exact situation with my counselor this morning. I will keep this in mind and watch it when i have post-op cravings. I am having preop cravings...so far i just talk my way thru it and ask myself if i want "that food more" than I want to deal with the aftermath! Since the thought of dealing with with the aftermath is not something that I want to do so that makes "that food" less appealing. I almost ignored my thought process today and indulged! I am so grateful for every word that is typed on this board. It is such a wonderful gift that helps us all be successful!

Keith, give yourself kudos for being honest about your overeating challenge.Being honest is how we can fix our mistakes!  

Pain and exhaustion are by far my two biggest triggers. You aren't alone. 

There are a n umber of studies that show good sleep is essential to weight loss and probably for this reason....

decompress, relax, go kick your ass at the gym and flood your brain with endorphins, and get some sleep tonight.