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Topic: Grateful Post..
Hello OH'ers..
Today I am grateful..
That I was able to help a friend out last night and in the process I ran into an old college buddy who had not seen me since the surgery.. He said he would not have recognized me had it not been for my voice.. You have to love this surgery..
For Shenandoah.. Who thought you could laugh for an hour over one word.. Love you..
That I am not a bad person.. It just takes some time to realize that..
For friends that make me laugh..
For NO speeding tickets..
For another day..
Today I am grateful..
That I was able to help a friend out last night and in the process I ran into an old college buddy who had not seen me since the surgery.. He said he would not have recognized me had it not been for my voice.. You have to love this surgery..
For Shenandoah.. Who thought you could laugh for an hour over one word.. Love you..
That I am not a bad person.. It just takes some time to realize that..
For friends that make me laugh..
For NO speeding tickets..
For another day..
Ramon Lopez
Co-Founder
http://www.rydobesity.com
Interview on www.weightlosssurgerychannel.com Please check it out.. http://www.weightlosssurgerychannel.com/programs/wls-journeys/wls-journeys-guest-ramon-lopez.html/
Video, about me, made by my best friend Yvonne.. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3gCxNTyRUo0
PEACE
464/409/200
Thanks Obesityhelp.com
Co-Founder
http://www.rydobesity.com
Interview on www.weightlosssurgerychannel.com Please check it out.. http://www.weightlosssurgerychannel.com/programs/wls-journeys/wls-journeys-guest-ramon-lopez.html/
Video, about me, made by my best friend Yvonne.. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3gCxNTyRUo0
PEACE
464/409/200
Thanks Obesityhelp.com
Topic: RE: Chronic Relapsing and Sponsors
Thanks Marie. I am learning to trust the process, and I even told my old sponsor that I did not believe that God was making a mistake by allowing thing to happen the way they are.
The 12the step is all about the idea that helping others helps us stay sober. So, when someone calls me for help, I am helped. I bless someone by seeking their help.
I love you tons, thanks for always being there for me.
Trish
The 12the step is all about the idea that helping others helps us stay sober. So, when someone calls me for help, I am helped. I bless someone by seeking their help.
I love you tons, thanks for always being there for me.
Trish
Seek always to do some good, somewhere. Every man has to seek in his own way to realize his true worth. You must give some time to your fellow man. For remember, you don't live in a world all your own. Your brothers are here too.
Albert Schweitzer
Albert Schweitzer
Topic: RE: Chronic Relapsing and Sponsors
Hi Trish!!
I'm glad you found a new sponsor so fast!! Give this time...she or he is different from your last sponsor, and will give you an additional viewpoint along with additional support. I have a good feeling about this new adventure!! :) I believe that God brings certain ppl into our lives with a purpose for us AND them. :) Don't deny each other the lesson and teachings.
Yesterday at temple my name was mentioned for "refuah shelayma" or healing of the spirit and body.. I kept refusing to ask the Rabbi to do this for me as while I might be having a rough time iwth my diabetes, there are so many who need more help than I do. My husband (the Shaman) reminded me that I'd be taking away someone's chance to learn from their actions. In the Jewish faith this is talked about too...about not denying someone the ability to do an act of kindness. It was a very powerful day for me, as the fact that whether Native American, Italian Sicilian and Jewish and whatever religious beliefs we might have, WE are all connected. Not a new concept I know...but my point which took me an hour to GET to here, is that this new sponsor will bring you new lessons, teachings, gifts, and new things to learn about your journey. Embrace every bit of it!! :)
Hugs,
Marie
I'm glad you found a new sponsor so fast!! Give this time...she or he is different from your last sponsor, and will give you an additional viewpoint along with additional support. I have a good feeling about this new adventure!! :) I believe that God brings certain ppl into our lives with a purpose for us AND them. :) Don't deny each other the lesson and teachings.
Yesterday at temple my name was mentioned for "refuah shelayma" or healing of the spirit and body.. I kept refusing to ask the Rabbi to do this for me as while I might be having a rough time iwth my diabetes, there are so many who need more help than I do. My husband (the Shaman) reminded me that I'd be taking away someone's chance to learn from their actions. In the Jewish faith this is talked about too...about not denying someone the ability to do an act of kindness. It was a very powerful day for me, as the fact that whether Native American, Italian Sicilian and Jewish and whatever religious beliefs we might have, WE are all connected. Not a new concept I know...but my point which took me an hour to GET to here, is that this new sponsor will bring you new lessons, teachings, gifts, and new things to learn about your journey. Embrace every bit of it!! :)
Hugs,
Marie
Topic: RE: How does having a severe mental illness affect surgery?
