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Oh, Mag, I had no idea. I hope I didn't come across as harsh or unsympathetic, because I'm not! I have watched my child struggle with this disease for years. I do get upset with her because she refuses to face her disease or get help for it, thereby making all of us suffer along with her. I'm so proud of you for all the work you do to make yourself feel better. I'm so glad you have your sister. I am Christie's "safe" person. She does take her cues from me. If I remain calm, things always go better.
Much like you describe, Christie loves being in her manic phase. She feels invincible, like Superwoman. As a teen, she used to crash into a deep depression. We've been through several suicide attempts, in and out of residential psychiatric care, etc. But the last few years I've noticed that the depression cycle is not so deep. Now when she crashes, she explodes into temper. She would fight a fence post! It doesn't matter who you are or what you say, she's going to be furious. This is what worries and scares me about Benny! I don't ever want him to witness his mama behaving that way, or worse, be on the receiving end of her temper. But all I can do is be ready to act if she needs me. So far, so good. But I'm always waiting for the other shoe to drop . . .
So, it's like peeling an onion, huh? Each new layer reveals something new about ourselves.
Love you friend! Your strength always inspires me!
Much like you describe, Christie loves being in her manic phase. She feels invincible, like Superwoman. As a teen, she used to crash into a deep depression. We've been through several suicide attempts, in and out of residential psychiatric care, etc. But the last few years I've noticed that the depression cycle is not so deep. Now when she crashes, she explodes into temper. She would fight a fence post! It doesn't matter who you are or what you say, she's going to be furious. This is what worries and scares me about Benny! I don't ever want him to witness his mama behaving that way, or worse, be on the receiving end of her temper. But all I can do is be ready to act if she needs me. So far, so good. But I'm always waiting for the other shoe to drop . . .
So, it's like peeling an onion, huh? Each new layer reveals something new about ourselves.
Love you friend! Your strength always inspires me!
Vickie
Sweet Vickie,
You are not one to be harsh or critical. You don't ever need to worry about that with me. I just thought it was a good opportunity to tell you about my life. I know this disease affects so many other people than just the patient. I usually don't tell people, but you all are family now and I know this is a safe place to talk about it. Love and hugs, Mag
You are not one to be harsh or critical. You don't ever need to worry about that with me. I just thought it was a good opportunity to tell you about my life. I know this disease affects so many other people than just the patient. I usually don't tell people, but you all are family now and I know this is a safe place to talk about it. Love and hugs, Mag
Good Morning All
Trish, I couldn't help posting a reply to you concerning moving in with your children. I recently had a similar change of lifestyle in July 2010 when my adult son got out of the Army and moved back home with my DIL, then 2yr old granddaughter, and then 6 wk old granddaughter. It was sweet and wonderful. Being able to share in my grandkids lives and watching them grow. Still very sweet and precious, but I had to move out of my own home.
I have a 3 bedroom moblie home. They were sleeping in the spare bedrooms when we had massive amounts of rain in our area for a solid week and the roof started leaking in "their" bedroom. I allowed them to move into my room-just me sleeping in my big ol' bed-and I took the couch. Not good...So after being put on a wait list-still there-for roof repairs, I moved across the yard to my sweetheart's home. We've been together almost 15 yrs and never lived under the same roof. Quite an adjustment for both of us.
Bottom line...I feel out of place in my own home because my furniture, etc, has been put into storage now and the kids stuff is in there. I can't get to my closet and dresser in my "old" bedroom because they have boxes and a playpen swallowing up the available space in there. I won't mess with their stuff to get to mine. My sweetheart has been wonderful and understanding, but that isn't my stuff. My clothes are in a plastic stackable dresser we got at a yard sale. I feel like I'm between the two homes with nothing to call my own. My Hunny is very set in his ways and did I mention he's a hoarder? Yep, try cleaning out anything and convincing him that the phone bill that was paid back in Dec 2003 doesn't need to be kept...Ah, but I love him! He has a 2 bdr home. The front bedroom has all of his tools and motorcycle stuff.
I'm not sure if I need Niecy Nash, Dr. Phil, or Bob Vila, but before I have my WLS in July, this will be fixed.
Just be careful not to lose who you are when you get absorbed into someone else's life.
Hugs and stuff,
Kristi
Trish, I couldn't help posting a reply to you concerning moving in with your children. I recently had a similar change of lifestyle in July 2010 when my adult son got out of the Army and moved back home with my DIL, then 2yr old granddaughter, and then 6 wk old granddaughter. It was sweet and wonderful. Being able to share in my grandkids lives and watching them grow. Still very sweet and precious, but I had to move out of my own home.
I have a 3 bedroom moblie home. They were sleeping in the spare bedrooms when we had massive amounts of rain in our area for a solid week and the roof started leaking in "their" bedroom. I allowed them to move into my room-just me sleeping in my big ol' bed-and I took the couch. Not good...So after being put on a wait list-still there-for roof repairs, I moved across the yard to my sweetheart's home. We've been together almost 15 yrs and never lived under the same roof. Quite an adjustment for both of us.
