Rough Day Rant

It's my first rough day...and it's only 11 am.  It's the first day I've felt depressed, fed up with the pain. nauseated a bit, weepy,and very tired.

I'm 20 days post-op.  I still have that horrible pain in the left side and keeps me from wanting to move at all. But I know I have to so it will go away.  I sleep well at night but I can't sleep in as I get uncomfortable always sleeping on my back...way to painful in the side to try and sleep on my side.

I don't seem to have alot of support at home I thought I would, but my husband spends 95% of his time on the gaming system in the basement so if I need any help I have to yell for him and then wait for him to have a 'pause' in the game. He has been cooking for the kids (if I remind him) and then he literally just cooks it, leaves it all on the counter for everyone to just help themselves and goes back downstairs to his game...leaving the mess. We don't see him again until he goes to bed at about 9 pm. If I give him a list of things I need done, he does it, for example  I needed the upstairs vaccumed because I had friends coming over last night. He did this but then bam! he's gone back in the basement again and I had to call him at 6 pm to remind him to bbq dinner for the kids

. My kids are a huge help but now that my son is in college and working he isn't home hardly at all. His house chore was the kitchen but I can't expect him to be in school at 8 am and not get home until after 9 pm from work and leave the messy kitchen waiting for him.  So I usually have to clean up.  When he is home he is amazing. My daughter is great. If I need anything she is there, she is 14.  She is even ordering me around to walk. lol Love her!

Today I'm finding it hard (first time) to want to do anything but sleep.  I got a premier protein shake in for breakfast but I am finding it difficult to get more than 65 grams of protein a day, and my average calorie intake runs about 750 at the most.  I get my vitsand water in though.  I'm going to have a porkchop for lunch with some apple sauce and then I think I will nap...hopefully this blah feeling will pass after a good nap.

Thanks for listening. I love this forum!

I'm at a loss as to what to say about your husband who plays video games addictively.

What I will say to you, however, is listen to your body.  If you're tired out, take a freakin' break. I didn't.  And I now regret that, many years later. Feet up, trashy TV on.  Go you. xo

I would toss the gaming system out. How old is your husband ? Twelve ?

*snicker*

Well.  Thank you for saying what I didn't.

No problem. Just finished a 10k run, so no energy or patience for the obvious.

Made me snicker - though that does come rather easily for me.  I'm no judge, however.  People live lives and I'm certainly not one to question.  But anytime I hear of "gaming" - well, my "*coughnormalcough* side kicks in. 

65 grams of protein is enough and 750 calories a day more than I'd hoped for in first 20 days. I think you're doing OK.

I found my tiredness improved when I upped the iron in my multivitamin.

But sleep is good. The first month I went to bed every night at 7 pm.

Don't push yourself, just go to bed and yell down at him that he has to do the dishes and you're going to bed.

Try sleeping with a body pillow cushioning your left side - it may help you to get comfortable enough at night to get a good nights sleep. 

20 days is still early out - sounds like you are doing well.  As the others have said just listen to your body, rest and recover.

 Pork chop after 20 days?

I'm amazed you're eating these things at 20 days! Guelph has had me on nothing but broth and jello for the first 14 days. I'm only supposed to have soft foods like oatmeal, milk, and pudding for the next 14. 

What kind of surgery did you have?

I had that pain, I found massaging it made it calm down, and eventually made it stop. I think it was just stitches trying to work themselves out. I know they're supposed to dissolve but I din't really believe that they do all that well in my body. The massaging made the pain better, which I didn't think it would. It also made it easier to move more. I pushed down hard when I massaged, because I was a wee bit worried that maybe I was getting a cyst. (I get them so it seemed a natural worry to me.) The massaging helped me to know that it wasn't a cyst as they don't feel better with pressure and nothing would have made it easier to move.

As for the tiredness, I know it comes and goes. I was all alone healing for 3 weeks, so I spent a little more time in bed or sitting around then probably recommended - but once I got going I found it easy to not stop. I had the energy to keep going. I was a see bit depressed because I was all alone and worried what would happen if something went wrong. In your case I don't know what to say. Get the sleep you need and maybe go downstairs and play a game with the hubby - just to do something different?

Heal well.