Offended but justified?

 He's an ass.  Get him out of your life - You deserve so much better.  People show their real selves at times, and he just did.  As the saying goes something like "If you can't support me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best."  He's proven that he fails.  Find someone who deserves you.

I know what it is like dating. I have been very quick to tell people. Anyone who wants to judge me for it then fine they won't fit in with my lifestyle either. Getting heathy take's work. Whether a person is 300 lb or 125 lbs and never had a weight problem is beyond the point. We are each human and the extra pounds we carried made it easier for us to be picked on.  All of us here made a change in our outsides and our insides....literally. Anyone who cannot be gentle enough with your feelings, cannot even come close to understanding or respecting the journey you have taken through your weight loss. He lacks substance, tact. feelings and respect. I would say he is a BAD EGG. Give someone who values your journey the time and the sacredness of looking at the photos of you. 

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Heather 

 "I guess i was offended by the cruelty." 
"I dont think I want to be with someone who can be that cruel" 
"Other than that he has been totally nice." 

Really?

You're not sure you were offended by his cruelty to you?
You think you wouldn't want to be with a cruel person?

Other than that, Mrs. Lincoln, how was the play?

If you have no sense of self-respect or self-preservation, pretend your daughter or other loved one had been treated as you were. Would you want her to sleep with him? Open her heart to him? Put her life in his hands? Trust him? 

Are you really that desperate for a man? 

Been there, done that, got the scars.

 Other than that, Mrs. Lincoln, how was the play?

Exactly...

Now you are the one who is being mean.  Very uncalled for.

 Nothing in my post was mean. My encouragement was absolutely called for.

I care about women who let themselves be stomped on. They deserve better and if they don't learn to stand up for themselves, their lives and their children's lives will be damaged. A pat on the back and virtual hug won't help. Straight talk might.

OMG.... Ya...see ya!!  And I would say EXACTLY what you just said to us... This is me, this was me, this will always be me.  I can't date someone who is so obviously disgusted by the "bigger" me. 

I would also be VERY weary about my children being around someone like that ...sometimes weight is genetic and if your kids are chubby and he is commenting and warning you about it how will he treat THEM in the years to come??

I think you need to be VERY careful with this guy... You deserve someone who says "Wow you lost a lot of weight, way to go babe!  You were beautiful before and you are beautiful now!"... NOT the way he reacted. 

If it was me I would drop him.

Juls

What a loser.  YOU need to lose HIM.  Dump his sorry ass.  You are worthy of much more.  And it's okay not to be dating for a while....plenty of good books to read until you meet someone who's a truly decent person.

Do not inflict this potential misery on yourself and most especially on your children.

I'd dump him because of WHAT he said specifically.  I get that people are attracted to certain types and looks in people and if someone isn't attracted to another with a certain bodybuild or weight then that's there perogative; but he was a TOTAL ASS in what he said to you.

Move on for yourself you'll always remember his words and the hurt you felt when he said it.  He doesn't deserve you and you surely don't want to be with someone that would say those words to you.

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RUN!!!!  RUN VERY VERY FAST!