Are we "Fudgers" and "Justifiers" ???

OK.... I'm a life long fattie that has got a reprieve from obesity.... for now

I don't believe for one second that I'm fixed, but if this doesn't work.... stick a fork in me, I'm done....it's over

Pre-op and before some lengthly education, if the wind blew that was a reason for a Frappachino and a maple oat scone.

I still have the battles of justifying..... just one cookie, just a thin slice of cake, that bread looks goood (sound familiar) and in maintenance I can do a some of that.....and I do....

Yup, sounds familiar, because fudging and justifying is a big reason "we" have weight issues. Why one person can eat something and another can't.... well that's another subject.

We were dealt a Janky hand when it comes to the way our bodies process food/calories and our mentality and desires for food quantity or content or most likely, both.

Which brings me to a recent thought.........

Just in the last year I've read on here a "New Term".... it might not be new, but it's new to me..

"Diet Fatigue"

Sounds kind of official, fairly sophisticated term..... almost medical...... and I almost bought into it..... because I'm still that obese person looking for justification to eat that/another cookie !!!!

Diet Fatigue Translation:(to me)

- giving up

- lack of commitment and compliance

- tired of trying

- poor excuse to go off track

- means I'm not doing heathy right

- major cop out

- Weakness

- lack of foundation

Sorry people, I call bull**** to this term. It's just another way to get off track and justify.....

(For me) Diet Fatigue and Moderation are excuses for justification..... 

You don't have to agree.... I'm waay past caring, but I don't think my reality is to different than most.

frisco

Ahhh, I used this term just the other day.  Here is my translation:

I'm sick of watching and being so careful.  I want a piece of "fill in the blank" or a few "fill in the blank" and I've been so good that it won't hurt me.  I'm just wanting a short reprieve.  But I don't get one.  I didn't lose all this weight w/ rationalizing. 

So, I white knuckled through it.  But for me, the translation was exactly what it reads.  So tired of the carefulness.  Just wanting to cut loose.  I know, though, that it is not in the cards for me.  Not unless I just want to "stick a fork in me", too.  It's been a very long 7.5 months.  Lifetime is much longer.  Sometimes we get fatigued.  It doesn't mean we get to stop. 

I agree with you, if I'm reading you right.  Being tired of something doesn't mean you give up it just means you are tired and acknowledging it is okay.  How many times as a parent did I get worn down and wanted to run away.  My kid hasn't been orphaned yet :p

Though he is 20 and probably should be lol

Yes, exactly.  I haven't gone off plan but last week I was sick to death of it.  I just wanted to eat what I "wanted" to eat....and it wasn't on plan....and it didn't cross my lips.  But yeah - fatigue for sure was my truth at that point. 

Good analogy with parenting.  Love the life, love the adventure, but sometimes you just get bogged down in the details and the moments. 

Thanks folks. I needed to hear that (again)

Mmmmmm fudge 

I thought that exact same thing!

The term "diet fatigue" worries me as well.  Eating healthy shouldn't be something that is forced and temporary. Its supposed to be the new normal - a new way of living and sustaining ourselves.  Dieting pre-surgery was like holding my breath - I could do it for a while, but eventually, I knew I'd get tired and give in to the old habits - "diet fatigue"

But now I don't feel that way.  I can see sustaining myself on 3 or 4 small meals a day - proteins first, healthy veggies, low carb, no grazing with occasional splurges. This is low stress with no sense of diet fatigue.

That's a real change.

Carol

I am approaching 1 yr post surgery in mid October.   I started at 354 and am now 261.  My doctor set a goal of 225 but i don't want to go quite that far.  However, I still want to get to at least 245.

I was doing great for the first 7 months and I completely agreed with your view of "new normal". I have even used the same phrase about "holding your breath".   I am not as restricted as I used to be.  As each day passes I think success is due less and less to VSG and more and more because of my choices.  While I can eat more than I should,  I tell myself that I choose not to.  I choose to "breathe shallow" instead of "holding my breath", because, "holding one's breath" is not a sustainable lifestyle. 

Now I am not as confident anymore.  I haven't had any weight loss in the last 2 months even though I have become more physically active.  Thankfully I haven't gained anything either.  The habits that I developed in the first 7 months don't seem to be serving me so well now.  

I've been emotionally down the last 3 days and I have eaten emotionally like i did pre-surgery, and it scares me to see what I am capable of eating.  I don't want to screw this up. 

Cappy, you have done so well.  Tell me, have you never felt like you were "holding your breath" since surgery ?

Hi Pogo! I want to comment on your post. Hope that's okay.

I did great for the first 7+ months, too. I actually got to goal in 7 months 11 days. Viola! right??? Well, I thought I had laid some good ground work. And, actually, I had, but not enough. I actually relied on my new sleeve to get to goal more than I realized at the time.

I am an emotional eater. I eat to soothe, celebrate, thin****upy my time, because it's bedtime, oh, look! I must try the new bakery, etc.... I think you probably get what I mean. Here's the deal for me. When I'm eating emotionally I'm not making good food choices. I'm eating slider foods. I can eat a ton of slider food. Seriously -  I eat 3 - 3.5 ounces of meat and 1/4-1/2 cup veggies and I'm full. But I can still eat half a dozen normal sized chocolate chip cookies. I can eat a large serving of frozen yogurt. I can eat chips, crackers, etc...in voluminous amounts. You get picture.

You will have a reduced capacity the rest of your life, but you'll always be able to eat highly processed crap food in large quantities because those foods won't close the pyloric valve. Choose healthy, WLS appropriate foods and you won't be able to eat mass quantities. Honestly!

You haven't lost weight because you've hit a maintenance level. You have to reduce your caloric intake. It's that simple. Hard as that may be to read, it's the truth.

Can you talk with a nutritionist about creating a long term and sustainable food plan that doesn't leave you holding your breath? You can do this. Look how far you've already come. You only have 16 more pounds to your personal goal and 36 to your doctor's goal. You are so very close!

All the best!