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Topic: ~SPIRITUAL NOT RELIGIOUS~ A DAY AT A TIME
5/11 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
Now that I know I can't use bottled courage, I seek and pray for 24-hour courage to change the things I can. Obviously, this isn't the kind of courage that will make me a strong and brave person for life, able to handle any and all situations courageously. Rather, what I need is a persistent and intelligent courage, continuing each day into the next one -- but doing today only what can be done today and avoiding all fear and worry with regard to the final result. WHAT DOES COURAGE MEAN TO ME TODAY?
TODAY I PRAY
May I tackle only those things which I have a chance of changing. And change must start with me, a day at a time. May I know that acceptance often is a form of courage. I pray not for super-bravery, but just for persistance to meet what life brings to me without being overcome by it.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Courage is meeting a day at a time.
Now that I know I can't use bottled courage, I seek and pray for 24-hour courage to change the things I can. Obviously, this isn't the kind of courage that will make me a strong and brave person for life, able to handle any and all situations courageously. Rather, what I need is a persistent and intelligent courage, continuing each day into the next one -- but doing today only what can be done today and avoiding all fear and worry with regard to the final result. WHAT DOES COURAGE MEAN TO ME TODAY?
TODAY I PRAY
May I tackle only those things which I have a chance of changing. And change must start with me, a day at a time. May I know that acceptance often is a form of courage. I pray not for super-bravery, but just for persistance to meet what life brings to me without being overcome by it.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Courage is meeting a day at a time.
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: how to overcome depression?
hi trish,
thanks for taking the time to respond....i appreciate that.
thanks too for your suggestion about getting a phys/
i started going to a cognitive therapy group last week and i'm going again this week.
it's early days for me to see if it will help me to start thinking positive and get on with my life.
one thing that is bothering me is that its a weekly session and iv'e worked out that its gonna be expensive catching buses to go and come back.
so i'm planning on walking but then i sweat alot which gets on my nerves...lol its funny bcause sweating is natural but yet it gets on my nerves!
and being overweight does not make it easy.
i was thinking of walking it there and back for the sake of exercise...and maybe with time i might lose a few pounds just through sweating from the walking?
i'll let you know how i get on as time goes by.
i think you are on the road to recovery because the fact that you are going to the treatment centre means that you are facing up to your problems.
and i know from experience that they CAN BE OVERCOME.
and when you do you will find that life remains stressful and challenging but you have learned that the answer is to be found in accepting what you can't change and use practical ways to deal with challenging situations.
i used to use drugs and alcohol as a crutch just to get through the day.
i threw away the crutches and the challenges are still there.
ok i'm not tackling them at the moment because i'm not well, but i know now that drinking alcohol and using drugs wont hep me anymore.
to be frank i dont think i will ever be better...my challenge is to learn to accept my weaknesses and not let them make me decide to withdraw and hide from life.
although in a true sense i am hiding from life because its less stressful.
but i know sooner or later i'm gonna have to come out of my comfort zone and if i tremble all day then so be.
thanks for taking the time to respond....i appreciate that.
thanks too for your suggestion about getting a phys/
i started going to a cognitive therapy group last week and i'm going again this week.
it's early days for me to see if it will help me to start thinking positive and get on with my life.
one thing that is bothering me is that its a weekly session and iv'e worked out that its gonna be expensive catching buses to go and come back.
so i'm planning on walking but then i sweat alot which gets on my nerves...lol its funny bcause sweating is natural but yet it gets on my nerves!
and being overweight does not make it easy.
i was thinking of walking it there and back for the sake of exercise...and maybe with time i might lose a few pounds just through sweating from the walking?
i'll let you know how i get on as time goes by.
i think you are on the road to recovery because the fact that you are going to the treatment centre means that you are facing up to your problems.
and i know from experience that they CAN BE OVERCOME.
and when you do you will find that life remains stressful and challenging but you have learned that the answer is to be found in accepting what you can't change and use practical ways to deal with challenging situations.
i used to use drugs and alcohol as a crutch just to get through the day.
i threw away the crutches and the challenges are still there.
ok i'm not tackling them at the moment because i'm not well, but i know now that drinking alcohol and using drugs wont hep me anymore.
to be frank i dont think i will ever be better...my challenge is to learn to accept my weaknesses and not let them make me decide to withdraw and hide from life.
although in a true sense i am hiding from life because its less stressful.
but i know sooner or later i'm gonna have to come out of my comfort zone and if i tremble all day then so be.
