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She was accused of making up her issues. Please explain how you would feel if after suffering complications and venting on your support board, you were met with that attitude?
I like the way people think that just because they have time on the board it gives them a pass to act like an asshole. And by like I mean it's garbage. If you can't get your **** together enough to actually behave like a human being anymore because you've become so desensitized to this process and exactly what it's like in the beginning then it's time for you to find a NEW HOBBY for the love of everything good in the world. Seriously. Move on with your life. You're not needed here anymore.
HW: 318 Date of Surgery: 3/10/14 SW: 270 CW: 154
There's a wealth of literature examining "peer support" programs for patients with chronic illness such as renal failure, heart issues, etc. I'm at work and can't pull up a full list of citations at the moment, but IIRC the most successful relationships (i.e. those with the highest satisfaction ratings in reported outcomes for the mentee at subsequent medical follow-up visits) are those in which the mentor is most open in regards to their experiences, and the patient is most willing to change his/her habits and attitudes based on the mentor's advice.
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on 5/22/14 7:44 am - Canada
And sometimes people just want to vent and state that and are inundated with unwanted advice ;)
OK Kevin....I get the point you are trying to make....but you have totally missed what I have tried to indicate to the OP......
I am not one who is looking for "scientific" studies....because I also believe there is a study pro and con to just about everything...
But this is my truth.....those who do not accept anything contrary to their opinions/concerns....are usually the ones who are back on here in a few years complaining that they did not make goal.....or have gained most of their weight back....its very sad to see......
Not everyone writes as well as they could.....doesn't mean their advice isn't sound......I have no bone to pick with this particular OP.........however I do hate this type of post....telling people what they can or cant say on a forum
on 5/22/14 7:43 am - Canada
I agree completely. My issue is not with differing opinions it is with the way they are stated.
Also, again, we're not talking about constructive criticism. They accused her of making up all of her issues for attention.
HW: 318 Date of Surgery: 3/10/14 SW: 270 CW: 154
Well I totally stand by the fact that smoked salmon is the greatest food on this great earth ever produced. But it doesn't mean it's true.
HW: 318 Date of Surgery: 3/10/14 SW: 270 CW: 154
I should have indicated that my comment was totally anecdotal.......but I stand by it
I read your post re your ER visit that has since been removed......and I am going to assume the responses from that post are what drove you to this current post...
For what its worth....(and likely not worth much to you)....but the people who write the type of post you have just written.....are invariably the ones who have real difficulties getting to or maintaining goal a few years out...I have seen this time and again.....and it is because they do not handle criticism....however delicate it may be delivered
Most responders worth their salt tell you the real deal....don't hand hold...and really do try to indicate successful ways in a manner that will be well received.....
I suspect you really don't want to hear this...because you really don't want to hear that you did anything wrong ......I am just very thankful I pulled my horns in and listened to OH'ers who were many years out when I began......their advice was invaluable in the long run
For what its worth....(and likely not worth much to you)....but the people who write the type of post you have just written.....are invariably the ones who have real difficulties getting to or maintaining goal a few years out...I have seen this time and again.....and it is because they do not handle criticism....however delicate it may be delivered
Oh good grief lol You guys are always crying for scientific support so where's the scientifically PROVEN statistics for that little gem of a statement there?
HW: 318 Date of Surgery: 3/10/14 SW: 270 CW: 154
