I dont want to be to skinny

Paula C.
on 12/2/12 2:19 am
On December 2, 2012 at 5:45 AM Pacific Time, Larry Wassmann wrote:

 

My only advice as someone who has been thin and fat over the last 50 years is that no matter if you want to be skinny or just healthy make sure the goal you have is your real goal, not just a weight you are satisfied with. Believe me there is a difference. I see photos of a lot of people here and I am sorry but they are still fat in my mind. But if that is truly what they want to look like and will have no remorse later on, then that is fine. Over the years I lost a lot of weight and but never really hit what I wanted as a goal. This time by god, I am going to hit my goal and I really don’t care what others think about it. It is my goal not theirs. I am going to weigh what I did as a senior in High School.   

I see photos of a lot of people here and I am sorry but they are still fat in my mind.

I am not sure what you mean by that, are you saying you see the photos, and you think they are still fat?   If so, that is not very nice!!!!!!!

MyLady Heidi
on 12/2/12 5:15 am

Sometimes the truth isn't nice.  He didn't call anyone fat to their face and believe me none of us was hiding it from anyone ever.  There are things you can hide, being fat isn't one of them.  This is one time in life when you can determine your own success or failure, if you wanna say 200 is your goal weight and you are happy there, then thats great for you.  But that doesn't mean the world will see you as thin, nor will they compare to your former size, they see one thing, the size you are now.  We all like a certain look.  Personally I wish I was a never fat size 2, that would be my ideal, but when you get older and you have wrinkles etc, being too thin makes you look older and sometimes sickly.  I didn't have wls to be fat, nor did I have it to look 20 years older then I am.  There is a balance, everyone needs to find their own.  But don't think society doesn't stick a size label on everyone, because they do.

Cheryl N.
on 12/2/12 2:25 am - Des Moines, WA

I will never be a size 2 or bone skinny.  I still have excess skin due to being morbidly obese for over 30 years. 

 

 

246 in Dec 2008 before banded 1/28/09 at 215 lbs, band crapped 9/09 at 170 lbs and struggled with it and regained to 203 revised to bypass on 8/1/11 and am very happy.

 

    
Larry Wassmann
on 12/2/12 3:55 am - Lacey, WA
RNY on 05/09/12

Paula C.

Well yes to me when I look at some of the before and after photos to me some of the people, men and women still look fat. That is just my opinion. They may want to look like they do, and like I said that is up to them. But when I see muffin tops, and rolls and big bulges here and there to me that is fat. Again some guys like women like that, nothing wrong with it. Right now my stomach and the rest of me is pretty flat, but I got these big man boobs and they look fat under my cloths. I may have to keep them as PS to get them off and I think that is the only way they are going to go, is way out of the question financially these days for me. Some others like gals very thin. My wife is 5’ 1’ and weighs 112 pounds. To me, she looks thin. But to her she sees something I am not sure and thinks she needs to lose weight. Now me, I am still a big fat ass and need to lose a lot more weight at least 25 pounds. Most folks are saying I am too skinny already but I will not be happy until I see myself the way I want to look and that is my point. You got to be honest with yourself and look the way you want. I am sorry to sound mean, but society is mean. Have you ever had someone say so you can hear, “ hay look at that big fat man”? Well I have and I thought I was looking good. Yes life is hard sometimes and the little boy who said that was just being truthful and I should have been truthful with myself but was not. End of mean rant!!!

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Paula C.
on 12/2/12 4:34 am

You are the most rudest, obnoxious and very critical of people here.  You are not even a year out.  Don't you even realize that some people may be at a normal weight, but still looks somewhat "fat" because of their EXCESSIVE skin???? 

 

Larry Wassmann
on 12/2/12 10:12 am - Lacey, WA
RNY on 05/09/12

Geeeeee are we having a bad day????

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Cherokeesage
on 12/2/12 2:39 pm
RNY on 02/24/12

It is a personal goal for each of us.  My Dr said he felt 170 was a good goal for me.  My personal goal is 160.  I chose this wt because  I remembered feeling and looking best at 160 after years of being underweight.  I am in a size 12 and look very nice in clothes.  I do have lose skin on the belly, thighs and upper arms that is not attractive but could be much worse and will be much worse if I lose more wt.   I am 15 pounds over wt for my age/height when charted. 

I went from a 12 misses to a 24W within 6 yrs.  This all happened during our relocation here and the friends I have today saw me at the heavier wt so they think I am real skinny now.   My family has seen me much smaller but even they keep remarking in a positive manner as to how small I look.   I can remember my real skinny years (size 0 to 3) so know that I am not skinny.   However, due to the "bounce back" wt that veterans chat about, it may be to my advantage if I'm not through losing and lose another 15 - 20 pounds in this honeymoon phase. 

I look and feel 100% better than I did pre op in February.    I'm afraid if I go under where I am now that I'll look horrible in that it will cause wrinkles along with more sagging skin.   I believe that the natural wt will be determined by our own body so I'm not sure where I'll actually be a year from now.  I reached my health goals and am thrilled each time I think about where I am vs just 9 months ago.  In fact, each clothing size lost was a amazing feeling as it happened and reaching onederland was a huge reward.  I thought I was done when I reached size 14 and was thrilled with my appearance.  I went out and bought some new pants only to be out of them in a month.  The wt has slowed almost to a stop so I think this may be my natural wt even though I expect I'll continue to lose a little each month for the next  9 months.  I have bought a lot of new clothes so really hope this will be my natural wt. as I love what I see in the mirror!  

Have FUN on your journey and enjoy getting rid of the Plus sizes.

Hugs, Barb

Banded  Oct 2008:  290       
RNY Feb 2012:        245    
Dr's set goal:            170 reached Oct 11, 2012
My goal:                     160  reached Dec 1, 2012
Today :                       145-150

I am half the person I was in 2008.

Kelly L.
on 12/3/12 2:42 pm - San Jacinto, CA
I didn't want to be "skinny" either.. I think it's important to keep in mind that once you have your surgery there won't be a lot that you can really control. At least there hasn't been a lot of control for me...
My surgeon wanted me to lose 114 pounds..my goal weight was 160. I am weighing in at 129 right now.. Still losing weight and let me tell you, I'm pretty freaking thin. I still have an estimated 5 months of malabsorption so... I think I'm still going to lose more weight.. I was advised by my surgeon early November not to lose more weight.. Ummmm ok, how do I make that happen? I really have no control. So, just remember... You may have a moment or two where you are too thin.. Just role with it. And do your best to enjoy the ride
Good luck to you.

     

 
  HW 274. CW 129

    
Jocelyn F.
on 12/4/12 8:04 am - VA
RNY on 07/28/14

I know where you're coming from, as I don't want to be super skinny either (I'm preop). I want to be slim and strong, and keep my hourglass shape. Through the years as my weight fluctuated my chest has always been the same size so I'm really hoping that I don't end up with deflated windsocks. Cause the idea of impants kind of freaks me out (what if they break/migrate/start giving off gamma radiation/other stupid things my mind thinks up) but sad small saggy boobs is not going to work. And I want to keep the good hip/waist ratio. In my mind this is another reason to focus on protein and some weight training vs just calories and some cardio. It may or may not make a different but trying your best for overall health and strength can only help.

There are a couple of girls I've seen model for Lane Bryant that I would classify as chubby, they definitely aren't obese. they probably wear a 12 or 14. It also helps that they are tall as all models are, and are STUNNING.

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