Quick update and a question

 DH and I have had some very serious conversations since I found out about his other life and promptly moved out into my own place.  He is being evaluated for sexual addiction with possible inpatient or intensive outpatient therapy tonight.  I am still at DDs house for another few days, but I am scheduled for therapy with a specialist for spouses of sex addicts the day after I return.  On that day, I have an appt with my GYN for some tests, my new therapist, my lawyer and we close on the refinance of our house (this allowed an increase of $200 in alimony).  We have changed the divorce papers to a temporary separation pending therapy.  I still love my husband more than anything in this world.  He is my soulmate.  

Now my question, when can I have a glass of wine?  I think if ever someone deserved  one, next week I will be that person!  I had surgery on January 6.  I only want one glass!  When I was packing up to leave DH, I found several bottles of expensive red wine in the wine cupboard.  They now reside in a box in my new kitchen.  Lol!  I moved into my new house on Monday and left for DDs on Wednesday.  I have 2 lawn chairs and a new mattress and box springs at my house.  All i have is water and protein powder in my kitchen.  And expensive red wine!  

I have a lot of shopping to do!  I'm serious about the wine?  When can I have it?  I feel silly calling the doctor to ask.  But I can if that's what you think I should do.

The reason behind the alcohol prohibition post WLS is to give your liver some respect. It's working, or been working, overtime as you've been losing weight at a rapid pace. I doubt one glass will hurt but only you know if one glass will start you on a road for more. Swinging lizards for you as you and your hubby work through this terrible time.

--gina

i don't think we were ever "given permission" to drink again.  but I never asked either.  I have had a very small glass on occasion but I am a really cheap drunk these days, like 2 oz does me in.  I also won't waste the calories on it.  I love after dinner drinks but have stayed away from them because I would want one every night. 

You are probably fine having a glass of wine.  Just don't plan on leaving the house afterward and plan on cooking with the rest because it will be stale before you can get it all drunk if you really stick to one glass a day/night.

 I didn't think about the liver thing.  I wasn't really sure why the prohibition.  I drank quite heavily in my younger and wilder days, but learned from my mistakes.  These days I just wish good wine came in smaller bottles.  It such a waste to pour most of it down the drain which is what happens at my house all the time.  Thanks for the concern.  All the talk about transfer addiction on the RNY board  does have me concerned.  I'm keeping an eye on my shopping habit too for the same reason.  Thanks again Gina.  This is a terrible time!  

Maybe cook with it?  That way you get the taste, but a lot of the alcohol evaporates.

Swinging cats for you to find some peace.

Wishing you both the best.

Wishing you the best...

Nothing more to add on the wine side.

Liz

Good Luck and Take Care Tonya.  It is a difficult time with so many changes going on at once.

Tonya,
Good luck with your therapy.  Only you can decide what you need to do for the future, just take your time and do what is right for you and take care of you!

Please be very careful with alcohol, especially with all of the emotions you are going through right now.  I've read alot about the transfer addiction to alcohol and it is very fast.

Wishing you the very best.

Linda

 I think you are right..  I will skip the alcohol!  It's too risky with so many changes in my life right now.  I had 1 cookie with my grandson when I got here....last night I ate 3!  I need to check my behaviors.  I've worked too hard to give into something so meaningless as double-stuffed Oreos.  Thanks for the advice.  I think I will take it!