WOW Moment--These hot buns fit in my hand

kat2000
on 6/9/09 12:52 pm - Kokomo, IN
Good evening! I posted a couple new pictures in my profile.   I'm so excited because I am over 50 and these leather pants I got back in 2002 after I lost 225# still fit me today......7 years later!!!  It is so incredible to realize that I have maintained my weight loss for 7 years.

I love life over 50 years old.  I feel like One Hot Mama over 50!!  

I must confess that I know now how it feels to lay on the bed and wiggle into a pair of pants that feel like they are painted on you.    Leather doesn't stretch and its unforgiving. 

I actually think they fit better now than back in '02.  I look like I had saddle bags back then.  It's hard to break that habit of NOT buying clothes that are a little too big but thinking that they fit and look just fine.  

This is the first time in my life I ever owned any leather clothes.  I hate it when I am told that I should dress "More Age Appropriate!"  I hate to look matronally but I don't think I dress like a ho either.  I'd like some feedback on this.  I like to show some skin but don't want to send the wrong message to guys.  I'm single like many of you on here. 

Take care.  
 

Kat  
HW 350# /SW 325# / Maintaining & At Goal
 
11 Yrs & Counting
Open RNY & band, 100 cm bypassed, proximal, transected  
12/28/01 Abdominoplasty & Liposuction
08/15/02 Brachioplasty, Mastopexy, & Mammoplasty

1 step @ a time, 1 goal @ a time, 1 choice @ a time, 1 change @ a time 

pineview01
on 6/9/09 2:27 pm - Davison, MI
I hate being told I have to do "whatever' my age.  My youngest DD lets me know I need to darken my hair.  What she doesn't realize, I'm having my hair done the same color as is was before I had her.  AND I LIKE IT!

BAND REMOVED 9-4-12-fought insurance to get sleeve and won! Sleeved 1/22/13! Five years out and trying to get that last 15 pounds back off.

MillieJ
on 6/9/09 4:05 pm
 "Age Appropriate" ????  good grief.... when you were younger and 225# heavier ...  age appropriate was not even a consideration, neither was looking/feeling sexy or even "feminine".  Wear your leathers til the day you die..... if we can wear "purple" and a red hat why can't you wear leather with a helmet?  You wear what you feel comfortable in.... look like a "ho" not even....

You are one "Hot Moma" and you should be proud of what you have accomplished and who you are.  Keep on going.... 

Millie
annette R.
on 6/9/09 7:26 pm - ithaca, NY
Kathy,

Keep wearing your leather. It looks perfect. Congratulations and thank you for sharing your success.

Kisses
Annette
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Ladys_mom
on 6/9/09 11:43 pm - Muscatine, IA
You are an inspiration!  Congratulations on the great job you are doing.  I will be two years out on July 2nd and it is sooooo good to see profiles like yours.  It gives me the inspiration that I can keep this weight off too!  Thanks for the motivation!  Keep up the great job!
Randa
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Jani
on 6/10/09 2:10 am - Interlochen, MI
Who is it that is telling you to dress more age appropriately?  Someone bigger?  A little jealousy maybe?
I say, you go girl, or woman or whatever.  Dress so you feel good.
i can't wait to do that.  Only 61 more days until my surgery:)

Jan

It is what it is.
If He brings you to it, He'll bring you through it...






LinR
on 6/10/09 2:26 am
I think you look great in those leather pants.  It is so good to hear that you have maintained your weight loss.  My fear of failure was great before surgery.  One of my previous co-workers started gaining her weight back 18mos after surgery and is back to or maybe even heavier that her pre-surgery date.  That really scares me and keeps me motivated to "follow the rules".
      
kat2000
on 6/10/09 12:43 pm - Kokomo, IN
Thanks so much for all your responses.  I attempted to post a reply earlier today and after I did a bit of ranting and raving about where my feelings are coming from on this issue, then my ISP server went down and I lost everything I typed in.  So I'll try to start over.  I seem to have a mental block now.

This hasn't been a good day.  I'm trying to get ready to go to the Chicago Event and everything is going awire! 

Millie, your  responses to my post really made me crack up!  You're so right, if red hatters can wear their purple and red, I guess I should be less inhibited.  I envy others that can carry on like a bunch of kids and act totally goofy.  Red hatters became popular because they stepped outside of the box.  They do it because its fun and not against the law.  I have friends that are in it.  But if they can act and dress "not age appropriate"  so can I. 

To answer another post, the people that are saying these things to me are mostly family but not all.  I just spent 5 weeks with all of them cause my dad had some serious surgery.  So I went home to help him and mom out while he recovers.  There were several remarks made about me not dressing age appropriate.  They've also said that I'm just trying to get attention and show off!  That is a bunch of BS!  Also that I look aneroxic and unhealthy when my older son got married.  It is the picture of me in my profile with the long black dress on sitting on my couch with my legs crossed. I've had nothing but positive & encouraging responses from my bari friends about this picture.  But I get negativity from them. I lost 225#, my son is getting married and I'm so proud to be his mom and walking down the aisle with him.  What's wrong with looking feminine & sexy just because I am 56 yrs. young?