I have the same mental illnesses you have and was approved right away. From what I was told is they wanted to make sure I was compliant in taking my meds so they knew after surgery I would be compliant taking my vitamins. My psychiatrist also said the surgery would help me immensely. Good luck in your journey..
Topic: RE: New Post, 3 weeks post op RNY, Severely depressed and confused - Any advice please??
What part of NC are you moving to? We in NC have a wonderful support group that meets in the Raleigh area that you're more than welcome to join if you'd like some extra support from people who have also had WLS and know exactly what you're going through. Just let me know.
Sharon
Sharon
Topic: RE: How does having a severe mental illness affect surgery?
I too am bipolar, have PTSD, and severe anxiety attacks on a regular basis. Unfortunately, I lied to my surgeon about my mental health issues and realize now that I probably was not the best candidate for wls as it resulted in cross addiction and certainly did not bring me the joy I thought it would. While I am no longer obese, I have developed many new health problems and did not find the "joy in life" that I mistakenly thought being thin again would bring me.
That said - I think the difference for you is that you are communicating honestly w/ your psych and the surgeon. Several things to pay close attention to are keep in mind the malabsorption factor as it may impact how your medications work for you. And, keep in mind the frequency which wls patients - in particular women - tend to develop cross addictions are wls.
That said - I think the difference for you is that you are communicating honestly w/ your psych and the surgeon. Several things to pay close attention to are keep in mind the malabsorption factor as it may impact how your medications work for you. And, keep in mind the frequency which wls patients - in particular women - tend to develop cross addictions are wls.
Topic: RE: New Post, 3 weeks post op RNY, Severely depressed and confused - Any advice please??
In my opinion, you made the right choice going back near your family. This surgery is a very crazy experience. I had mine in 2003,and let me tell ya,it was rough. I was alone with a nine year old, and no help at all. My nurse actually helped me pay my rent because I got an infection in my incision and was out of work longer than expected. Some people are so wonderful.
I know it is easy to regret, but YOU have to believe you did the right thing.This will make you stronger, and more confident, but don't forget to get into counseling.YOU NEED IT ASAP!! Don't avoid it like me and wind up making a mess of your life.
Four years is a long time, but it wasn't a waste.I am sure you learned allot about yourself in that time.Just know that the best is yet to come, but you have to want it and you have to change emotionally too. Take Care.
I know it is easy to regret, but YOU have to believe you did the right thing.This will make you stronger, and more confident, but don't forget to get into counseling.YOU NEED IT ASAP!! Don't avoid it like me and wind up making a mess of your life.
Four years is a long time, but it wasn't a waste.I am sure you learned allot about yourself in that time.Just know that the best is yet to come, but you have to want it and you have to change emotionally too. Take Care.
Topic: ~SPIRITUAL NOT RELIGIOUS~ A DAY AT A TIME
06/20 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
When we take this Ninth Step, we must be willing to be absolutely honest, Obviously, though, indiscriminate "absolute honesty" would blow the roof off many a house and entirely destroy some relationships. We must hold nothing back through deceit and pride; we may need to hold something back by discretion and consideration of others. Just when and how we tell the truth -- or difference between genuine integrity and none at all. AM I GRATEFUL FOR THE PRODUCTS OF TRUTH WHICH, THROUGH THE GRACE OF GOD, I HAVE BEEN PRIVILEGED TO RECEIVE?
TODAY I PRAY
May I have the wisdom to know the fine-line difference between tact and dishonesty. In my eagerness to make restituition, may I not be the charmer, the flatterer or the crawler who insists, "You're so good, and I'm so bad." All are forms of dishonesty and hark back to the role-playing days of my active addiction. May I recognize them.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Tact is honest selectivity.
When we take this Ninth Step, we must be willing to be absolutely honest, Obviously, though, indiscriminate "absolute honesty" would blow the roof off many a house and entirely destroy some relationships. We must hold nothing back through deceit and pride; we may need to hold something back by discretion and consideration of others. Just when and how we tell the truth -- or difference between genuine integrity and none at all. AM I GRATEFUL FOR THE PRODUCTS OF TRUTH WHICH, THROUGH THE GRACE OF GOD, I HAVE BEEN PRIVILEGED TO RECEIVE?
TODAY I PRAY
May I have the wisdom to know the fine-line difference between tact and dishonesty. In my eagerness to make restituition, may I not be the charmer, the flatterer or the crawler who insists, "You're so good, and I'm so bad." All are forms of dishonesty and hark back to the role-playing days of my active addiction. May I recognize them.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Tact is honest selectivity.
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: Chronic Relapsing and Sponsors
Well, it has been a solid 18 months since my first relapse with alcohol after over six years sober. I have been in outpatient treatment for my alcoholism since October of 2008. The longest length of time I have had sober since 18 months ago was just over 3 months, and that was last year.
