Discovery Health, Bob Greene:I'm fat again

I am watching Discovery Health, There is a show called Bob Greene's I'm Fat Again from his Best Life series. There is a couple who both have had gastric bypass surgery. Both have regained about half of the weight they have lost. Its pretty interesting and candid. Both my husband and I have had it and we both have put weight back on as well. I lost 140 and have gained back 35. I am devistated over this. My husband has also put back on weight and he wants to lose 50. I am like the woman in this story as I am also a snacker and I snack on the wrong things. I am always in a hurry so that is my problem. I am not sure what snacks are good on the run that is filling and I won't get hungry. I have PCO and I since had some blood work and it has resurfaced. I hate myself so much right now. I am going to watch more of it. If you can catch i****ch it.
Paula

The first thing you have to do is stop hating yourself.  You should be proud that you stopped yourself when you did and that you are addressing it before it gets out of control.  After losing 140 lbs, tackling 35 should not be so ominous.  You can do this - stay the course and you will be a new woman by labor day!

Thanks! I know I shouldn't but its so hard. The old me comes back to haunt me. I am so worried I won't lose this and next I will be posting its 50. I am not sure of myself. I am so angry and I mean angry. I hate myself all over again. I hope tha****ching this will shed some light on my issues. I want to lose weight and have plastic surgery. I just joined a gym so that is a start.
Thanks for inspiration!
Paula

My doctor said that this surgery is a tool only, and that for the rest of my life I should only eat three meals a day, no snacking ever, except when it's a special occasion, I will always have to watch my calorie intake and always exercise to burn excess calories. Once the weight is off.....it doesn't mean I am done. I am always going to be a work in progress, I need to then maintain my loss, and he said work within a 5-10 pound shift allowance. If you reach that ten pound, get it off with low calorie intake and only three meals a day, then increase you exercise and don't go back to doing what you did to gain that 10 pounds.......

You worked so hard to get it off and congratulations. I hope to be as successful as you...... but it's easier to keep off than to have to lose all over again. 

Maybe draw up a weekly meal planner...calorie concious and stick to it...and if youfind yourself heading for the snacks automatically, address that old head hunger and 'auto pilot' eating style.

Also, be careful about saying 'well, it happened to then, so it's ok if it happens to me'. Don't permit yourself to be a weight loss failure like they might be doing. Pride yourself of your intellegence that got the weight off to lose it again and maintain that loss for life. I have decided not to permit mself to fall into the same traps I see others doing...even when it seems like a good ecuse...like "well, that girl ate cookies and she still looks good'...

Good luck. Get back to it! I feel like people around me are waiting for me to stop losing weight or to put it back on, but I wan't to show them that this tme it's different.

What great advice!!!! Thank you so much! Mistake number one is not coming here enough! 
Thanks for taking your time and writing. I so appreciate it!
Paula

I agree that since you have identified the problem you know what to do to stop it. I have always wondered what will happen once I am at goal how long will I be able to maintain that. I have mixed feelings since I have heard of people gaining a lot of weight but I also have hope because I keep hearing about people that have maintained their goal weight for 3 yrs or more...  Before I had the surgery I found out that I snacked  less when I was really busy...I don't know what kind of work you do but maybe you could try to keep busy and keep your mind off of food. So far since the surgery I have not had any issues with snacking

Good Luck and keep your head up!

Well I had my surgery more than 4 years ago and its been this past year that I put weight on. I have been very very stressed. I think that has alot to do with it. My mom has stage 4 lung cancer. My parents because of this have lost their home and thier car as well as a steady income. My daughter moved out and had a baby which really has been a blessing but it didn't at the time. At the same time both of my inlaws up north are older and not well. We thought that we were going to lose my father in law last year. I think all of this has contributed to my bad eating habits once again. I did so well before that.
I am a hairstylist which I think helps. I do not snack at work, but do have a hard time actually eating at all. Some times I get no break. Bad I know. I think if I had a sit down job it would be worse. I am coming into slow season so hopefully I will actually have more time for the gym.
Thanks for writing! 
Paula

So sorry you're going through so much all at once. 

Its the high stress times that send us bck to our old negative patterns.  I won't pull out my own violin, but I'll share my personal most productive coping method. 

When I first became disabled I was suddenly always home.  Medications that cause weight gain and steroids also left me always hungry.  I would remind myself why I wanted to eat.

'Yes, I am truly hungry but thats the steroids talking' or 'You would not eat if you were working, you are feeling sorry for yourself. ' 

This worked well enough for me to loose just over thirty pounds slowly until I decided on surgery. 

I used the same method as my dad was nearing his end and a family member was performing her own dramatics, etc.

Reminding myself why I felt how I felt made the eating response more manageable.  It was still hard not to eat, but it became an intellectual issue not pure emotion.  That made it less hard hard for me.  

I hope this helps

Thanks! I think I will try that. I need something to try, It is so hard under stressful times. I have to learn to cope. I think this though has to be the toughest time I have ever had in my life. There is so much more to it as well.  I was delusional in the fact that I could deal with this and not talk about it. Anyway, Thank you for taking your time to write me. You have such insight. I am going to really stop and think before I eat.
Paula

Lack of an outlet is one of the reasons we may eat.  I also try to hold it all in.  Trying to be everyone's rock will eventually kill you. 

Sometimes venting to a stranger helps.  No preconceived notions and totally detached.  If you ever just want to let it all out please feel free to PM me.  I have an open ear...