Good topic Karen,
My changes did not really transpire till I started therapy and also got into a discipleship relationship with a dear friend.  She and I would process my therapy sessions, and I would have the courage to start changing.  I was a horrid wife and mother, even though I was a believer, because of some mental health issues.  It took years, and even then, I was unable to save my marriage.  But, I still grew and changed, and now, my children love me, and want to spend time with me, and I am on good terms with my ex and his wife.  That is a true miracle of God working in my life. 

One of the things I learned, through experience, is that drinking alcohol brings back that old me, even during times when I did not drin****il I got rid of the alcohol once and for all.  Sobriety is more than not drinking.  It is gaining back my sanity.  God gets all the credit for that.

I had written a reply to our earlier dialogue, but lost it with computer challenges.  I was really discouraged last night with my current health issues.  The infection on my toe is in a corn that developed on a hammertoe.  I am also being treated for a sinus infection.  I had to cancel my therapy appointment which was for tonight.  Now, I can't see the therapist till next weekend.

Keep up the great work with this thread.  I will spread the word to my PA Forum next.

Hugs,
Trish