So strange

 
how without overeating so many of our emotions are not suppressed anymore.  Having some problems with my marriage which have been there for a long time but I am really seeing them clearly now.  It's been so hard especially since I have two young kids.  I still wouldn't change the fact of me losing the weight, it's the best thing I have done for myself, even though it may come at a price.  Sorry for going on, was just wondered if others struggled with stuff after losing the weight.  Almost at my goal and I can't wait!

Thanks for listening!

Soo

Even a good strong marriage can have bumps during the first couple of years you are post-op. I know my DH was terribly jealous that I was able to eat so much trying to slow my WL down while he was still struggling to follow the doc's low fat / high carb diet and getting worse labs and gaining weight. It did put a strain on things. I think we're past it now but we still have a few things we just have to get around or over or through. I guess that's natural. 

There are a couple of LWs here that have had to separate and even divorce. The one thing I heard early out was that a bad marriage will likely get worse and a strong marriage will likely get stronger. No one ever said that there wouldn't be challenges to get through either situation though. Sometimes counseling helps...a lot. Might not be a bad idea to help both or just you find your path. 

I'll hope for the best, whatever that entails.

--gina
  

we were in deep gack before so..

my old man has never acknowledged my weight loss (though he was quick to point out my gain)

also-he has put on a good 50#  in the past 2 yrs.-and he is mui in denial.

he has terminal cancer that is on a slow boat so..divorce isnt going to happen..i think the ongoing stress of the decline and all the waiting has extracted most of my black heart and tested the evidence of a soul.

children set the course of my actions as you well know.  you will know what to do when the time comes.  keep a clear mind-hang in there.