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Topic: RE: WHAT KIND OF MEN ARE YOU ATTRACTING?
He helped to keep my @$$ rocking the eliptical and running 10k. A man lifting heavy weights, burning up the treadmill, and built like granite sneaks peaks at me in the gym while I'm exercising. I know exactly why he came into my life. Motivation for me to keep on working it. 
Yes I am vain and he is positive reinforcement.
Yes I am vain and he is positive reinforcement. Topic: RE: WHAT KIND OF MEN ARE YOU ATTRACTING?
Its all to be taken tongue in cheek. The smileys 
indicate my dry wit. Dating the older chick is the "in thing" at the moment and this amuses me. (Admittedly, amusing me is not difficult as demonstrated by the jokes I post.) I'm guessing the "***** cat" picture did not connect either. 
My random musings about younger men are just that. Musings as opposed to a cry for help finding my woman within who, with enough psychobabble, can become truly worthy of a good man. When I'm ready to saddle a man there will be a riding crop involved not emotional baggage
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But seriously folks, spiritual & emotional attributes did not enter my mind. Why not? Well it is not because I am shallow and immature (although I may be). He is a very attractive BMW (as in Black Man Working). However, I'm simply not attracted to him. There needs to be a "spark" for a man to be anything more than a physical package with a mental dossier attached. In the couple years we've been acquainted I'm pretty certain he is a good man. Were he closer to my preferred age group, I still think we would not click. DAMN, if only it could be all about the physical!
indicate my dry wit. Dating the older chick is the "in thing" at the moment and this amuses me. (Admittedly, amusing me is not difficult as demonstrated by the jokes I post.) I'm guessing the "***** cat" picture did not connect either. My random musings about younger men are just that. Musings as opposed to a cry for help finding my woman within who, with enough psychobabble, can become truly worthy of a good man. When I'm ready to saddle a man there will be a riding crop involved not emotional baggage
. But seriously folks, spiritual & emotional attributes did not enter my mind. Why not? Well it is not because I am shallow and immature (although I may be). He is a very attractive BMW (as in Black Man Working). However, I'm simply not attracted to him. There needs to be a "spark" for a man to be anything more than a physical package with a mental dossier attached. In the couple years we've been acquainted I'm pretty certain he is a good man. Were he closer to my preferred age group, I still think we would not click. DAMN, if only it could be all about the physical!
Topic: RE: I've been approved!!!
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Topic: RE: Sharing and telling my story...It was time!
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Topic: RE: Unsure what to do...
Hi. Sorry to hear about that. I wonder if you can appeal that decision or even ask if they have that done in writing anywhere. Especially since you have health reasons to have the surgery done.
Best of luck to you.
Best of luck to you.
Taking it one day at a time.
Topic: RE: WHAT KIND OF MEN ARE YOU ATTRACTING?
As the above poster mentioned, you never know why someone comes into your life. But, living these years that I have, I truly believe that we "attract" where WE are right now (Emotionally and Spiritually.)
The above description of the man is Physical; you don't mention any "Spiritual" or Emotional attraction or attributes. You may want to look at YOU for a while...Your attitude is that "ALL" the "Good" men run when You come around (paraphrasing.) Well, "good" men, like "good" women do not want to be saddled wth Spiritually and/or Emotionally immature people either.
All of the people I have dated, as well as My former partner of many years are much younger than Myself. I did not see it as a problem because even though we had the age difference they had high Emotional and Spiritual Intelligence.
I have found this to be the case: BE what you are trying to attract in your Life...No matter what happens YOU will win!
The above description of the man is Physical; you don't mention any "Spiritual" or Emotional attraction or attributes. You may want to look at YOU for a while...Your attitude is that "ALL" the "Good" men run when You come around (paraphrasing.) Well, "good" men, like "good" women do not want to be saddled wth Spiritually and/or Emotionally immature people either.
All of the people I have dated, as well as My former partner of many years are much younger than Myself. I did not see it as a problem because even though we had the age difference they had high Emotional and Spiritual Intelligence.