Most recently, I stopped drinking in January and began seriously working with a terrific sponsor, who had me doing stepwork like I had never done before. I had a relapse with painkillers in March, because I got hooked on them after some surgery. I then had another one day relapse on June 7th, two weeks ago.
Well, last Saturday, my sponsor hit me with some news I was anticipating, but praying would not happen till I was more stable in my recovery, like having completed the steps. She had put her house on the market, and she got an offer last week, and hopes to move to Florida by August. So, she asked me to find a new sponsor, as she needs to focus her energies on her move and transition to the new location. UGH!!!!! I have trouble with abandonment issues and that was what had triggered all of my drinking, especially the past year and a half.
So, God was good in that I was able to find a new sponsor right away, but her style is just so different than my previous one. Plus, I have found that my sponsors always seem put off by my training and careers.
So, I am just adjusting to my new sponsor and dealing with my emotions, again.
Just needed to share, because I am sure I am not the only person who has had weight loss surgery and has alcohol issues come up.
Most recently, I stopped drinking in January and began seriously working with a terrific sponsor, who had me doing stepwork like I had never done before. I had a relapse with painkillers in March, because I got hooked on them after some surgery. I then had another one day relapse on June 7th, two weeks ago.
Well, last Saturday, my sponsor hit me with some news I was anticipating, but praying would not happen till I was more stable in my recovery, like having completed the steps. She had put her house on the market, and she got an offer last week, and hopes to move to Florida by August. So, she asked me to find a new sponsor, as she needs to focus her energies on her move and transition to the new location. UGH!!!!! I have trouble with abandonment issues and that was what had triggered all of my drinking, especially the past year and a half.
So, God was good in that I was able to find a new sponsor right away, but her style is just so different than my previous one. Plus, I have found that my sponsors always seem put off by my training and careers.
So, I am just adjusting to my new sponsor and dealing with my emotions, again.
Just needed to share, because I am sure I am not the only person who has had weight loss surgery and has alcohol issues come up.
Seek always to do some good, somewhere. Every man has to seek in his own way to realize his true worth. You must give some time to your fellow man. For remember, you don't live in a world all your own. Your brothers are here too.
Albert Schweitzer
Albert Schweitzer
Topic: RE: How does having a severe mental illness affect surgery?
I have been in psychotherapy for almost 20 years. I began therapy to deal with my eating disorder, because I was gaining weight, and my husband was not happy with me at all. It was not my weight that was the problem in our marriage, it was my personality disorder and other issues, but I had no clue about those things. I could not deny my weight.
Well, I eventually learned of my alcoholism, and my need for medications. Initially my diagnoses were Depression, Eating Disorder NOS, and Borderline Personality Disorder. My psychiatrist only recently added Bipolar Disorder to the list.
When I sought WLS, I had my psychiatrist do the psych evaluation for it. He conferred with my psychotherapist, as they used to work together back when I first started therapy. They both have known me for almost 20 years, and have seen my struggles and successes, along with my divorce, and my completion of graduate school.
I was once told that the key thing that the surgeons are looking for is stability of your symptoms. If you are unstable, you will be unable to be compliant with the rigors of the discipline required to get through the first year of changes in diet and exercise.
My suggestion would be to get into individual psychotherapy for yourself, if you are not already. Also, examine your motivation to eat, and your self-esteem issues. These have been huge triggers for me in the past 18 months as I deal with relapses into alcohol and other behaviors.
Remember that the surgeon will be operating on your stomach, not changing the way you think about food. That must come from support groups, therapy, and other outside means.
Trish
Well, I eventually learned of my alcoholism, and my need for medications. Initially my diagnoses were Depression, Eating Disorder NOS, and Borderline Personality Disorder. My psychiatrist only recently added Bipolar Disorder to the list.
When I sought WLS, I had my psychiatrist do the psych evaluation for it. He conferred with my psychotherapist, as they used to work together back when I first started therapy. They both have known me for almost 20 years, and have seen my struggles and successes, along with my divorce, and my completion of graduate school.
I was once told that the key thing that the surgeons are looking for is stability of your symptoms. If you are unstable, you will be unable to be compliant with the rigors of the discipline required to get through the first year of changes in diet and exercise.
My suggestion would be to get into individual psychotherapy for yourself, if you are not already. Also, examine your motivation to eat, and your self-esteem issues. These have been huge triggers for me in the past 18 months as I deal with relapses into alcohol and other behaviors.
Remember that the surgeon will be operating on your stomach, not changing the way you think about food. That must come from support groups, therapy, and other outside means.
Trish
Seek always to do some good, somewhere. Every man has to seek in his own way to realize his true worth. You must give some time to your fellow man. For remember, you don't live in a world all your own. Your brothers are here too.
Albert Schweitzer
Albert Schweitzer
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