Second Chances
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on 6/14/11 10:14 pm
on 6/14/11 10:14 pm
I think the thing I like the most about my WLS about two and a half years post ( other than the amazing fact that my weight stays the same for the first time in my life and my body is NOT my first issue every day ..)
is that I'm finally realizing I can actually give myself a second chance at EVERYTHING ... if i choose to take it . I may have made stoopid choices in the past based on all kinds of stoopid thinking and limitations ( many of which had to do with weight and health and how society and I saw me .. ) but I really don't have to stand by those choices now.
Its clear to me that noone has thought of ME practically EVER . So why should I CARE about THEM?
I think a lot of times I explained to myself that i was dong things for others when i was acting out of fear ..when i was taking the easiest road out ... when i wasnt showing up for myself because i was afraid to .
I think I'm going to look for a therapist today because im sick and tired of being STUCK and frustrated and wasting my precious irreplaceable time on this earth !!
is that I'm finally realizing I can actually give myself a second chance at EVERYTHING ... if i choose to take it . I may have made stoopid choices in the past based on all kinds of stoopid thinking and limitations ( many of which had to do with weight and health and how society and I saw me .. ) but I really don't have to stand by those choices now.
Its clear to me that noone has thought of ME practically EVER . So why should I CARE about THEM?
I think a lot of times I explained to myself that i was dong things for others when i was acting out of fear ..when i was taking the easiest road out ... when i wasnt showing up for myself because i was afraid to .
I think I'm going to look for a therapist today because im sick and tired of being STUCK and frustrated and wasting my precious irreplaceable time on this earth !!
I agree, life is about second, third and ...endless chances. We have endless capacity to make mistakes and endless possibilities to correct them. Hopefully learning is a lifelong passion, because it makes things interesting.
No one is ever going to think of you, as you do. In fact if it happened I bet you'd be freaked out and feel harassed. So You think of You, and that's the best you can hope for. If therapy is what you want to do to explore, go for it. I like to run and walk and ruminate. So far, that's been the best therapy for me. However, if the choices and and chances get tougher, outside help is always appreciated.
Good luck Ava. You deserve the best.
No one is ever going to think of you, as you do. In fact if it happened I bet you'd be freaked out and feel harassed. So You think of You, and that's the best you can hope for. If therapy is what you want to do to explore, go for it. I like to run and walk and ruminate. So far, that's been the best therapy for me. However, if the choices and and chances get tougher, outside help is always appreciated.
Good luck Ava. You deserve the best.
I so agree with the second chances.
I have been recovering from a cold that settled in my chest and caused me to not run so much as I had been previous to the cold. I was biking to get miles in but it wasn't a strenuous workout.
Finally today my husband was able to be here and get up with the grandchildren so I could do an early morning run. Though I coughed up a lung as I ran and did my run as interval training because I could not run a full 5k straight it felt like a new beginning.
When I was heavy and took a break from exercise it was the end of the exercise cycle. I didn't have enough energy to get myself back on track if I had not been feeling well because it was too exhausting to start all over again. Having lost 101 pounds makes it much easier to say, "Okay, I've taken care of myself, now time to get back on track." I'll be happy to run again on Friday because I got through today.
As to seeking help. I am thinking of going back to my psychologist too. I've harbored a lot of bad feelings lately that just bring me down and I need to nip these self destructive thoughts in the bud too. Hope you find someone who listens well. I had to visit many before finding the right one, so keep trying until you find the one you like.
I have been recovering from a cold that settled in my chest and caused me to not run so much as I had been previous to the cold. I was biking to get miles in but it wasn't a strenuous workout.
Finally today my husband was able to be here and get up with the grandchildren so I could do an early morning run. Though I coughed up a lung as I ran and did my run as interval training because I could not run a full 5k straight it felt like a new beginning.
When I was heavy and took a break from exercise it was the end of the exercise cycle. I didn't have enough energy to get myself back on track if I had not been feeling well because it was too exhausting to start all over again. Having lost 101 pounds makes it much easier to say, "Okay, I've taken care of myself, now time to get back on track." I'll be happy to run again on Friday because I got through today.
As to seeking help. I am thinking of going back to my psychologist too. I've harbored a lot of bad feelings lately that just bring me down and I need to nip these self destructive thoughts in the bud too. Hope you find someone who listens well. I had to visit many before finding the right one, so keep trying until you find the one you like.
You are smart to seek out help. I couldn't have made it without a therapist this past year and a half. We finally said no more sessions last week. She'll be there if I need a "tune-up".
We left it that my role for myself is acceptance of myself and others. The most important thing for me is to realize no one around me will change, only I can change my attitude.
You are so lively and engaged in life. You don't have to settle for anything less than what you want and deserve.
Those second (third, fourth, fifth, etc) chance are there for us to make for ourselves!!!
We left it that my role for myself is acceptance of myself and others. The most important thing for me is to realize no one around me will change, only I can change my attitude.
You are so lively and engaged in life. You don't have to settle for anything less than what you want and deserve.
Those second (third, fourth, fifth, etc) chance are there for us to make for ourselves!!!
Wendy
5'3" SW: 210
5'3" SW: 210
Hurray, Ava
I gave myself a second chance at life with this surgery to get the weight off. Now I am looking at a 3rd chance to get my life back with a new knee. Doesn't mean the decisions are easy, but they are there to be made.
I gave myself a second chance at life with this surgery to get the weight off. Now I am looking at a 3rd chance to get my life back with a new knee. Doesn't mean the decisions are easy, but they are there to be made.
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