My wife was supportive of me getting the surgery, but after it was done and I started dropping the weight, things got a little funky.  I had gotten my confidence back and I was feeling great about myself.  I started to not feel the same amount of support from her and I was on the boards all of the time, chatting and reading and really pulling a lot of positive vibes from the people here.  I would share this with her and she started saying all I ever talked about was my weight loss and I was obsessed and it came off as if she was jealous.  After a while, I stopped sharing any goals or milestones I hit with her because I didn't want to hear anything negative and this was my go to support system.  I also started getting more attention from others and of course it makes you feel great, but it seemed to bother her.  She loved me big or small, but I guess she was comfortable with big me, not attracting so much attention.  I finally told her she is big and happy and confident in her bigness and that is all fine and dandy, but I needed this for me.  My health was better and I was looking pretty damn good in the process.  I had to explain this is a journey and it has highs and lows and ups and downs and its not as easy as get surgery and go on about your business.  When she found herself where I was as far as not feeling good and confident about yourself and extremely unhealthy, she came back and apologized and said she understood now what I was going through and she eventually had the surgery herself.  The changes that come with this will test your relationship, but if its strong and built to last, you will be fine. 

I have been going back and forth to the hospital for the past year or so. Due to severe stomach pain as well as severe nausea and vomiting. No diagnose was made. So finally i had an endoscopy. And they now say i have 2 peptic ulcers and gastritis.

I have lost 45 lbs since mayb feb. I have.no appetite. This is awful.

Has anyone on the board had this problem?

Thanks!  I rescheduled it one last time to November 10th because of this infection however!  I pray it's all cleared up! 

Congrats, on your upcoming surgery. Keep me posted...I looking to have mines around the beginning of the year. I'm on my fourth month of supervised pcp diet/visit.

Hi there.

We'll my surgery is around the corner and I'm just looking for more support.

I have surgery in Toronto Canada at Toronto Western Hospital.

I'm very excited but have questions about stuff to have going into surgery. I know a lot if places are a bit different in terms of which procedure your doing and in what part of the world your in. I don't know if I'm getting a sleeve or a Rny they left it open. I want a Rny tho.

So excited just wanted to see if theses any great advice I could be given.

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