Question re. our forum

Welcome! 

I find the information on this forum to be amazing.  I love that I can ask a random question (shoe size, carbs, etc) and get some great responses. 

I hate when people ask questions that they should know from the documentation that is given at their appointment but I know not everyone reads whats given to them and not every centre gives out the same info.

I do not post anything emotional anymore because every time I would post something in the hopes of getting support there was at least one person who basically would diminish my concerns (not the same person each time).

I think that this weight loss journey is both an emotional struggle as well as a struggle to keep up with the information.

I joined this site to hopefully get some of the emotional support that does not exist in my real life because everyone I am close with has not had the surgery and therefore really doesn't understand.

I don't post alot because right now I am dealing with alot of emotional issues with WLS and don't really want to read comments such as "he was just joking.. he didnt' mean it... only 89 pounds? I've only lost 60.. suck it up.. etc."

You're right, this is a very emotional journey and different in some ways for all of us.  All I can offer is my support and empathy if you post - hopefully someday you'll feel safe enough to do so again.

Sometimes, when people try to "diminish" your concerns, i think its coming from a "helping" place. Maybe. I could be wrong. The person who said "only 89lbs", may have meant to say that your weight loss is pretty awesome, and you should try not to compare yourself to others (that's what i would have meant anyway).

Sometimes, sending a private message to someone you feel comfortable with, about your emotional stuff, might be better, if you feel you're not getting the support in the forum.

Karen, I have always felt nothing more than welcome on this board. I always feel bad that I don't have enough time to answer everyone's posts and so sometimes I tend to stay away as I feel like if I answer or comment on one, I should do it for others. I so don't want anyone to think I don't read all the posts or appreciate it, just life is now sooooooo busy, in a good way that time is of the essence.

But I have NEVER felt uncomfortable...not once!  And the vets on here have been nothing more than helpful.

April, I feel "badly" when I don't have time to answer everyone's posts too. lol  We're just "givers", obviously. ha

I read here everyday ****il last week when my netbook got toasted when my dog hip checked my coffee table and dumped my water glass on my netbook)
I find it outside my comfort zone to post, fear of lash back etc. so I generally comment only on positive things like, check out my progress pics, got my date etc...

Stoopid dog!  LOL  See?  I would have found that story to be a funny post! 

Y'all are my saving graces!

Helpful,informative,friendly and wickedly funny!

'nough said!

This forum is fabulous...but because I am pre-op I don't have the questions, yet!!!  But I know once I have surgery I will be on here constantly (like I'm not now) talking and asking questions.  People on this site are such great supports...can't wait to get to know you all.

One thing I can share is that I am finding that I am a little overwhelmed by the whole process and the upcoming stage of optifast and then surgery.  But I find coming on here and reading your posts are helping me stay grounded.  Thanks for that!