Post RnY Depression

It is definitely real and I find myself in the grips of it hardcore. Seeing my therapist and it really hasn't done much to help me.  Don't have food to cope with the mental anguish and now just frozen in a trance-like state not sure where to go.  

Make sure you realize this is a mental game as well.  The psychologist for the bariatric program here is fine, but doesn't really offer much after care beyond a monthly group meeting.  To be honest, it is really sparce. This sucks. 

I feel you man. Beyond the food thing, I have been sick, had to spend a week in the hospital, and I feel like it's never going to get better. I sit in my room when I'm home and sleep alot. I'm going to see the psychologist one on one to help me cope with some of my emotions or my depression. Hang in there I know what your going through and push thru one day at a time. Thats what I'm telling myself.

I hate to hear that you are having such a struggle. I know what it's like living with depression that will not go away. I was that way for roughly 4 years. There were some very hard things for me to try and deal with, although I can't say I am cured, it does help to know that I am getting healthy and will better be able to control my mood with exercise. It really does work wonders. This surgery has opened up doors I had closed and never thought I could go through again. I feel a lot more in control now and that is so much better than feeling like I got hit by a semi. Good luck to you and hopefully you'll feel better. Just keep puttin one foot in front of the other and continue to be rational about it.

PS Sorry bout my signature line...I mean loser's bench...could be taken the wrong way...

 Thanks.  I am just not in the right mindset today... feel like no one cares, no one gives a ****.  Feeling like it just isn't worth it anymore.  Sorry to bring you all down.

I went on Lexapro for 10 months, went off for 6 months, got back on that for another 10 months.  Then later --- just got off that.  Now doing much better.

It is not only mental - but physical as well. Carbohydrates help making more serotonin , more of happy hormones = you are more happy.  Less carbs - less serotonin. Also - some mineral vitamin deficiencies may also cause depression (low D, B12, other B's, low iron, low proteins, etc.)  Even when they are not "clinically low" they may be lower than what your body is used to...and depression may follow.  

sorry to hear you are going through this... i know what you mean they do not go into alot of the "mental" changes that happen after surgery, everyone thinks if they lose weight they will be happy.... which in most cases is not true!   the first year i was so happy and was getting compliments left and right and now that i am 2 years out all that is over.... i am happy to be at my goal weight... i just think everything happens so quickly....... i am now going through a phase where i feel blah, like no energy to exercise (which i know would probably help) and just tired.... ive heard from post ops that around 1.5 - 2 years out it isnt uncommon to feel this way......  hope you start to feel better soon!

I know exactly what you mean! You know you did this surgery for yourself and it's great, but then you kind of end up feeling alienated. You can't really join friends like usual...going for drinks, out to eat, etc. That ends up being depressing all in itself. You could end up depressed over anything. I know I had to start an anti depressant. I feel a lot better. Working out makes me feel better. Just getting out of the house. Right now...and I know this is petty, but I am super bummed about my hair...so I check out diff hairstyles (cuts)...it's hard to know what to do when the depression is so bad that you want to give up. Not saying you do, just saying it. Maybe you could find someone to talk to, a psych do****il you can get to feeling better. Hope things start going well for you.

Sam, I know the feeling. I am about three months and some change from surgery. The past month or so has been tough, a lot of lows and highs. My lows are rock bottom, and all I do is cry. Things for me are made worse when people talk about the pulmonary embolisim I had after surgery, and how close I came to dying. I have days where I wish for my old body. The body without loose skin, not on coumadin, not on so many vitamins, and could eat anything and everything.

But the highs. The highs are what pull me out. The new and healthier relationship with food. The clothes that just keep getting smaller. And the praise.

There is little to no support groups where I am. I battle this with just the love and tender words of friends and family. On low days, I just talk it out with one of them and everything feels at least a little better.

 I'm sorry to hear you're going thru it! Keep with your therapist, maybe even think about upping the frequency of your sessions? Adding some meds might help get you thru. I frequently use CBT in sessions and would recommend "Feeling Good" by David Burns - - tried & true self help book.