Bottom line...I feel out of place in my own home because my furniture, etc, has been put into storage now and the kids stuff is in there. I can't get to my closet and dresser in my "old" bedroom because they have boxes and a playpen swallowing up the available space in there. I won't mess with their stuff to get to mine. My sweetheart has been wonderful and understanding, but that isn't my stuff. My clothes are in a plastic stackable dresser we got at a yard sale. I feel like I'm between the two homes with nothing to call my own. My Hunny is very set in his ways and did I mention he's a hoarder? Yep, try cleaning out anything and convincing him that the phone bill that was paid back in Dec 2003 doesn't need to be kept...Ah, but I love him! He has a 2 bdr home. The front bedroom has all of his tools and motorcycle stuff.
I'm not sure if I need Niecy Nash, Dr. Phil, or Bob Vila, but before I have my WLS in July, this will be fixed.
Just be careful not to lose who you are when you get absorbed into someone else's life.
Hugs and stuff,
Kristi
Good morning, everyone! It's good to be back after so long. I'm done with my classes and even better than that, I finally graduated! It only took 30 some years, lol. It was a long hard semester and at one point I thought about quitting ... again ... but I didn't. I'm glad I stuck it out in spite of all the stress, hair pulling and teeth gnashing. We had some family crises come up all during the spring. Some resolved and some are in the process of. For the next couple of weeks, I just plan to read, relax, blog and ride my bike. If it's hot enough I may venture into our community's cedar lake or try to get down to the shore.
Does anyone have Memorial Day plans? We got invited to a family send-off for my nephew who joined the military and is being sent to Afghanistan. The party is Monday. Other than that, we don't have any plans.
Does anyone have Memorial Day plans? We got invited to a family send-off for my nephew who joined the military and is being sent to Afghanistan. The party is Monday. Other than that, we don't have any plans.
Welcome back Cassie and Congrats on your accomplishment, which is no small feat!!!
Laureen
Laureen
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
Good morning Trish and everyone....
Trish ...you have a hard decision to make. I just moved from MN to Iowa to live with my daughter and help with my grandchildren. My daughter is getting a divorce and they are in an awful financial situation.
My daughter called me in January and asked if she needed me would I move in and help her and the kids.A tough decision to make. A week later she called and asked how soon I could be there. I had everything packed and moved in by the end of February. (I still had some things with my townhouse to wrap up in March and April but now it is all done.)
I too had the fear of something not working out and ruining our relationship...we discussed it a lot and continue to do so...and I pray we make it through this.
I am having days that I am so sad and lonesome for my friends and family in MN. I just know this is where I need to be. My granddaughter Grace is only 4 and my grandson Nic is 18. He just graduated from High School Sunday.
My daughter works full-time now in a town about 20 miles away. My days are long and sometimes I am so exhausted I fall into bed by 8PM. I do most all the cleaning and laundry. Not that I have to but I am one that just can't sit still. My daughter is very grateful for the help. She has more time to spend with the kids when she gets home if she doesn't have chores to do. We all cook dinner together.
My grandson has cancer and has had it since he was 3. They have to go to NYC and Memphis now and then for testing and such. That is the other reason I am here to stay with Grace so they can go. Nic's cancer is not curable although he is doing great right now.
So you see I felt the need to get here as soon as possible. It is quite a lifestyle change. I lived alone and was gone all the time. I am not going to lie and say I don't miss my freedom because I do. But in my heart I know this is where God wants me to be so here I stay.
If I can help in anyway please let me know....good luck with your decision.
Well I have gone on long enough with my chatter.
Judy....sorry to hear your workmate pasted away...so sad for her family.
Prayers for so many in need.
Hope you all have a really beautiful day!!!
Love and hugs for all....connie d
Trish ...you have a hard decision to make. I just moved from MN to Iowa to live with my daughter and help with my grandchildren. My daughter is getting a divorce and they are in an awful financial situation.
My daughter called me in January and asked if she needed me would I move in and help her and the kids.A tough decision to make. A week later she called and asked how soon I could be there. I had everything packed and moved in by the end of February. (I still had some things with my townhouse to wrap up in March and April but now it is all done.)
I too had the fear of something not working out and ruining our relationship...we discussed it a lot and continue to do so...and I pray we make it through this.
I am having days that I am so sad and lonesome for my friends and family in MN. I just know this is where I need to be. My granddaughter Grace is only 4 and my grandson Nic is 18. He just graduated from High School Sunday.
My daughter works full-time now in a town about 20 miles away. My days are long and sometimes I am so exhausted I fall into bed by 8PM. I do most all the cleaning and laundry. Not that I have to but I am one that just can't sit still. My daughter is very grateful for the help. She has more time to spend with the kids when she gets home if she doesn't have chores to do. We all cook dinner together.
My grandson has cancer and has had it since he was 3. They have to go to NYC and Memphis now and then for testing and such. That is the other reason I am here to stay with Grace so they can go. Nic's cancer is not curable although he is doing great right now.
So you see I felt the need to get here as soon as possible. It is quite a lifestyle change. I lived alone and was gone all the time. I am not going to lie and say I don't miss my freedom because I do. But in my heart I know this is where God wants me to be so here I stay.
If I can help in anyway please let me know....good luck with your decision.
Well I have gone on long enough with my chatter.
Judy....sorry to hear your workmate pasted away...so sad for her family.
Prayers for so many in need.
Hope you all have a really beautiful day!!!
Love and hugs for all....connie d
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