ya know even in the AA literature it says if you can find a way to drink moderately, "our hats are off to you."  So if you've been successful at that, good for you!  the name of the game is finding a solution for our problems, eh? it sounds like you've solved yours.

i went the route of abstinence and AA, and it was the right choice for me, and one i have never, ever regretted.  but dogmatism has always sent me running in the opposite direction!  and i think most people are like that!  funny how perverse human nature is - what we can't stand, we still do to others.  crazy.

Tons of questions flood my mind.  Are you on any psychiatric medications?  Have you ever had a session with a psychiatrist to discuss all of these feelings?  Have you ever been in long term psychotherapy for depression?  Being newly post-op, you are just learning to live life without the food, and make the lifestyle changes that are required for life long success.  That alone can cause feelings to come to the surface.  But, from what you are sharing, you have suffered depression for a while now, even before the surgery.

A good book to read, while pursuing psychotherapy and a medication evaluation, is called "Feeling Good" by David Burns.  I have given it to people in my family and friends who have suffered from depression.  It is extremely helpful.

God bless.
Trish

Did anyone else post op get so lost post surgery with what to do with themselves?

I have never been this depressed.  I have a therapist appointment soon, but that doesnt help me right now where I feel like my world is crashing.

My fiance of 4 years told me the other day (mind you I am three weeks post Op) that he doesnt want to be with me anymore.

So I have started trying to figure out where I am going what I am going to do.

I have friends that are moving to FL, but I will only know them and my closest family will be still 8 hours away.

I have been day dreaming about the times in my life I felt happy... which werent often... and the places I was at  when I felt this way...

But those places not really easy to get to.

And tonight - for the third time post op I have to go back to the hospital over night for testing because something is wrong with my pouch...

I feel like my world has crashed and burned and I dont know where to go or who to talk to.

I wish I could reverse this damn surgery so at least I could have my body healthy (pre surgery I had no problems except I was heavy) And then I could at least not have this bs to worry about.

My family is so far away from where I am, that I may get a call or two while im in the hospital but since my ex fiance doesnt want to be with me, he will just drive me there and dump me off.

Im so tired of it all... I swear I am.

One thing I have foundthat is a good thing is post surgery, I have learned to love who I was presurgery... I have also found that I love to swim and would love to be near the water....

I heard in FL they have their pools open much longer than they do in the north because it is hot...

But I dont know if I should go there or to NC to be closer to family.

Oh god I dont know I am so lost... and I wish I would have known how unstable my relationship with the person I am living with was before surgery instead of learning my fate when I feel so ill all the time.

Any advice is welcome.

I have thought about making a pros and cons list but they are both the same... same pros same cons.

I feel like my life is over.

Good Morning..

Today I am grateful..

For the Longhorns going to the College World Series..

That I actually saw the end of the game..

That Sean is speaking in Chicago this weekend.. I know he will do well..

That I have people in my life that care..

For another day..

Hi Leslie,

Congratulations on your sobriety AND your upcoming surgery date!! This is a great board for support!! You've come to the right place for sure!!!

Hugs,
Marie