Changes in Relationships with people Post op
so a short update before i start:
I had the DS on August 10, 2009 so almost 20 months ago. I am currently at a stall for the past 4-5 months. I only list 2 pounds in the last 2 months yet I feel like I lost inches. for example I bought a bra 2 months ago and the band size is already too big. anyway I have lost over 200 pounds since surgery. I do have incisional hernias that are giving me issues with pain and it looks like I am pregnant. I was in a 2x but because the hernia got bigger I am now back up to a 3x. I am getting that taken care of but that is another story.
Back to the main topic:
At the surgeons support group meeting last night someone brought up how relationships change when you lose weight. That it is almost like they were happier that we were fat. and looking back at past and current people in my life they are right. Friendships do get strained. Preop I had to try to keep up with my friends and now they have to keep up with me
. They tell me I have too much energy and it is like I never stop.I think whether my boyfriend thinks he does or not he would rather me now then after I have my other surgeries. I.E. hernia repair/tummy tuck and other plastics. I feel like he thinks when I lose more weight and get them done I would leave him or something. We have only been dating for 2 months but I don't have any plans on going anywhere.
Has anyone else noticed changes in the way people relate to you post-op? how did you deal with it?
Kelly
"Nobody trips over mountains. It is the small pebble that causes you to stumble. Pass all the pebbles in your path and you will find you have crossed the mountain. "
"Look at a stone cutter hammering away at his rock, perhaps a hundred times without as much as a crack showing in it. Yet at the hundred-and-first blow it will split in two, and I know it was not the last blow that did it, but all that had gone before." ~Jacob A. Riis
There is 1 friendship though, that I do believe has been strained since the weight loss. It was someone who tried to talk me out of doing it. Someone who was the girl in the group who always got hit on etc, when I never did. And now that I'm almost caught up with her, I'm getting hit on alot & she's not the one with all the attention. I've noticed that I don't get invited out as many places anymore, and I hear alot more stories about men she's been going out with etc. I just kind of laugh about it and ignore it.
~Kelly ~
SW 364/CW 164/GW 150
I noticed that with 2 of my friends I don't really hear from them that much anymore and we haven't seen each other in over 3 months. it is like they liked you better heavy because it made them feel better about themselves.
"Nobody trips over mountains. It is the small pebble that causes you to stumble. Pass all the pebbles in your path and you will find you have crossed the mountain. "
"Look at a stone cutter hammering away at his rock, perhaps a hundred times without as much as a crack showing in it. Yet at the hundred-and-first blow it will split in two, and I know it was not the last blow that did it, but all that had gone before." ~Jacob A. Riis
HW/ 302 SW/287 CW/140 GW/135
"Nobody trips over mountains. It is the small pebble that causes you to stumble. Pass all the pebbles in your path and you will find you have crossed the mountain. "
"Look at a stone cutter hammering away at his rock, perhaps a hundred times without as much as a crack showing in it. Yet at the hundred-and-first blow it will split in two, and I know it was not the last blow that did it, but all that had gone before." ~Jacob A. Riis
Lap DS 9/21/09
2-1/2
"Nobody trips over mountains. It is the small pebble that causes you to stumble. Pass all the pebbles in your path and you will find you have crossed the mountain. "
"Look at a stone cutter hammering away at his rock, perhaps a hundred times without as much as a crack showing in it. Yet at the hundred-and-first blow it will split in two, and I know it was not the last blow that did it, but all that had gone before." ~Jacob A. Riis
on 4/5/11 3:59 am
I was at the group meeting too last night! :) I really enjoyed myself. :)
"Nobody trips over mountains. It is the small pebble that causes you to stumble. Pass all the pebbles in your path and you will find you have crossed the mountain. "
"Look at a stone cutter hammering away at his rock, perhaps a hundred times without as much as a crack showing in it. Yet at the hundred-and-first blow it will split in two, and I know it was not the last blow that did it, but all that had gone before." ~Jacob A. Riis
