What's up Sunday, y'all?
Good morning Eileen and my OFF sistas!
Whew! I think we're all having post-holiday trauma today. I hope you all know that I love and think about each of you and whatever is happening in your lives, even if I can't remember to respond individually every day.
So, yesterday Butch, Carrie (oldest daughter) and I went to Shreveport for the afternoon. We were all so bummed out about Christie and the horrible scene she caused on Friday--we needed a mental holiday. Butch and Carrie love to play blackjack, so I dropped them at the casinos, and then I went shopping. It was rainy and yucky weather, but I didn't care. I just had to get away from this house and brooding about Christie and the way she drags us all through hell and back.
Well, I was in Barnes & Noble around 5 p.m. when my cell phone rang and it was Chris. When I told her we were in Shreveport she immediately got all quiet and hurt sounding. Then she hung up. Okay, fine.
(I need to mention here that she didn't drive home to San Antonio, but decided to spend Friday night with a friend here in Nacogdoches. Not that she informed any of us of her plans. No. She just took the baby and slammed out of the house!)
Several hours later, we were on our way home when she called again, around 10:30 p.m. Ahhh, now the truth comes out. Seems that when she spent the night at Stephanie's house, Stephanie's husband backed into Chris's car and bashed in one of the doors. She has to stay here in Nac for several more days while the insurance adjuster does his thing and then the car is repaired. So she needs a place to stay and wants to "come home".
I told her she and Benny were welcome to come back to the house and stay as long as they need to IF she can act decently and not cause any more scenes. OMG. She got all mad all over again, accused us of not loving her, not wanting her, etc. Informed me that I told her she had to leave (I never did that), and then she told me that we were all terrible people for not inviting her to go to Shreveport with us. I told her, we didn't even know where you were! Told me she was the "least liked person in the family" and "once again, the three of you have ganged up against me".
It just goes on and on and on . . . The persecution complex, the irrational anger, the re-writing of history, the hurtful accusations, the hateful behavior--you all just cannot imagine how bad it can get with her. If it wasn't for Benny, I swear I would just turn her loose. I am just exhausted from dealing with her for the past 27 years. I would never wish a child with a mental illness on anyone. It just drags your whole family down.
Oh, dear, speak of the devil. Chris just drove up. I'd better close and get ready to face the storm this morning. Pray for me and for some peace in our family today, sweet family. I'm just not ready for another showdown today.
Whew! I think we're all having post-holiday trauma today. I hope you all know that I love and think about each of you and whatever is happening in your lives, even if I can't remember to respond individually every day.
So, yesterday Butch, Carrie (oldest daughter) and I went to Shreveport for the afternoon. We were all so bummed out about Christie and the horrible scene she caused on Friday--we needed a mental holiday. Butch and Carrie love to play blackjack, so I dropped them at the casinos, and then I went shopping. It was rainy and yucky weather, but I didn't care. I just had to get away from this house and brooding about Christie and the way she drags us all through hell and back.
Well, I was in Barnes & Noble around 5 p.m. when my cell phone rang and it was Chris. When I told her we were in Shreveport she immediately got all quiet and hurt sounding. Then she hung up. Okay, fine.
(I need to mention here that she didn't drive home to San Antonio, but decided to spend Friday night with a friend here in Nacogdoches. Not that she informed any of us of her plans. No. She just took the baby and slammed out of the house!)
Several hours later, we were on our way home when she called again, around 10:30 p.m. Ahhh, now the truth comes out. Seems that when she spent the night at Stephanie's house, Stephanie's husband backed into Chris's car and bashed in one of the doors. She has to stay here in Nac for several more days while the insurance adjuster does his thing and then the car is repaired. So she needs a place to stay and wants to "come home".
I told her she and Benny were welcome to come back to the house and stay as long as they need to IF she can act decently and not cause any more scenes. OMG. She got all mad all over again, accused us of not loving her, not wanting her, etc. Informed me that I told her she had to leave (I never did that), and then she told me that we were all terrible people for not inviting her to go to Shreveport with us. I told her, we didn't even know where you were! Told me she was the "least liked person in the family" and "once again, the three of you have ganged up against me".
