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REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
We're taught in The Program and the Twelve Steps that the chief activator of our defects has been self-centered fear -- mainly fear that we would lose something we already possessed or that we would fail to get something we demanded. Living on the basis of unsatisfied demands, we obviously were in a state of continual disturbance and frustration. Therefore, we are taught, no peace will be ours unless we find a means of reducing these demands. Have I become entirely ready to have God remove all my defects of character?
TODAY I PRAY
May I make no unrealistic demands on life, which because of their grandiosity, cannot be met. May I place no excessive demands on other which, when they are not fulfilled, leave me disappointed and let down.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
The set-up for a let-down.
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Second, it is important to have realistic expectations of yourself. Too often I see people put way too much pressure on themselves. That's different from taking ownership - e.g. "I know I eat emotionally", "I've been sabatoging my own process". Celebrate the 58 pounds and be proud you've gotten that far! I'd encourage you to check in with your surgeon or have another consult, to make sure the band is still doing right.
Do you think it's entirely emotional problems that are hindering your goals? Do you feel like you're keeping up on diet/exercise? Sometimes it's a vicious cycle - feel bad b/c of life situations, then slip on the diet/physical, then feel worse about slipping... Sitting back on feeling bad isn't going to break you out of that cycle. When we slip up, question "what did I learn from this? what will I do going forward?".
Thoughts create feelings. If you want to feel more hopeful & positive, be aware of the trend of your thoughts and subsitute negative or unrealistic thoughts for positive & action-oriented thoughts. I'm sure you'll hear this from your therapist, but just putting this out to you via support.
Good luck & keep your head held high!
First ultra: Stone Mill 50 miler 11/15/14 13:44:38, First Full Marathon: Marine Corps 10/27/13 4:57:11, Half Marathon PR 2:04:43 at Shamrock VA Beach Half-Marathon, 12/2/12 First Half-Marathon 2:32:47, 5K PR Run Under the Lights 5K 27:23 on 11/23/13, 10K PR 52:53 Pike's Peek 10K 4/21/13, (1st timed run) Accumen 8K 51:09 10/14/12.
~~hugsss~~
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
If I live just one day at a time, I won't so quickly entertain fears of what might happen tomorrow. As long as I'm concentrating on today's activities, there won't be room in my mind for worrying. I'll try to fill every minute of this day with something good -- see, heard, accomplished. Then, when the day is ended, I'll be able to look back on it with satisfaction, serenity and gratitude. Do I sometimes cherish bad feelings so that I can feel sorry for myself?
TODAY I PRAY
That I will get out of the self-pity act and live for today. May I notice the good things from dawn to nightfall, learn to talk about them and thank God for them. May I catch myself if I seem to be relishing my moans and complaints more often than appreciating the goodness of my life.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Today is good.
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
I have had the realize band surgery almost two years ago, needed to lose approx 115 lbs...so far have lost about 58. By this date I should have had at least 75% of my excess weight off, but due to emotional problems and LIFE, have been at a platue for over 6 months.
What I am looking for is a sounding board to vent my frustrations, disappointments and failures in life. I am having problems with work, relationships, and most of all finances. I broke down in my doctors office yesterday, and they were really great folks. They listened and got me an appointment to see a psychologist who specializes in WLS emotional problems. I wake up crying, go to bed crying, have sad thoughts during the day and start crying...I HATE FEELING THIS WAY!!
I will be seeing the psyc. this coming week. But I do need a venting formun to get stuff off my mind...seems like thoughts and feelings get stuck and can't let go!
Thank you for listening. I am sure this too shall pass like gas! LOL
Farmgirl58
Hugs,
Trish
Albert Schweitzer
REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
I can banish fear by realizing the truth. Am I afraid to be alone? This fear can be banished by the realization that I am never alone, that God is always with me wherever I am and whatever I do. Am I afraid that I won't have enough money to meet my needs? This fear can be banished by the realization that God is my inexhaustible, unfailing resource, now and always. Today I have the power to change fear into faith. CAN I SAY WITH CONFIDENCE, "I WILL TRUST, AND WILL NOT BE AFRAID.. " ?
TODAY I PRAY
That I may fear no evil, for God is with me. That I may learn to turn to my Higher Power when I am afraid. I pray diligently that my faith in God and trust in what He has in store for me is strong enough to banish the fears that undermine my courage.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Turn fear into faith.
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
