Good Morning. Time Machines-- another poll

I think I'm like Maria.  I would spend more time with my kids while they were smaller.  I thought my job was my life and spent way too much time working instead of enjoying life.

I would like to think I would be smarter and not have married at 17(divorced at 22), but then I would not have moved here, met my DH and had my children - so it all worked out for the best in the long run.  There are a couple of things I would change, but like some others, not posting that here!!!

I would have worked more on my weight and tried to not let it get totally out of hand, exercised more.  A big thing for me would be to teach my children how to eat nutritionally.  I was such a poor example for them and we did fast food so much of the time.  I could not have done WLS any earlier - I just don't think I was prepared either emotionally or financially for the responsibility that comes with it.

Liz, hope everything turns out ok for your furbaby!!!  I'll be swinging Little Willie for y'all.

Linda

Linda, thanks...I hope so too.

1.  I wish I would have watched my weight better instead of waiting until I had 100 pounds to lose. 

2.  And if I didn'****ch my weight, I wish I would have had WLS a long time ago when my DD      suggested it.

3.   Wish I would have never gotten my first credit card.

4.   Built a new house instead of remodling an old one.

5.   Wouldn't have gotten my tubes tied after DD#3.  My DH wanted a son so bad.

Sadly, I could write a book with all my regrets.  Most of the time I try not to have regrets because I know I did the best I could with what I had at the time and most of the time things turned out the way they were supposed to in the end, I guess.
I think my biggest regret was marrying my first husband.  I kept wanting to end it before the wedding but I didn't want to hurt him plus all the plans were made, etc.  I knew it was a mistake and I did it anyway.  Ironically, by not wanting to  hurt him I wound up hurting many people in the end.  I tell myself that it was meant to be because of my children but still...
Many of my regrets are because of that marriage.  So many mistakes I made.  If only I had listened to my gut.
I have regrets about my first WLS, too, mainly I wish I had a better surgeon.  I wish I knew better about changing my eating habits as I finally did this time.  I wish I had been able to do something when I first regained a little weight before it got out of hand.  I kept thinking it was normal rebound and it would stop at any time.  Looking back I see how stupid that was.  I wish I had a support group then to help me and guide me instead of being too ashamed to seek help and support.  I could have saved myself a lot of physical and emotional suffering had I swallowed my pride.
About the only things I don't regret are my children.  Even though the cir****tances may not have been the best I have never regretted for a second any of my kids.  They are the best things that ever happened to me.  I regret their fathers but not them.

My DD called off her second marriage the week before the wedding. Her only regret was getting the dress hemmed when she knew that she was thinking about calling it off.

My regret about the whole mess was...I wish she would have come to her senses before the first wedding...but like you she also has 2 beautiful children so at least something good came out of it.

She did the right thing.  One thing I have learned is that when I am in doubt about something I need to not do it until I am sure.  Very few things I regret not doing, only things that I did.

I also would not have gotten married at 17.
I would not have had a hysterectomy and wish I had known about herbal supplements before I did.
I would not have messed around in school instead of finishing  for a higher degree.
I would refuse to allow DH to make some of the financial  decisions he made that have seriously impacted our lives.
I would have gotten WLS sooner.
plus some things that don't belong on a public message board,lol.

I would have had wls sooner and I probably would have been happier with a DS.
I would have gotten my masters degree before I started having kids. I wish I had not spent as much on a house and been able to travel more.I regret sending my son to a big state university. He would have done better in a smaller school that would accommodate his ADHD.
And then there are millions of times I needed a backspace for my mouth!