It just goes on and on and on . . . The persecution complex, the irrational anger, the re-writing of history, the hurtful accusations, the hateful behavior--you all just cannot imagine how bad it can get with her. If it wasn't for Benny, I swear I would just turn her loose. I am just exhausted from dealing with her for the past 27 years. I would never wish a child with a mental illness on anyone. It just drags your whole family down.
Oh, dear, speak of the devil. Chris just drove up. I'd better close and get ready to face the storm this morning. Pray for me and for some peace in our family today, sweet family. I'm just not ready for another showdown today.
Vickie
Sorry for the drama in your life. Don't know if I could put up with that. I know several others who have bipolar people in there. Sometimes I think I have bipolar disorder ... sometimes way up, sometimes way down. But then again, nah ... never that bad where I unload on people I love like that. And never so bad that I want to kill myself. And I never, never quit taking my meds because of how they make me feel like some bipolars tend to do. Actually my antidepressants make me feel so much better I don't dare not take them.
I feel sorry for the little boy, he's going to have to grow up with this. I hope she will get some help. One of my cousins grew up with a mom who probably was bipolar; we didn't know her growing up after my uncle drowned. Her mom wouldn't let my grandma see her or any one on this side of the family. We found her many years later, after her mom died. She is married and living in Maine; she got to meet one of my aunts and uncles (but it was a big family ... most of them had died by the time we found her) and of course my mom and all the cousins. She still stays in touch with my mom, which Mom is so happy for, because this is all she has left of her brother.
I feel sorry for the little boy, he's going to have to grow up with this. I hope she will get some help. One of my cousins grew up with a mom who probably was bipolar; we didn't know her growing up after my uncle drowned. Her mom wouldn't let my grandma see her or any one on this side of the family. We found her many years later, after her mom died. She is married and living in Maine; she got to meet one of my aunts and uncles (but it was a big family ... most of them had died by the time we found her) and of course my mom and all the cousins. She still stays in touch with my mom, which Mom is so happy for, because this is all she has left of her brother.
Thanks, Eileen. Part of the problem is that Chris refuses to admit that she has a problem, and therefore she refuses all medications. I haven't been able to compel her to take any med since she turned 16 and the medical community informed me that she was old enough to make her own decisions. Since that time, life with her and for her has been pure hell. I try to tell her that life doesn't have to be so hard, that there is help available for her, but according to Chris, SHE doesn't have a problem. Everyone ELSE has a problem, but not her.
Anyway, I could go on for hours, but it does no good. If talking to her could have solved this problem, I would have solved it years ago. Butch and I have spent thousands of dollars on psychiatric care, psychiatric hospitals, medications, therapy, etc. None of it has helped because Christie has blatantly rejected all of it. But this is exactly why I never wanted Christie to have a baby. And this is why I made Butch buy me a lakehouse down near where she lives, so I can be there for Benny as often as possible. And, although I definitely do not want to do so, if I feel it is necessary, I will sue for custody of Benny. But geez, I hope and pray it does not come to that.
I don't think you are bi-polar at all! I go up and down with my moods at times too. I think that's just normal. I am aware of it and so are you. Christie is NOT aware of it. That's the difference. Bi-polars have virtually no self-awareness of their own behavior. And they "dis-remember" the bad incidents, turning it around in their minds to where they are not at fault. It's a viscious cycle.
Thanks for your support. I need it today. We are barely talking today. Not from my side, but from hers. She's barely tolerating any of us to even look at her. It's SO much fun. But Benny is precious and I'm trying to concentrate on enjoying him as much as possible.
Vic
Anyway, I could go on for hours, but it does no good. If talking to her could have solved this problem, I would have solved it years ago. Butch and I have spent thousands of dollars on psychiatric care, psychiatric hospitals, medications, therapy, etc. None of it has helped because Christie has blatantly rejected all of it. But this is exactly why I never wanted Christie to have a baby. And this is why I made Butch buy me a lakehouse down near where she lives, so I can be there for Benny as often as possible. And, although I definitely do not want to do so, if I feel it is necessary, I will sue for custody of Benny. But geez, I hope and pray it does not come to that.