Topic: RE: how to overcome depression?
hi there,
thanks for reading and responding to my post.
sorry i took a while to respond, i was offline over the weekend.
that xanax sounds a bit dodgy and i'm glad you stopped taking them.
over the years ive tried differnt types of medication, but i seem to stick with propananol even though i no longer feel its effects.
i just take one take a deep breath say a prayer and go out.
in the bad old days i used to overdose all the time when my stress level went up and then i would be sick for days after and i still kept doing it.
during that period i was hoping i would breath my last but now i realise i want to live....and more than anything to feel happy in myself and with life.
yesterday i went to a friends house and i got talking with someone and my nerves were all over the place...i was struggling to not twitch but i just can't control it and i was feeling really stressed and to be honest i could not wait to get outside and try to calm down but then when i went outside i felt low again.
and then later on last night i felt low again and had to try to not let myself feel really down again.
i woke up this morning feeling low.
i wanted to go collect my doctors prescription but i was panicking so much that in the end i did go...and all that anxiety just to walk into a surgery and collect a piece of paper...thats how messed up my nerves are.
thanks for reading and responding to my post.
sorry i took a while to respond, i was offline over the weekend.
that xanax sounds a bit dodgy and i'm glad you stopped taking them.
over the years ive tried differnt types of medication, but i seem to stick with propananol even though i no longer feel its effects.
i just take one take a deep breath say a prayer and go out.
in the bad old days i used to overdose all the time when my stress level went up and then i would be sick for days after and i still kept doing it.
during that period i was hoping i would breath my last but now i realise i want to live....and more than anything to feel happy in myself and with life.
yesterday i went to a friends house and i got talking with someone and my nerves were all over the place...i was struggling to not twitch but i just can't control it and i was feeling really stressed and to be honest i could not wait to get outside and try to calm down but then when i went outside i felt low again.
and then later on last night i felt low again and had to try to not let myself feel really down again.
i woke up this morning feeling low.
i wanted to go collect my doctors prescription but i was panicking so much that in the end i did go...and all that anxiety just to walk into a surgery and collect a piece of paper...thats how messed up my nerves are.
Topic: RE: Eating Disorder after RNY...
I too have been diagnosed with an eating disorder. I was actually diagnosed on Friday by my surgeon. What I have is simular to Anorexia. I am restricting what I eat so much that I have lost too much and am getting health problems and mental issues because of it. I made an appointment to see my nutritionist, whome I also saw on Friday and am starting to attend the group sessions again. I am so afraid of gaining weight an eating too much! It's so hard.
RNY surgery 05/23/07 Starting weight: 310
Right before operation: 279 Current weight: 117 Goal: 150
Right before operation: 279 Current weight: 117 Goal: 150
Topic: RE: holy...
LIZ!!!!! I'm so happy for you both!!! Children are such a wonderul giftie!! This is so cool!!! Bet you're shopping for a Steelers onesie before you know it!!! :) CONGRATULATIONS!!! I believe everything happens for a reason too..and I'm so glad you'll get to experience the joys of motherhood! You too can be parent-noid like me!! LOL...(and those spit-up epaulets are SO in vogue!! Hell...they're a badge of honor! Wear those baby fluids proudly!!)
Love,
Marie
Love,
Marie
Topic: RE: how to overcome depression?
Hi there,
Are you under the care of a psychiatrist for your medication needs? If not, I suggest you do so. Sometimes people need a combination of meds for their diagnoses. I have been on three medications for years. I take Buspar for my anxiety, Lexapro for my depression, and Risperdal for my bipolar/mood instability. I am also active in an outpatient drug/alcohol treatment program for my alcoholism, and I participate in AA.
