What is your family like?
I NEVER SAID I WISHED MY SON WAS NEVER BORN, I SAID IF I HAD MY LIFE TO LIVE OVER I WOULD NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER HAVE CHILDREN. I DO NOT HAVE WHAT IT TAKES TO WATCH MY SON SELF DESTRUCT ON A DAILY BASIS WITH NO FAMILY FOR SUPPORT OTHER THAN ME. MY EX HUSBAND IS A TERRIBLE PERSON, GAMBLED AWAY EVERY PENNY HE EVER MADE, I DIVORCED HIM AND HIS SECOND WIFE DID THE SAME BASED ON THE FACT THAT HE ONLY CARES ABOUT HIMSELF. NO ONE ELSE. MY SON INHERITED THAT GENE. IT KILLS ME TO WATCH HIM MAKE A MESS OF HIS LIFE, I HAVE GIVEN HIM EVERY CONCEIVABLE OPPORTUNITY THAT ANY PARENT CAN GIVE A CHILD. I HAVE SACRIFICED ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING FOR MY SON. I AM HIS SOLE SUPPORT, HE CANNOT MAKE IT ON HIS OWN AND HE LIES AND STEALS FROM ME. I CANNOT ABANDON HIM BECAUSE HE HAS NO ONE ELSE. I HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING. THE ONLY THING LEFT IS FOR ME TO DIE AND LEAVE HIM ALL I HAVE.
NOT THAT ANY OF THIS IS YOUR ******G BUSINESS.
From this post, it sure sounds like you wish your son were never born:
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"I don't think you are asking us if you should have a baby or a tummy tuck, you are asking which order to do it in. I would say have the baby and then the tummy tuck/breast lift. Personally I would never have children if I had my life to do over, I suggest to anyone that mentions having kids to get a puppy, but that is because I have a 24 year old son who will always be dependent on me and who makes me insane on a daily basis. But I am sure you need to learn that lesson for yourself. No one could of talked me out of it when I was 24 and got pregnant either. Although I wish someone did."
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Posting stuff like that on an open forum on the internet kinda makes it my business and leaves it open to interpretation. This was just my interpretation of your post. :)
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on 4/15/14 2:41 am
I think a lot of parents are in this position of saying that hindsight would have really been helpful. It's a fact that few of us are fully prepared for what our kids can throw at us. And honestly I can see parents thinking .. If I had this to do over again I might have remained childless.
At the age of 24, he is well past cutting the cord and no feelings of guilt for pushing a child from the protection of home. I can only imagine that you almost feel guilty for having a child and then watching his genes come into play and feeling like it's out of your ability to help. But you can help him still by forcing him to stand on his own two feet.. He may develop a better appreciation of you and himself.
DH and I are celebrating our eight year anniversary this month. He's my second one and WAY better than the first! Definitely a keeper, I won't be throwing this one back. We do not have kids and do not plan to in the future. We have two Italian Greyhounds and two cats.
My parents are still together, I have three younger sisters, all married with 1-4 kids. We are a pretty close family. DH's parents are divorced and he has an older brother and a younger sister. We don't see them as much as we'd like.
Although I have many extended family members, most of my life is now shared with my two cats and my boyfriend (he does not live with me).
I just found out yesterday that my male cat has a mass inside, has internal bleeding and is very unlikely to be strong enough to survive surgery to explore it. I am just taking care of him as best I can while I wait for nature to take its course. He has been with me for about eight years and I will really miss him.
I will still have the female and do not want to go through taking in another pet. They give a lot of love, and also take a lot of time and money to properly care for them.
Real life begins where your comfort zone ends