I have found this to be the case: BE what you are trying to attract in your Life...No matter what happens YOU will win!
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Topic: RE: WHAT KIND OF MEN ARE YOU ATTRACTING?
Hell... if it was me I would have gotten his number. You never know why people come into your life
Topic: 11 Months post op with pics
Well BAF Family, As of the 27th of May, I am 11 Months Post Op. I am down 81 pounds and holding, holding, holding............. Is this a STALL or a STOP...UUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!! 
I am starting to feel like I have failed myself. I was suppose to be at 100 pounds down by 1 year out. Don't look like that's going to happen. I have poor eating habits, I don't exercise much lately. I thought I was tired all the time because of school, but I graduated May 13th. YYYAAAAAAYYYY ME!!! But I literally have to make myself move off the couch lately. Does anyone experience this, this far out. I have not made it to one year and already I am struggling with trying not to gain weight. Maintenance is gonna be a Mother!!!!!!!!!!!!! I still try to get all the protein in .......between 80 and 100 daily. My caloric goal is 1200 and I try not to go over 1400.......... ( sometimes I do go over, slightly)!! But for the next 26 day I plan to put my all into it. I need some tips from some who have struggled!! HELP!! This time last year I was dreading giving up soda (DR PEPPER!!!!) I have not had any since June 15th or so. I dont eat a lot of sweets. I still count sugar grams per serving. I don't dump, much. I have dumped on sweet wine, and chinese food. The enemies...................... I need all the rallying I can get. Stay on me for the next 26 days........................ If ever a time I need you guys, it is now................. Hey I can take harsh criticism/advice!! 26 days and counting!!!
And why are family and friends telling me NOT to lose anymore weight. 189 is too close to 200 for me to be comfortable.......... I figured that if I had to be 100 lbs overweight to qualify for the surgery, wouldn't I want to lose 100 lbs. Or I am I expecting to lose it too soon...........
Love yall, sharon
P.S. I graduated with High Honors............ Full Ride Scholarship Babeeeeeeeeeee.............
Going to Jackson State University in the Fall............ Pray for Me
I am starting to feel like I have failed myself. I was suppose to be at 100 pounds down by 1 year out. Don't look like that's going to happen. I have poor eating habits, I don't exercise much lately. I thought I was tired all the time because of school, but I graduated May 13th. YYYAAAAAAYYYY ME!!! But I literally have to make myself move off the couch lately. Does anyone experience this, this far out. I have not made it to one year and already I am struggling with trying not to gain weight. Maintenance is gonna be a Mother!!!!!!!!!!!!! I still try to get all the protein in .......between 80 and 100 daily. My caloric goal is 1200 and I try not to go over 1400.......... ( sometimes I do go over, slightly)!! But for the next 26 day I plan to put my all into it. I need some tips from some who have struggled!! HELP!! This time last year I was dreading giving up soda (DR PEPPER!!!!) I have not had any since June 15th or so. I dont eat a lot of sweets. I still count sugar grams per serving. I don't dump, much. I have dumped on sweet wine, and chinese food. The enemies...................... I need all the rallying I can get. Stay on me for the next 26 days........................ If ever a time I need you guys, it is now................. Hey I can take harsh criticism/advice!! 26 days and counting!!!
And why are family and friends telling me NOT to lose anymore weight. 189 is too close to 200 for me to be comfortable.......... I figured that if I had to be 100 lbs overweight to qualify for the surgery, wouldn't I want to lose 100 lbs. Or I am I expecting to lose it too soon...........
Love yall, sharon
P.S. I graduated with High Honors............ Full Ride Scholarship Babeeeeeeeeeee.............
Going to Jackson State University in the Fall............ Pray for Me
IN IT TO WIN IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Topic: RE: Sharing and telling my story...It was time!
Thank you so much Newme_38. I so appreciate it. I leveraged on that 53 for a few more days, because turn 54 on the the 14th!...........
......I guess I should have claimed that instead!
JJ
......I guess I should have claimed that instead!JJ
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