I will die sooner than later if I do not loose weight!!!!

 To Whom.....

Okay....I weigh more now than I have ever weighed.  I simply have got to do something.

I am 63 years old, I have diabetes 2, I have fibromyalgia (supposedly), I ache, I am weak,

I cannot bend and sit on floor.

My clothes don't fit.......etc. etc.I feel ugly and tired and sore......

I have a constant pain on my right side just under my rib cage.

I have learned that I do not tolerate milk and cheese - I get gassy and diarrhea if I eat too much..I love ice cream

I have chronic indigestion....find that reducing coffee (which I love) has reduced that problem.

I still have what seems like hot flashes...but I have had a hysterectomy when I was about 45.

I am VERY depressed but I feel that I might be able to diet, although I simply do not want to. I simply have to do something!   I have no energy left and no hope and I feel that I will only fail yet and again.

I know that this is all so bad for me...220 pounds for a 5'3" old lady will kill me sooner than later, Or I will have one of the many ailments caused by being fat....like diabetes 2 which I supposedly control with diet...but I know that won't last.

I do not know what to do.

I am thinking of surgery, and yet I still feel that I will gain all the weight back.

I need something that will give me results and help me to feel better.

I intellectually know that a great weight loss would significantly change my life for the better and that all this depression would vanish....but....I am so weak and scared to try it and fail again!.

What do I do?

Is there a diet which will initially show fast results in hopes that it will inspire me to keep going?

Please help..I am at my wits end!

 

 Hang in there.  There is hope ! !   Most of us have been there or are there.  Your symptoms are not any different than most of us here.  

I too did not want surgery.  I felt I could lose weight and all would be right with the world.  Nope, didn't happen.  We need more than a "diet".  We need help controlling our eating.  I have to admit food is an addiction for me.  Even now after surgery I struggle with food.  Emotions and food go hand in hand...... 

Surgery is a tool.  It helps us with our health problems.  It is not a cure all, it is a tool.  Look into the surgery and see what your options are.  I feel so much better since surgery. I am not problem free but I can handle my food intake much better now.

We on this forum will help you as much as we can.  Give you promises... No... but give you hope... yes.  You will find support here and acceptance.


Welcome to our group

Millie

 Thanks Millie.
I looked into WLS actually.  Because I am Canadian, I went to OHIP for funding.  I was refused as my BMI was too low, and because they ended the out of country assistance.

So I am dooped I guess. There are no surgeons in Canada that I can find so far.

Johanna

Johanna,

I know 2 Canadians, Krista & Annie, who I believe had their WLS in Canada.  Maybe they could give you some information about Canadian surgeons.  Here's a link to their profiles so you can send them a message.
http://www.obesityhelp.com/member/kristac/
http://www.obesityhelp.com/member/annieshope/#friends_main:4

Jean

I am 58,I always had great results with diets,then I gained that back and more, It took me a long time to accept I could not do it with surgery,
The flashes I was having were sugar spikes caused by diabetis,which 2 doctors never told me I had.
It is clear that you do not plan to have any sort of surgery,or I am mis-reading you. Self will was not enough for me. I wish you the best of luck and please keep us posted.

Sounds very familiar. Only you can make the decision and take the next step. I have no regrets other than not doing it sooner. Best wishes!

Johanna...first-welcome a-board

your "symptoms" sound so much like so many of ours..millie is right in telling you that the surgey(of any kind) will not FIX everything that ails you--most folks get off diabetes meds and things go smoothly and we are able to get up and down to the floor etc--we ususally get energies that we once only dreamed of! depression, unfortuantley , can still rear it's ugly head no matter what...

with your height, weight and co morbidiites i am surprised about the bmi statement...i don't have answers if you can't go out of country--tho--there are folks who have done self pay (not that we have oodles of money stashed around the house for this but ) so it mIGHT ve a consideration for you....ok i just re-read about your height and weight and i do believe the bmi thing since me at 233# pre wls and at 5'1" was very close to not being "fat enough" --i was so "stuffed" at that weight that i couldn't wipe my bottom well --my arms weren't long enuff!!!!

do you have sleep apnea???

i'm sorry that i don't have suggestions for you but do NOT give up hope and -well- maybe you could try some south beach diet type eating  to lose some of the weight--

proteins and good carbs (veggies and some fruits) --cut out all junk foods and pop(soda)--

try journalling everything you eat to see what could be cut out -many times we don't realize just what we are eating that we shouldn't!

there is the 5 day pouch test  which is designed for post wls ppl but would help to get bad carbs --whites sugars and flours and rice and potatoes and breads and etc--out of your system--
http://www.5daypouchtest.com/plan/theplan.html

the link will take you to a page wher you need to scroll down to see the diet--
it's rather drastic for someone who has not had surgery but it should help to reduce some of the carb bloat and then would make going onto south beach or atkins type food plan better...

i am NOT a doctor nor do i ever intend to play one on tv so use caution....


do you walk or get any exercise???

keep hydrated -water crystal lite decaf teas and decaf coffee...

if you have milk intolerance you can take lactaid if you really love the dairy--but i would consider giving up ice cream for now-or buy sugar free...

a few folks have been able to lose large amounts of weight without surgery --maybe they'll chime in with some help....

stick around -talk to us...DON'T GIVE UP!!!!!

Wow, BTDT.

I think we all lost/gained for years.  I had no co-morbidities and my insurance wouldn't pay for my WLS.  My daughter paid for me to be banded by Dr. Ortiz in Tijuana, MX.  The best thing I EVER did.

I was 59, 5'3" tall and 267 pounds.  The band is a tool and you have to work with it.  BUT, now my tastes have changed completely.  I no longer even care about the junk I used to eat (cheeseburgers, fries, etc).  I STILL have ice cream occassionally, or cookies, or whatever.  But now I am HAPPY with a small amount.  After almost 2 years I am still losing slowly.

If you came here looking for a diet that will help you lose fast and KEEP IT OFF, I'd like to hear the testimonials.  I turned to WLS cause nothing else worked.

Good luck.  I know your frustration and I pray you find a solution!

WELCOME!!!!!

i ditto what the others have told you....don't give up!!

back in the early part of 2006 i went to my pcp and he told me with my weight going up all the time that if i didn't do something i would be dead in a few short years!!! i was 5'6" and 334 lbs. that was all i needed to hear!!! i started looking on the pc at obesityhelp and looked at many before and after photos. i told myself that if they can do this surgery so could i!!!! i read profiles and saw that many never had any problems after surgery and got all this energy back and things they could do....so i started looking for a place to have this WLS done. went to 2 different seminars and finally found a dr that would do the surgery on me. so now i am about 2 1/2 years out (had RNY) and am down about 150 pounds give or take. i feel better than i have in years and i can do things i haven't done in years and years!!! heck i can even ride a horse again as you can see in my avitar!!!! my only regret is not having this WLS sooner!!!! and yes i am and always will be a foodaholic!!! you can eat foods that you like...only smaller portions of it. trust me...you will be satisfied with the smaller portions!!! hang in there and please keep trying to get this done!!!

Hi Joanna,
I felt alot like you sad, fat, depressed in pain kidney problems high blood pressure and I thought maybe I shouldhave this surgery, I finally had it in Feb and I am down 75 lbs. and blood pressure is gone most pain is gone still have some back problems, and I feel alive again and I am 59. I feel young again. I do two miles a day and I never sit still anymore. You will make the right decision when you are ready. Just know life is far from over for us gals.
Hugs Gail