Hi!

Hi!
I just had gastric bypass surgery 2 weeks ago today. I am really struggling physically and emotionally. My incisions became infected so on top of getting over the surgery i am fighting an infection. I feel horrible, useless., and discouraged! I can't stand to eat and it hurts. I never thought I would be so pitiful and hurt so long! My hubby has been great but I know he is tired of doing everything for me and the kids. Am I normal? My emotions are fried and I am scared I made a mistake. I am afraid if I start eating food I will not lose any weight at all!! I have lost 18 since surgery and 28 since August. I feel so alone and there are no support groups where I live. . I am not sure of what to eat and I don't want anything at all. It hurts and i am afraid of eating too much or not enough! I can't stand the shakes either. Any advice? Words of wisdom? Any help will be appreciated.
Thanks! Amy

Good morning BamaBelle:

First of all, I am so sorry that you feel so alone, and I"m glad you came here to the OH board.

Hopefully, you are on a soft diet.  It's really important to get your fluids in.  If you can't tolerate even soft food, be sure to drink protein shakes and at least try to get your protein in liquid form.  Drink a lot of water and walk!  walk!  walk!

WLS is an emotional roller coaster - and you haven't even begun to experience the full force of it.  That being said, please realize that it is normal!  Your physical body will change quicker than your "head" will. 

For me, it was well over a year before I could eat anything but soft foods.  Even after that - introducing more solid choices was a process.  I don't know why - but I had patience with the process.  It was two years before I could eat meat!  Again, I didn't freak out or get discouraged.  I think it's because I knew I wanted the weight loss more than I wanted a bagel???  I don't know. 

Please, if you are able, come to this web site every day - let this forum be your support group.  All the best to you.

Sandie

First off, let me say most of us have some sadness and/or depression post op.  I did a post about crying for no reason not that long ago.  I am feeling better each day.  I can eat solid foods, just about an ounce at a time.  With the quantity being so small I tend to choose soft foods like Dannon Greek light and fit or shakes or cottage cheese.   Sorry you are having trouble with infections.  Come here for support when ever you need.  You can send me a friend request if you would like to.

Syntrax Nectar - 13 ct sample pack direct from the company is now $14.00 no shipping. Just call them at 866-333-7403. There is an option on the phone for bariatric.

Try ordering the above sample pack from Syntrax, I have found 2 I like that way, the cappuccino and lemon tea.  Good way to try different flavors for about a buck each

Y'all are too sweet! Thanks so much for your responses. Sometimes I feel SO alone in this. I guess I am just trying to adjust and the infection does not help. I want to keep visiting the forums because it does help to know you are not alone. I just wish I could figure out food. When I would get blue before, i wanted to eat and now I don't want to at all. So at least I am not using food anymore. :)  Half full?? Right?? Thanks again so much! :)

Honey, you've got support out here any day, any time.  I've gotten more out of the people here than I ever did at a monthly support meeting.