Jealous frineds

Weighting2Bskinny
on 4/23/12 7:56 am

One of my friends says I will not be smaller than her. She's a sz 14/16. she tells me and everyone else that I won't reach my goal of being a sz 12.
Okay this other friend and I used to be really close and as soon as I had my surgery she won't talk to me any more. I tried to tell her im losing weight and I was all happy and she doesn't talk to me. Why do people have to be like that? Especially your friends?!

GOD BLESS YOU

MichelleNC
on 4/23/12 8:00 am

Jealousy! You do you and they are not worth the time of day! Good Luck!

Michelle
Did the happy dance onto the Loser's Bench March 18, 2013!

Visit my blog at http://skinnyundermyfat.blogspot.com/

RonSudol
on 4/23/12 8:00 am - NJ

some "friend" you got there.. lol..... tell her to get bent, and dont ever look back

ive had some douchenozzle friends with similiar claims, and im smaller than them now.. Hell, im smaller than 90% of the friends i have now.. So just tell them to kiss your ass and move on.

   ---------------(Starting Weight - 365) ------------ (Current Weight - 165) ------------

Dee.spunk
on 4/23/12 8:03 am - Sacramento, CA

RNY on 11/30/11

It may take time for them to come around. In the mean time, enjoy life. No point in worrying about what they think. My brother in law said something about jealousy to me yesterday. He said, "Be careful of those who may be jealous of your success. Don't let them bring you down!" so far, I haven't heard anything but positive comments, but I think he had some good advice.

Height:5'1.5 RNY:11/30/11 HW:307 SW:234 CW:136 GW:140 (LOST 73 Lbs. PRE-OP)

Tiffani A.
on 4/23/12 8:09 am - Virginia Beach, VA

RNY on 11/02/09

It's something in women's nature, I think. We are always comparing ourselves to others. If someone else if "worse" in some way we feel better about our flaws.
You are going to need positive support along this journey and it doesn't seem that this "friend" can be that for you. I agree that it may be time to cut ties. If you can't completely then at least remove her from your inner circle. She is toxic energy for you.
Just do what you need to do to be healthy. That's the best revenge anyway.

poet_kelly
on 4/23/12 8:56 am - OH

RNY on 11/04/08

I don't think it's something in women's nature. Many women are not like that. None of my women friends behaved that way when I had surgery, and I have never behaved that way towards anyone I know that has lost weight or had surgery.

Kelly

Please note: I AM NOT A DOCTOR. If you want medical advice, talk to your doctor. Whatever I post, there is probably some surgeon or other health care provider somewhere that disagrees with me. If you want to know what your surgeon thinks, then ask him or her. Check out my blog.

Tiffani A.
on 4/23/12 9:22 am - Virginia Beach, VA

RNY on 11/02/09

I didn't mean to offend and I apologize. I didn't mean that all women are jealous and unsupportive. In my experience women tend to be more jealous of each other for whatever reason, than men are. I don't consider myself to be a jealous person, but I am still very insecure and have found myself wondering if I'm bigger or smaller than another woman so I am guilty of making these kinds of comparisons.
There are many women who are supportive and encouraging and those are the ones you should seek out.

poet_kelly
on 4/23/12 9:28 am - OH

RNY on 11/04/08

It may be true that women are more jealous than men, at least when it comes to appearance. I think our society kind of encourages women to have more body image issues than men.

there is a difference, though, I think, in making those comparisons and wondering if you are bigger or smaller than someone else and not talking to a friend that is losing weight or telling a bunch of people that a friend will not get smaller than you. It's possible to wonder about that or make the comparisons in your mind but still be a good friend and still be supportive and not say hurtful things.

Kelly

Please note: I AM NOT A DOCTOR. If you want medical advice, talk to your doctor. Whatever I post, there is probably some surgeon or other health care provider somewhere that disagrees with me. If you want to know what your surgeon thinks, then ask him or her. Check out my blog.

MichelleNC
on 4/23/12 8:13 am

Also if she was saying such mean spirited stuff about you I am not sure I would call her a friend. I know a friend who talks bad about a acquaintance because she had the surgery. She lost 150 on her own and she said the RNY friend would probably be a bag of bones with all the saggy skin. It hurt my feelings because I was having the surgery BUT I think people who don't research the surgery and know all the hard work it takes to survive think it is the easy way out.
Good Luck

Michelle
Did the happy dance onto the Loser's Bench March 18, 2013!

Visit my blog at http://skinnyundermyfat.blogspot.com/

iisme
on 4/23/12 8:16 am

RNY on 01/08/09

Take it from me. Surround yourself with people who encourage you and who bring light into your life. Life it too short to be surrounding by negativity.
Just my 2cents

10 pounds loss pre-op

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