I don't think you are bi-polar at all! I go up and down with my moods at times too. I think that's just normal. I am aware of it and so are you. Christie is NOT aware of it. That's the difference. Bi-polars have virtually no self-awareness of their own behavior. And they "dis-remember" the bad incidents, turning it around in their minds to where they are not at fault. It's a viscious cycle.
Thanks for your support. I need it today. We are barely talking today. Not from my side, but from hers. She's barely tolerating any of us to even look at her. It's SO much fun. But Benny is precious and I'm trying to concentrate on enjoying him as much as possible.
Vic
Good Morning Everyone,
Had a decent weekend. Trying to stay busy and productive in order to not go any deeper into this seasonal funk that started way too early this year.
I offered to work every day until the Christmas break. I think I need to be out and about among people. When I'm working with children I don't have time to have a pity party.
Three days after school I have doctor's appts this week. Eager for all of them actually. Tomorrow the results of last week's sleep study. Tuesday a followup with the anxiety therapist and Thursday a gynecologist appt to check the cyst which I am sure will have to be removed before the end of the year.
Today Mike and I are going to see "J. Edgar" and then for a drive. We go to the early matinee.
Didn't get out into any of the Black Friday craziness. I've finished shopping for the grands. We'll get the kids and their spouses one "something big" and that will be it.
We're going to Kauai in February so that will be our Christmas to each other and our 40th anniversary on December 18th.
Need to get a shower. I think I'll start some decorating today. Mostly inside as the wind blows so hard here on this hill that outside decorating ends up decorating the neighbors' yards and the surrounding acreage!
Have a good day everyone.
Karen C
Eileen, We're staying on the east side about halfway betweein Poipu on the south and Princeville to the north. I think the canyon and park you're referring to "the Grand Canyon of Kauai" is call Wailea Canyon. We'll go there for sure but it looks like it's a full day south and west of us. We have a week so I'm sure we'll make time. Hopefully we'll be able to see a lot without much hiking for Mike.
Karen C
Good afternoon Eileen and OFF family, happy Sunday and Eileen you just snuggle with your kitty.
Got up late and working 3-11 shift and getting home to relax and to go to bed right away sometimes just doesn't cut it. I took a shower last night and washed my hair so when I did get up I just plugged in my electric rollers, drank some coffee and got ready for church. No breakfast just run, run and run some more! LOL
Church went good and our Praise Team rocked it today. They had soup and salad after wards but our turkey was in the oven cooking so we just headed on home for a great home cooked meal by my hubby. Love my man, got a good one the second time around!
So it's cold and rainy here in Kalamazoo, no snow so I say Yeeehhhhhhaaaa! All though I do enjoy snow and how beautiful it is on the trees and ground.
I go to the doctor Tuesday for my check up and report on my small bowel follow through xray. Pain from the adhesion's are winning at times but I'm a tough old fart and will rise above the pain. I'm just thankful I can hold off for surgery as long as possible.
Hugs and prayers for all in need. Debbie
Got up late and working 3-11 shift and getting home to relax and to go to bed right away sometimes just doesn't cut it. I took a shower last night and washed my hair so when I did get up I just plugged in my electric rollers, drank some coffee and got ready for church. No breakfast just run, run and run some more! LOL
Church went good and our Praise Team rocked it today. They had soup and salad after wards but our turkey was in the oven cooking so we just headed on home for a great home cooked meal by my hubby. Love my man, got a good one the second time around!
So it's cold and rainy here in Kalamazoo, no snow so I say Yeeehhhhhhaaaa! All though I do enjoy snow and how beautiful it is on the trees and ground.
I go to the doctor Tuesday for my check up and report on my small bowel follow through xray. Pain from the adhesion's are winning at times but I'm a tough old fart and will rise above the pain. I'm just thankful I can hold off for surgery as long as possible.
Hugs and prayers for all in need. Debbie
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