What's New Tuesday?

Good morning Cindy and OFF family,

Yesterday after work I was at spin class, got a little over 35 minutes and I was paged overhead. It was my hubby calling and said the ambulance is taking her to my hospital I work at to the ER. So off I go to the ER in my gym clothes...spin shorts are just not attractive if you know what I mean.
Mom ended up okay, she is 87 and has dementia but does well with all the kids checking on her. She is starting to fail, getting fragile but for right now is able to stay at the Sr. Apts. she lives in. We do know assisted living is just around the corner for her so Cindy I do know what you are going through. Hugs to you!!

So today at work my boss and I are cleaning out one of the rooms. She is a pack rat and doesn't like to throw things out. I'm not. A lot of crap will be gone.

Hopefully I can break away and do my walk around the hospital, it's a beautiful day and the sun is shining!! Whhhooooooo!!

Hubby is working on his ex-in-laws farm doing some finishing work with cement. He will be tired when he gets home today for sure.

Hugs and prayers to all in need.

Off to work in a little while.  My boss and I have a meeting about 50 miles from here so we will leave shortly before 8:00.  I'm taking my lunch and will encourage her to eat with everyone else while I sit outdoors and eat my babybell cheese and applesauce.  It's going to be in the mid 70s today, so I'm looking forward to my own little private picnic. 

My 3 year old granddaughter is having surgery this morning to have a hole in her ear drum repaired.  The doctors had hoped it would close up on its own, but it hasn't.  Keep my little princess in your prayers.

Have a wonderful day.

Wanda 

Good mornin', ya'll.

Cinday, I hope everything works out with your Mom.  It is so stressful when you want to fix everything and you can't.

A very funny thing happened yesterday.  Not funny 'ha ha', but funny 'peculiar'.  My DH and I each have our own computers in different rooms.  We spend a lot of the day 'apart'. Although we have an intercom and are just down the hall from each other.  Lately when I go in the kitchen to get something to eat, or to the pantry to get something, he asks 'what did you decide on'.  I thought this was just because he wanted me to fix him something, too.  Or he  was concerned cause I AM trying to lose another 10 pounds. If I go outside to weed a little, or take something to the mailbox he is right there watching me.  He is on the intercom every 5 minutes with some ****amamie excuse to talk (what is our password for e-bay, what time does Donny get out of school today).  He knows the answer to these things! Yesterday I finally asked what the heck!!.  He said, 'If you should fall over with a heart attack I'll need be able to find you and to tell the EMT's what you were doing and what you ate last.'

I have only one chemo left, I have been seeing a doctor at least once a week since Sept when they found my gall bladder cancer. Once chemo is done, I will just be checking in every 3 months.  Is he now gonna be my 'doctor'? I will NOT be able to take this smothering.  SOMEONE will get smothered!!

Mind you, he has been banded for a year and has lost NO weight since then.  Well, he goes down a couple of pounds, back up a couple.  He has kept off the weight he lost pre-surgery. He is still 100 plus pounds overweight.  He still has diabetes, high blood pressure and high cholesterol.  I have given up keeping track of what he eats, what he is doing, or what he should be doing! He has good restriction but he eats 'around the band.'

We have been married 44 years.  He KNOWS I am quite capable of taking care of myself.  I have NEVER had problems with my heart. How do I reassure him I will be OK?  I am taking him with me to my next Dr. appt and he can hear for himself my positive prognosis.  Until then...!

Thanks for listening!

Everyone have a fantabulous day!

Look at it as his way of saying "I love you."   That he worries is endearing, even if a bit irritating.  Try to ignore it and go about your business.  You are so funny!  He WANTS to be with you.

You made me chuckle this morning! I can see you dragging hubby by the ear to your doctor's appointment. I know it's hard to have a "shadow" but he cares and is showing his concern. My husband's blood sugar is "borderline" at 118. We've started trying to "count carbs" and it's "me" more than "we" doing the meal  planning, checking the carb table etc. I think so often we take over where their mothers left off don't you? I figured it would be good for me too. I am only cooking the amount of starch that we can have and have switched to whole grain rice and pasta and bread. Something I read said that whole grains fill us up faster than the refined stuff. 

You are an example of the perfect band person. I'm afraid I would be one of those "eat around the band ones". If I'm not very careful I can do the same thing with my RNY. I'm an intelligent woman and I figured out after about a year how to get things I wanted. . . Not good and I wish I'd never  tested the waters.

 Would your husband consider the RNY? Medical reports show that it has a very quick effect on Diabetes.  We all know that losing weight often takes care of the high BP and cholesterol. It's not an easy thing either way.

He's trying to support you. Tell him that  you are quite capable and have been doing a wonderful job of it! Sounds like a bit of cabin fever and maybe a bit too much family togetherness! I so understand.