In psychotherapy I have learned a variety of coping strategies, which when used help me immensely. Unfortunately, I undermine my recovery and fail to practice them regularly. I suggest regular psychotherapy to discuss your symptoms and explore coping skills for yourself.
Please keep posting as much as you feel a need.
Hugs,
Trish
Are you under the care of a psychiatrist for your medication needs? If not, I suggest you do so. Sometimes people need a combination of meds for their diagnoses. I have been on three medications for years. I take Buspar for my anxiety, Lexapro for my depression, and Risperdal for my bipolar/mood instability. I am also active in an outpatient drug/alcohol treatment program for my alcoholism, and I participate in AA.
In psychotherapy I have learned a variety of coping strategies, which when used help me immensely. Unfortunately, I undermine my recovery and fail to practice them regularly. I suggest regular psychotherapy to discuss your symptoms and explore coping skills for yourself.
Please keep posting as much as you feel a need.
Hugs,
Trish
Seek always to do some good, somewhere. Every man has to seek in his own way to realize his true worth. You must give some time to your fellow man. For remember, you don't live in a world all your own. Your brothers are here too.
Albert Schweitzer
Albert Schweitzer
Topic: RE: 30 day programs - How do you take missing your family?
Thank you all for your comments - I did try to see if there was an intensive out-patient program in our area, but there is not and I think reality is that I need in-patient. I need time away to reprogram my mind,etc.
Anne
Anne
Topic: RE: how to overcome depression?
Trevor:
Xanax works greats for panic/anxiety attacks. Because of it's addictive nature, I no longer take it as I have an addictive personality and will combine it w/ alcohol.
You do sound like you either have depression or more likely bi-polar. A lot of people are misdiagnosed w/ depression when in fact they have bi-polar, but because it is rapid cycling - they do not recognize the manic phases frequently.There are a lot of medications that are effective in dealing with either one.
Hang in there and get to your doctor!!!
Anne
Xanax works greats for panic/anxiety attacks. Because of it's addictive nature, I no longer take it as I have an addictive personality and will combine it w/ alcohol.
You do sound like you either have depression or more likely bi-polar. A lot of people are misdiagnosed w/ depression when in fact they have bi-polar, but because it is rapid cycling - they do not recognize the manic phases frequently.There are a lot of medications that are effective in dealing with either one.
Hang in there and get to your doctor!!!
Anne
Topic: RE: Antabuse and Sugar Alcohols
I tried Antabuse and it did not work for me - I was able to drink on it w/o any problem - the only thing that would happen is I would get a rash similar to sunburn. I did NOT get violently ill. My new doctor told me it is due to aborption reasons. I know there is a new drug out - not sure of the name of it - that might work better for a wls person.
I am giving up on the drugs and going into a 28 day program on Friday.
Anne
I am giving up on the drugs and going into a 28 day program on Friday.
Anne
Topic: RE: Eating Disorder after RNY...
I have been dealing with Binge Eating Disorder for almost twenty years, and have done psychotherapy and two outpatient treatment facilities as well. I found a lot of help at Overeaters Anonymous in the beginning. They taught me a lot of self-soothing and how to find emotional support. Being alcoholic, I tend to just attend AA to stay sober.
If you have not accessed psychotherapy, I suggest you do so, as that is a good place to start learning coping skills as well as the underlying issues that led to the eating disorder. As for not making goal, I am 50 pounds from goal, and have been since I relapsed with alcohol in December 2008.
One Day at a Time.
Trish
If you have not accessed psychotherapy, I suggest you do so, as that is a good place to start learning coping skills as well as the underlying issues that led to the eating disorder. As for not making goal, I am 50 pounds from goal, and have been since I relapsed with alcohol in December 2008.
One Day at a Time.
Trish
Seek always to do some good, somewhere. Every man has to seek in his own way to realize his true worth. You must give some time to your fellow man. For remember, you don't live in a world all your own. Your brothers are here too.
Albert Schweitzer
Albert Schweitzer
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