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When it comes to specific plans, ask your doc/nut is the best advice. Since all plans are different and another surgeon's plan might damage you. Especially early out.
I found none of the advice you got in your previous post to be rude. I'm sorry it wasn't the advice you wanted.
VSG with Dr. Salameh - 3/13/2014
Diagnosed with Binge Eating Disorder and started Vyvanse - 7/22/2016
Reconstructive Surgeries with Dr. Michaels - 6/5/2017 (LBL & brachioplasty), 8/14/2017 (UBL & mastopexy), 11/6/2017 (medial leg lift)
Age 42 Height 5'4" HW 319 (1/3/2014) SW 293 (3/13/2014) CW 149 (7/16/2017)
Next Goal 145 - normal BMI | Total Weight Lost 170
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Hi there, I'm still pre-op and I have found this site very helpful! I imagine it will be even more helpful post op! I have had good respopnses to the few posts I've made. I do agree that I have seen some snarky responses. Take it with a grain a salt. It takes all kinds and sometimes you're going to hear things or responses you don't want to hear. Remember its an open forum! I hope you keep reading and posting because I have learned a lot the short time I have been a memeber on here!
"That's my opinion n whoever don't like it it's to bad." Well guess what, that is their opinion when they share it. See how that works in this land of freedom. Also what is considered nice can be very subjective. A million people may consider it nice but one person ie maybe you may consider it mean. So should we all run it by you before we post it? This is a public forum and has ran the same way since its inception. Since you had nothing nice to say why did you post this?
Sometimes the best answer is to ask your doctor. We don't know what your doctor's recommendations are for you. He is the best person to ask about some things.
Kelly
Please note: I AM NOT A DOCTOR. If you want medical advice, talk to your doctor. Whatever I post, there is probably some surgeon or other health care provider somewhere that disagrees with me. If you want to know what your surgeon thinks, then ask him or her. Check out my blog.
There are good/bad, polite/rude people everywhere. There are also patient/impatient people. I agree there is no need for aggression and some posts go way beyond pleasant. But the trouble is that patience can wear thin and, on a bad day, people who have been posting here for years get exasperated! OK, best not to! But it happens.
the ask your doctor reply is not a brush-off; it is almost always to tell people that long-term wls people recognise that some problems should not be dealt with by listening to the opinion of strangers online.
And the written word does not convey emotion. Things can appear much harsher than the writer intended.
thus is a public forum; you will get answers of all types. Read what you choose! But remember that a post which may seem harsh might, unknown to you, be that way because the person asking the question has asked it time and time again, ignored the answers, had problems, come back to ask again. Many people take the time and trouble to look at the history of a questioner before replying and so take that into account in a way which might make the immediate reply seem harsh.
And people do get fed up with pleas to be "nice" as most prefer honesty to niceness!
Highest 290, Banded - 248 Lowest 139 (too thin!). Comfort zone 155-165.
Happily banded since May 2006. Regain of 28lbs 2013-14. ALL GONE!
But some has returned! Up to 175, argh! Off we go again,
As I said previously I had good n bad experience. And if it doesn't apply let it fly. Obviously I will not ask a medical question of anyone here I am grown enough to know that. I wasn't just talking about my posts I've read post of other ppl asking questions n they get that response I see all the time. Once again if u don't have anything to say don't say nothing at all. That's my opinion n whoever don't like it it's to bad. I'm sure we come to this site for support n to learn about others experiences. I'm not here to judge no one.
Look, I'm sorry if you've had bad experiences here when you ask quesions. I try to be supportive and so do most of us who've been here a while.
Generally, if we (some of the longer term postops) say to ask your doc, it's because your question is raising alarm bells for us and we're concerned that you may need medical advice. None of us are doctors - that I know of anyway - and we have seen and heard enough here to know that only your doc or surgeon is qualified to give you a correct answer.
We don't want you taking medical advice from a bunch of strangers on an internet group and then having negative medical consequences. And believe me, it has happened.
Take care. I hope you hang around long enough to give OH a shot. It's a great place to land regardless of where you're at on your journey.
The OH community has so many members that have been around for quite some time. You've provided LOTS of information, education and support, and make the community what it is.
Please introduce yourself and update on how you're doing along with anything you'd like to share.