Most all of these people that say and do these negative things are overweight and diabetic.  They eat everything that doesn't eat them first.  But they criticize me because I now leave food on my plate and waste it.  What gives with that!! Before I was criticized because I took seconds and ate too much. 

I didn't want to dress matronlly for my sons wedding with jackets that go down to my knee's, long sleeves, and baggy jackets that cover up my waistline....which I never had a waist before.   When I saw my EX there, the look on his face was priceless.  He thought I was a failure in everything I did. 

My SIL now weighes the same as I did in that dress and she is my height.  No one in the family gives her a hard time about it and says she looks sick or aneroxic.  But she's never had a weight problem so they're use to seeing her thin.  They are use to seeing me fat!!!  They want me to "ACT" like I did when I was fat.

When I am bubbling over with happiness about doing something really fun that I've never done before in my whole life like four wheeling, tobbaggoning, racing a corvette, and going to concerts and having a blast... I get these weird looks from them and sarcastic remarks.  I am just looking for attention, showing off, AND trying to get more attention than my "baby" brother gets. Wah Wah Wah 

They are subconsciously sabatoging me.  I think they would love for me to fail at this and they are just waiting for me to crash and burn.  But I'm not going to fail.  It makes me even more determined to prove them wrong.

I've been emotionally and verbally attacked for much of my life by people.   The most important people in my life were not there for me.  They didn't support & encourage me. So I turned to food for comfort & it became my best friend.   It brought me comfort when they didn't.  That is how I ended up weighing 350#.  OMG, I needed to just say that!  You guys, my bari sister & brothers are my best friends.  And I don't want food to ever be my best friend again or I'll be back where I started.   

I've always tried so hard to please them and "seek" their approval of me.  But I always fall short. I cared too much about what they "felt" was right for me.  I'm tired of trying to feel "VALIDATED" by them anymore but that doesn't mean I don't love them. I just need to establish better boundaries.  They are a very negative influence on me. 

When I decided to have WLS, I didn't even tell any of them because I didn't want any BS about what I was going to do. Negative thinkers hate to be around happy people that think positive. They would have set me up for failure from the get go.   For the first time in my life, I stepped up for MYself and took charge of MY life.  I did what was best for me to become a healthy & happy person.  I bit the bullet and put my big girl panties on.  Now I've traded them in for Victoria Secret bikini's.  Why should I be ashamed of that?  OMG, how can I dare to buy sexy things in there AT MY AGE!!

I'm sorry to rant and rave but I don't dress like a ho.  If you guys think my pictures are inappropriate in any way, please be honest with me and tell me!!  I really don't want to be making a fool of myself in public.  But I've worked really hard to get where I am today.  This is an accomplishment....not a competition.  

I use to look like a big huge boulder that was plain, ugly, and gross.. LOL  But I've spent 9 years chipping away pebble by pebble &worked very hard to slowly chisel small pieces away to get to the core of that boulder.  I chiseled away layer by layer until I  found Black Hills Gold inside that boulder. You've all heard that we should climb our rainbow to the pot of gold on the other side.  But the pot of gold is "within" us.  I've spent lots of blood, sweat, & tears to get to this point.  Now they want to steal my gold from me. They didn't help me work for it so YES I am selfish.  I will only share it with my bari sisters and brothers because you are the one's that have always been there for me and love me unconditionally. 

Thanks for letting me vent and for always being here for me. I'm really glad I found this OFF.  You all understand the issues we go through over 50. 

hugs,
Kat



Kat  
HW 350# /SW 325# / Maintaining & At Goal
 
11 Yrs & Counting
Open RNY & band, 100 cm bypassed, proximal, transected  
12/28/01 Abdominoplasty & Liposuction
08/15/02 Brachioplasty, Mastopexy, & Mammoplasty

1 step @ a time, 1 goal @ a time, 1 choice @ a time, 1 change @ a time 

carlak
on 6/11/09 3:06 am - Bradenton, FL
Hi kat,
Look for me at the clothing exchange table. ill be working there from 10am till when ever. I am workingwith the Illinois group.
Carla klein
I would love to meet you.
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kat2000
on 6/11/09 3:30 am - Kokomo, IN
That's so cool Carla.  I will definately come looking for ya!!!!  I'm wearing my leather pants to the party Saturday night!  Look for me, K?

I'll chat with the rest of you when I get back.  Gotta run now.  Friends coming soon to get ready to go to Chicago.  Slumber party time. 

Have a safe week-end. 
Kat

Kat  
HW 350# /SW 325# / Maintaining & At Goal
 
11 Yrs & Counting
Open RNY & band, 100 cm bypassed, proximal, transected  
12/28/01 Abdominoplasty & Liposuction
08/15/02 Brachioplasty, Mastopexy, & Mammoplasty

1 step @ a time, 1 goal @ a time, 1 choice @ a time, 1 change @ a time 

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