Got a question about regain,,,

Has anyone here had a regain and been successful at losing it? I gained about 20 pounds from my lowest point,,and have been stuck here for a year or so. I seem to have this mental block that since Im "elderly now", (Im 62 and started collecting Social Security so now Im officially old,right?) it wont come off anymore.
Well, lately I have found myself obsessing about it like I did before surgery. I wake up in the morning and think,,what diet? Count calories or carbs?? Protein grams? Fat grams? I am a wreck and feel like a failure! Im still 120 pounds from where I was when I started but I am so depressed about the regain.
Help! I need some support and advice ! I still come and lurk but dont post much cause I dont feel like I have anything to add. I dont want to become a regain statistic either,,so if anyone has any words of wisdom,,,please help!!

Blessings
Betsy

Betsy, You are definitely not alone! I'm right there with you on the regain. I am trying to post my food daily on the "what we're eating thread". Don't like any part of being accountable. Have reinstated my gym membership and am now again doing what I know works. Exercising at least an hour a day 4-5 days per week, trying to eat like I should.

Being over 4 yrs out I can tolerate things that used to not even sound good. I am a work in progress. I know I don't want to go back where I was and even slowly regaining will get me there eventually. I feel good, but head games still mess me up. Betsy, don't be a stranger. We need you as much as you need us.

Wanna know a secret Karen?? I can tolerate everything,sugar,starch,liquor.
We have to chose at some point. Our bodies are flexible,given time,most of us can adjust to anything,so we can eat crap if we want to...
You are on the right track....keep going.  Don't quit,I need you,we all need you.
Hugs!

Betsy!! I wish I was close enough to spank you!! First of all,you are far from elderly!! No way,62 is the new 52,which makes you younger than me!!
Two,you Know the how of it,and you did not go through this to be on a diet. No diets,darn it!! Cut down on the carbs,eat your protein and veggies,grains,nuts and fruits.
The only reason you are not heavier is because you have the golden ticket (WLS)!!
Third,do NOT lurk,you are one of us,and you have much to offer,no matter what is going on. Sheesh,heaven knows I am not always happy,nor perfect,if I wait for that,I would never say Jack!
4TH,this is a disease of shame and isolation,fight that with all you have.
5TH,do not look at how far you have slipped back,look at how far you have come girl!!
You have so much to offer,you are a good person. Your head is kicking your hiney.
You know that you are loved,how about you plan your menu at night,so you do not have to wake up thinking which way to go.
One step at a time.
Hugs!

oh betsey--do not be a lurker- you ahve always had wonderful things to say and i for one miss that!! i am anxious to hear about your sister moving close to youe, etc..

i did regain- 30# back when michael got so sick(but that was 4 years ago -what is my excuse now???) and i have pretty much kept almost all of it on--i put it on cuz i was still a stress eater and i kept it on cuz i didn't get serious about cutting out that what i knew was grazing etc...i am finally managing to slowly get some of it back off...

journalling or posting to the food thread -like karen says-accountability-

movement- exercise -walking bike riding whatever works...

just chiming in here helps!!
love ya! you are a beautiful woman and you are human as linda says your'e already kicking your own hiney so jump back onboard and we'll all help each other!  hugs!!

hi betsy

stay with us, many of us are in the same boat.  this weekend is my
3 yr surgiversary and i have put back 9 pounds.  its driving me crazy.

i cant seem to get back to where i want, this weight point i have in my
head that i want to be at. 

but we need to all hang together and think of what we have accomplished
over all.

hugs, jacki

Betsy,

I can only say that you know what works and you have the tool and it still works.  But, in the scheme of things, 20 pounds in how many years?  And you probably could easily spare that much because we all lose below our goals anyway.  Start your walking, your small plate of food, and drink your water.  It'll come off.

Betsy,
first of all you are NOT a failure. You are 120 pounds lighter and you ARE a SUCCESS!

Now stop beating yourself up, you deserve better and feeling like a failure is "a non-productive negative" so turn to the positive.

Yes, the further out we get, we eat more, we tolerate everything...at least I do.
It's a lifestyle change and not a diet. It's not a race to get that weight off. We are doing it for life.

So you know what to do to get that weight off. Exercise. Make time to exercise everyday for an hour. Build up to that hour. Make sure you weight life too.

Today I went to a 5:45am Pilate's Class. What a workout. I thought it was a weight lifting class. Oh boy, I can tell I worked my inner core!

So Betsy, think positive, turn your life around today. You are one beautiful gal and you deserve to be happy, again, you are not a failure. Now repeat that 10 times and go for a walk.

(((betsy))) sorry i am late posting here but i am here now!!

i hear where you are coming from and i have been asking myself what happened!!!??? i am a stress eater and let me tell you i am under stress here again....my relationship with rick is wonderful but with him not working and then called back to work and him not getting 40 hours the money just isn't there to pay the bills and i worry...so i eat...i can tolerate ANYTHING i hate that!!!! so starting today i am back on the wagon and going to work hard at getting this regain off and maybe more if i am lucky!!!

so please post more so we can get through this together!!!

hugs

 

Betsy,

No way are you elderly and certainly not a failure!  I have known quite a few people who have gained a part of their weight back and relost it, that is if they did not go to low to begin with, as our bodies, many times, have a set point where it just does not want to go below, which I believe for me to be at what has been my lowest weight so far, of 156, because no matter what I did, I could not get that number to budge. 

At less than 2 years out, I have slacked on some things myself, key one for me has been my exercise program and like many people on here, I have to make the right choices daily, as there is much I can tolerate that many can't or can further out.  For myself, I know that the only way to lose, or so it seems for me, to maintain, is to get my butt working out at least 3x a week, it's hard when you have a million things pulling at you at the same time, but it comes back to me chosing health and therefore making the right choices, after all this has made it possible for me to do all the many things that prior to this lifegiving surgery, I could not do comfortably, if at all. 

Support is so important, I know I could not do this without participating in it, as left to my own devices, I find myself in trouble and while many times, I feel as though I have nothing to offer that has not been said already, I do it as a way of keeping myself in it, because if I'm talking the talk, I'd better be walking the walk.  It keeps me accountable and I need to remain that way, for instance yesterday I posted how I am having a hard time with exercising lately, well guess what, I went to the gym last night.  We all have something to offer, thanks for coming and sharing your struggle, it helps me to know that this is a lifelong commitment, no matter how far out we get from the actual surgery.

Best wishes for continuing to share the journey with us.  Laureen