so embarrassed... broke my brand new bed and apparently the couch

Been there! We moved into this house a couple years ago - bought a new couch for the basement rec room - first day home I broke where  I sat. I was crying. We fixed it but still. We've broken beds too. I hope things remedy fast and you have a healthy transition after surgery. I have my surgery this Friday. I can't wait to be far far from the weight restrictions on anything. 

I'm so sorry. My "spot" on the couch is sunken and broken looking but luckily my husband hasn't said a word it would break my heart if he did. One day you will look back at this time as a distant and yucky memory. You definitely need to tell your husband how hurtful his comments are and then just hold your head high knowing that you are about to give yourself the gift of living by having this surgery. Chin up

Your husbands comment upset me that he would be so insensitive. If it is a new bed there is a chance it was not put together properly. I doubt your weight would have broke a new bed. they are made strong. Good luck.

I'm sorry that he said those things to you - especially in anger. I cannot imagine how much that must have hurt your feelings. :( (((((BIG HUGS))))) to you. 

Please know that it's okay to stand up for yourself and tell him how that made you feel. I cannot imagine my husband saying anything like that - I'm sure it would absolutely break my heart. It's a delicate subject, our weight. It's certainly not something that should be used like that. :(

Is your brand new bed still under warranty?   Can it be returned or exchanged?

Sadly, it doesn't sound as though your husband can be exchanged because of his defective behaviour.   So unfair and so unkind.

*hug*

Marilyn (aka mmm)

((((Hug))) Sorry you had to experience that. Not the bed falling (sometimes it happens and it has happened to me as well)  but the insensitivity that came from your husband. I would suggest you speak with your husband and express to him how he made you feel. Sometimes we say things without thinking.

I've broken a bed too.  Too bad, so sad.  Got a new one that' s much better. 

I've found that some people (mostly men, some women, without any offence intended to present company) need to be told very bluntly that their words/behaviour/tone are not acceptable.   Remember, you don't sleep in that bed alone.

My husband (who is not overweight but is 6'3 and about 260) and I had to put a wooden box (built specially for that purpose to hold our King bed together and keep it from collapsing. You aren't alone. Tell your husband he is an asshat, and that maybe he should find another, safer, place to sleep - you never know when you might roll over in the night and smother him..

I am constantly bending those ridiculous plastic step stools and lawn chairs. I SOOOO can't wait to select without having to thinkl about whether or not it can hold me.

Hang in there.

If your bed is new, it could very well be that it was not put together properly and had nothing to do with weight.

I have a king size mattress.  We could not fit a king size bed spring up the stairs so the mattress was supported on two twin size box springs.   The middle bar on the bed frame was very flimsy with a very thin cheap metal leg.  I can't count how many times the bed would collapse in the middle. Then it was nightly exercise of lifting the mattress up and repositioning the two twin box springs.

Eventually I go so fed up of not knowing when the bed would fall in the middle, that I bought 5 concrete cinder blocks to put under the bed frame.  They sit there to this day. and are hidden under a bed skirt.  I have been thinking of removing them after I lose 100 pounds but then think maybe it's just the crappy cheaply made bed frame.

I want to start off by thanking everyone for your replies. I really felt better reading that this is not just an issue for me and some people have had similar situations.

As far as the bed. He says it is fixed and he put the weak side on his side now. I do not have warrenty on the bed, we got it at an auction for a great price. Maybe a little too great lol

I did talk to my husband and he says he really did not mean it to be about my weight (which I do not believe but I am not going to press the issue more) my mom talked to him as well and she said he is worried about me having the surgery as well that I will just pack up and leave him once I am no longer obese.

Anyway, it isn't alright what he said. Nor will I put up with it again. I was in shock that is for sure. I swear men have no clue sometimes. I can't wait to start opti