Hi Cindy and my OFF family:

Cindy, sorry for the upheaval in your life. My mom is still living on her own, but I figure the day will come some day soon when we will have to get her into assisted living or get a live-in caretaker (we've tried to talk her into having my brother live with her ... she doesn't want that ... but now she's rethinking that after one of her neighbors fell). I guess we're all getting into that stage where we worry about our parents. Mom is 85 and still lives in the house I grew up in, alone, won't move, still drives, although she had an accident in December (and we don't like her driving).

I wen****er-walking yesterday and then was so tired and sore that I couldn't function for the rest of the day ... and I only did a half hour of water-walking/exercising in the pool! Man, I used to do more! I tried to take a nap, but couldn't sleep. Tried to work on my freelance job but couldn't concentrate. Finally, at 9 p.m., I just went to bed, figuring I'd just lie in bed and watch the ballgame ... well, I started reading (I'm reading this very interesting nonfiction book about Mary Magdalen) ...for some reason this perked me up. Then I didn't sleep well ... my knee and back hurt so much last night. I feel OK today ... knee is still ouchy but not as bad as yesterday.

So I think I'll take a day off today and work on the books, just stay home. Kitties are stretched out in the sun by the electric fireplace, sunbathing ... they look so relaxed. It's supposed to get up to 68 today, 73 tomorrow. I'm so sleepy yet. I don't think any amount of coffee will perk me up.

Anyway, off to apply for jobs, check out other things online. Had to buy a swimsuit yesterday because mine was stretched out ... bought one last week at Lands' End but didn't like it so sent it back; so I bought one yesterday from Woman Within (old Lane Bryant) ... same suit I have, different color ... always works for me. Got a deal on it, plus some money off.

Well, have a good day.

Busy, busy day yesterday and today, too, for that matter!

Yesterday I had two appts. at the hospital, one to check for vein insufficiency - an ultrasound, the other was to make sure I don't have lymphodema and it was grueling!  But... I made it through and then worked at home in the afternoon.  It went OK.  The swelling in my legs is better, since I've been having therapy on them.  I have to wrap them in bandages and it's a pain, but it's working.  I hope this helps.

Michael is doing great.  His weight and mine are both coming down.  We did some clothes shopping over the weekend - went to Savers and to Herbergers.  I got some great bargains.  Last night, for the first time in ages, we took our dog for a walk.  He is high energy, and we play fetch games in the yard with him and take him to a dog park, but going on a walk involves all of us and he loved it.  Jack is such a sweet dog.

Well, folks, back to the grind for me!  I am down 95 pounds as of today!  woo hoo!!!

Mary, I hope your "family walks" become a daily thing. My little Maggie does circle dances whenever I get out her leash!

Good morning Cindy and everyone......

Wow...sounds like I need to send up plenty of prayers for all of you posting today....hope everything works out for everyone involved!!

I have a client to meet later then on to my therapist...I need to talk to him....issues going on that I am not ready to discuss here at this time.

The sun was shining earlier and has now clouded over....I want it back!!! Life is so much better in the sunshine!! It is supposed to be 70 today....a walk will be in order for sure.

I best get moving on.....much to do.

Lots of love and hugs to all......connie d

Good Morning Cindy and Friends,

 Cindy, I know that your mind is going in so many different directions. Hopefully the answer will come to you through all of your research. Sometimes it's not necessarily what one wants but what one needs. You are the decision maker for your mom. You'll be able to look at your choices and make the best decision for her future care.

I know it is so hard but some things are just the way they are. We can fight it or make the best of it. You only have so many choices. Perhaps they are not what your mom wishes for but given her health she can't have what she wants. She has to get what she needs. Hopefully as that time comes and you have to make the move she will adjust.

Whenever I buck the system and go fighting and screaming I make myself and everyone around me even more miserable. Sometimes we just have to accept and make the best of things. You may have to watch your mom go through some of these feelings. BUT and this is a big BUT know that in your heart you want what is best for her and are doing all that you can to see that she gets what shee NEEDS at this stage in her life.

This morning I am cooking a small turkey to take with us on our trip to visit the kids. Erin pregnant isn't supposed to eat deli turkey so fresh baked should be great. It will also help Mike and I stay with our new food plan. We've been counting carbs for the past week and I'm noticing a difference for me already.

We both have dry mouth and yucky tastes during the night. Instead of munching on carb loaded crackers we're sucking on sugar free candy. So far it's working and they don't seem to bother us. I like the sugar free butterscotch. I have a large selection to choose from in bulk at our local Winco. Do you all have that store? New stores come and go but consistently I  think their prices and selection are the best.

I'm taking my laptop along with me so I'll be able to check in. Looking forward to seeing the kiddos even tho it's just been two weeks. Hugs to all,