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Marylyn,

Hugs to you!  Please find yourself a grief support group or get counseling for your grief/depression.  Relating to others going through this loss will definitely be of help to you.  Please don't give up.  As George said, life is too precious.  I'm hoping you find some happiness soon. 

Debbie

THANKS DEBBIE I HAVE BEEN TO THE SUPPORT GROUPS,TALK TO THE DRS AND PASTOR.SO FAR NOTHING HAS CHANGE.HOPEING IT WILL END SOON.ALL I NEED IS TO SLEEP


MARYLYN

Dear Marylyn,
You got some wonderful advice here. My heart goes out to you but that doesn't help YOU at all does it?

You deserve to be happy and healthy. Fight this fight Marylyn. YOU are in charge of what you put in your mouth. Turn everything around today. Make what goes in to your mouth all about good fuel for your body. Learn to love yourself again. Life is yours for the taking but YOU have to pick yourself up and care for you. No one else can do that for you.

Please keep on posting. Try to life yourself out of your depression but ALLOW yourself to grieve for your husband. Cry. Punch pillows. Get some counseling right away. Don't have money for that? Go to a church, most have grief meetings at least once a month.

Now about your son...Connie's right you are in charge and it's your home. Kick him out. It's hard but if he can't give you love and support and helping with the expenses of running a house, then kick him out. You don't have to be a victim or a martyr in this so just stop it today.

Make a plan, give your son 2 weeks to either shape up or ship out. Enabling your son is not helping you or HIM.

Please don't give up. Find resources today to help you. Get on the phone and start calling. Is there a Senior Services in your area? They can help you and point you in a new direction your life needs to take.

THANKS.IM STILL GEETING SUPPORT FROM MY PASTOR AND DRS.I THINK SOMETIMES I NEED TO LEAVE THIS TOWN AND GET OUT,BUT I DONT HAVE NO ONE TO GO WITH.HERE IS NO SENIOT SERVICES HERE.I CHECK THAT OUT TODAY.BUT WILL TRY CHECKING IN. TO LET YOU ALL KNOW WHAT GOING ON.

THANKS
MARYLYN

I'm sorry to hear of your losses and your deep sadness.  It sounds like you need a different prescription for now.  You don't know me (I'm fairly new), but I can tell by the kindness extended to you by others, you are liked and cared about.  That is worthwhile for anyone.  Take care.

THANKS MARY.I HAVE TRY DIFFERENT ONES.SOMETHING IN MY BODY IS KEEPING ME FROM BEEN BETTER WITH THEM.IM HAVE A CHECKING UP ON THE 24 FEB TO SEE WHAT GOING ON.

MARYLYN

Marylyn:

Please see someone about your depression.  I have suffered a debilitating depression such as you are describing and I know I needed medical support to climb my way out of the hole I was in.  It took trying many different antidepressants and getting in to therapy to find my way out. 

I just want you to know that it IS possible to feel better.  Don't give up.  There can be better days ahead. 

You have suffered enough.  Please talk to your dr. about finding a good therapist and get a referral so you can get in right away. 

I am sending positive thoughts your way, Marylyn.

Cindy P.

THANKS CINDY. I HAVE SEEN DRS ABOUT THE DEPRESSION.NOTHING IS HELPING.I DO TALK TO MY PASTOR.IM HOPEING ONE DAY IT WILL ALL END AND I WILL FEEL BETTER.



MARYLYN

Marylyn,

So much sadness in your life, it's no wonder you are suffering from depression, as all before me have said, please seek out help in the form of some sort of counseling, whether a grief group or through your affiliation with your local church. 

As for your son, you've gotten some good advice, and hopefully, you don't feel like without his income you can't make it, but even if that is the case, you need to let him know that you will not put up with his shenanigans.

We care and support one another here and so, please come and share whatever you need to in order to get back on track with your life.

Sending out prayers and good wishes for you, Laureen

THANKS LAUREEN.I HAVE SEEK OUT HELP NOTHING IS WORKING.THANKS FOR YOUR PRAYERS.


MARYLYN