Wow true colours from a chubby friend
I don't talk to her about my weight loss. I do talk about some stuff, and I showed her my flappy arms in the locker room the other day. We both laughed at the way I could make them flap.
on 7/27/13 8:56 pm
Jealousy
Fear
Misinformation
Loss of another 'fatty friend'
The possible reasons are many, however the bottom line is, this person is NOT your supporter, not in your corner, nothing I would consider a friend. A friend would tell you to your face that they are concerned, not talk behind your back.
I'd drop 350 lbs real quick by ending that 'friendship'.
HW333--SW 289--GW of 160 5' 11" woman. I only know the way I know & when you ask for input/advice, you'll get the way I've been successful through my surgeon & nutritionist. Please consult your surgeon & nutritionist for how to do it their way. Biggest regret? Not doing this 10 years ago! Every day is better than the day before...and it was a pretty great day!
I agree with the poster that said she is probably afraid that it WILL work. However, just because she may not be responding the way that you would like doesn't mean that she doesn't support you and want what's best for you. Sometimes the thought of change can be scary and overwhelming for those around us.
Don't write her off just yet. Give her a chance to adjust to the changes that you're about to embark on.
I will say if it happens more often then not it's time to reconsider how much time you spend with her!
HW - 297 start of Pre-op - 290.2 SW- 279.2 GW - 145
A middle aged over the hump and over what "I'm suppose to do" woman, with the wild spirit and a nasty case of depression and anxiety!
I'll add a third because it needs to be said.....she may not want to be the morbidly obese friend once you lose weight. If your friendship involves lots of food her eating companion is gone. She may also be a little jealous you are going to lose weight. It's also possible her insurance won't pay for surgery.
My suggestion is shrug it off and don't bring it up to her again. We (most of us) have been in her shoes where comments were made about weight.....that **** was frustrating.
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I agree with what everyone else has said. I know I tried 8 years ago to have this surgery and I wanted it so bad, but my insurance company denied me. I was defeated then and gave up until this last year. I finally had an insurance that would pay for it and I was determined NOTHING would stop me. So, I went through the process and had surgery on 5/22/13. Along the way I've heard awful things from various people about how it wouldn't work, etc. But, those people are either fighting their own battles or are severely uneducated ;)
Don't let the naysayers get you down!
Thanks everyone. Yes I think she's jealous. I don't know if she has private Heath insurance. But you would think with diabetes she should have it. Anyway, I'm going to distance myself from her, I don't need negative comments in my life at the moment. Plus what if I lost all my hair, she would have a field day picking on that. Lol. I'm determine to loose this weight and keep it off. I have already planned my next show season with my horses. I'm aiming at Sydney royal 2014 Easter show. I'm going to ride my own pony, not get someone else to, and I'm really looking forward to that :) from there in going to bathurst royal, then heading around New South Wales doing a show tour. A few months on the road with a team if ponies in my truck. I can't wait! Il b a new me. :)