Onderland! and uncomfortable with all the attention!

Well, I hit 199.6 last night, 198 this morning. Hard to believe that I am in onderland territory! I am now currently down 47 pounds, and all of a sudden, just like everyone said would happen when you reach close to the 50 pound mark, everyone is noticing. Especially at work. I literally get stopped in the hallway with and exclamation "OMG you look good" or "wow! you have lost alot of weight!" or "you look so pretty!". While I am grateful for the remarks, I am finding myself very uncomfortable with all the attention. I feel like I have to explain myself to people, what I did or how I got there, and quite frankly, I don't want to! yes, I think I like the fact people notice, but I don't get what is so different now than before. why am I having a hard time with this?

 

Awesome on ONEderland!!!! I'm knocking on the door.  I'm at 202.  I too get stopped in the halls at work.. I just say thank you and keep walking...  The greatest moment was when my Ex husband saw me last week for first time and went crazy!!! I laughed and blew him off!!!! HA HA HA!!!!

Awesome!  I am at 209lbs!  I cannot wait for Onderland! 

If people ask how you did it, just say "Super-duper low carb, portion control, lots of water and exercising".  That's all they need to know!

I can relate, once i lost my first 30 pounds or so everyone noticed. I was teaching at the time and my students were saying something everyday at school, at first i.bb felt ashamed to tell anybody about my wls but as time went on i was so proud of myself because its not the surgery that made me thin but its lots of work. You have to eat right and excercise, now give yourself a pat on your back!!! Now 2 years aftet surgery, i tell everyone! You never know wjo you could reach out to after wls and we all know the struggles of trying to lose weight on our own. I educate people now and motivate them. Im truly blessed to have had this surgery because it brought alot more out of me than confidence , it brought out my self esteem being a fat kid all my life.
Congrats to you, we are the brave!

I'm having a weird time too...am close to Onederland...people are noticing.....unless I am with hubby, I am wearing baggy clothes..not that I expect anyone to jump me, LOL, but the attention is not comfortable for me....I too say, depending on who it is, that the loss is due to high protein/low carb/etc....and blame it on my hubby - that if I don't lose weight, he won't lose weight, so I'm doing it for him.  They know he has medical issues, so it is feasible.  I hope to get comfortable in my own skin as I move along this journey.....it took me forever to get comfy in my fat self, now it's got to be at whatever weight I am.

congrats on getting under 200 !!  keep up the great work!
 

sophie

Yay! Welcome to Onederland!!!!
I posted an updated picture on Facebook this week and got a lot of attention. I hadn't updated my profile since Thanksgiving (60+lbs ago). It did make me feel uncomfortable. I appreciate the compliments but have not told people about my wls. I'm sure many suspect but it's not their buisiness. I only updated my pic b/cv it was my son's 1St Communion and it was a nice family photo.
I can totally relate with your feelings. I feel my weight loss becomes the topic of every conversation I have. It's 24/7 until people get used to seeing us now.
Again, congratulations on your success!!!

Congrats on onederland!!! So exciting. I understand how you feel.  I feel crazy, when people make a big deal about my weight loss I feel self conscious, when they don;t say anything I feel self conscious.  NUTS.  I guess we should be grateful for the kind remarks. After a while ppl will be used to the "new us" and we will miss the compliments. 

I have the same thing going on, people that ignored me are like whoa you look sexy and I'm looking around wondering who they are talking to. I'll always be a fat chick at heart and obnoxious.

 

Hello,

I am not asking anyone in particular but rather in general, I have to do a 3 month dr supervis diet before I get sleeved. My first appt is next week. Hopefully will get to be sleeved mid September . The thing that has my anxiety up, and maybe this is silly, but one of the things I have always felt that people liked me for me. I'm nervous wondering if I will know if someone likes me for me after I lose the weight, has anyone felt that way pre surgery? I know I will feel uncomfortable getting attention after the weight loss, I guess I have always gotten used to all the negative attention, name calling, repulsive looks, that sort of thing. I wonder how other people deal with it, just because I don't want the insecurity to paralyze me into not doing what is best for me. You know? Hopefully someone can relate, congrats to all of you getting lost im wonderland!!!!!!!

Lisa

I don't think I have the answer you are looking for, but something you said made me think - don't worry if they like you, you should worry if you like them.

sophie