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I have the same but opposite issue. My wife is behaving the same way. To the point that she is mean and pushing me away. Using this time that I am on a strict diet to eat more and worse foods than before. I am concerned about her physically, and her self fulfilling prophecy. I have assured her daily, I have sacrificed a lot for her and our family. I kinda regret surgery, because of the possible of her pushing me out the door. and the food she is eating, is everything I was addicted to for all of my life. I am unsure of the future, but I know either way, the weight is coming off!!
RNY July 13th, 2015
Jerry
ugh! I've been so exited and positive. Up until now my husband has been very supportive. Last night he told me I am going to loose weight and become a different person who will not want to settle just for him. I have always had low self confidence. I've always been the fat girl. He has always told me I'm pretty. He has always encouraged me to have better self confidence. When I told him I love him more than life itself. He said "yeah we will see, we will end up divorced". For a few minutes I thought " maybe I won't get the surgery which is aug 7." Then I came to my sences, I'm doing this because I am very unhealthy and unhappy. If he loves me why wouldn't he want me happy and healthy? I hope this surgery does not cost me my marriage? I have a feeling he may push my soon to be skinny ass right out the door?!?!
Jenn 77 p
You concern is so interesting. I had WLS 9 months ago and I've lost 110. My husband and I have been married 12 years and I was always overweight. He has always told me I'm beautiful and that he likes bigger women, so I was worried about losing weight and that he wouldn't find me attractive any more. He, I now know, was worried as I was losing weight that I wouldn't be attracted to him since he is still a *****ubby. It was so funny because we both had the same but opposite fears. We talked about it and everything is fine now, but it was certainly stressful. Even today I was complaining about my gross extra skin and he said he liked it. :) He is very sweet. Hopefully you and your husband can just be very open about your concerns and talk about more as they come up. Good luck!
My husband of 40 yrs had WLS. All I can say is that we have been through THIN, THICK, and THIN.
It has always been a team effort and now with better health we can enjoy more of life together.
My husband of 25.5 years is very seriously considering WLS & I am having a lot of mixed emotions. I'm on one hand excited about the future & his health improvements and on the other hand I'm terrified that he will go hog-wild nuts when he realizes how awesome he already is & leave me just when things are getting good!
Once before, my hubby lost a lot of weight and it put a strain on our marriage. When he regained it all plus more he seemed to think I was happy, and really, I had just been overwhelmed with the changes we were going through at the time. I can say that when I have lost weight, it never made me want to leave him. I'm currently in a medical research study involving a rigorous exercise program, and hoping it will help me lose the 70 lbs I'd like to lose.
I witnessed the demise of my parents' AND a set of grandparents' marriages. My father was 29 when his parents split up & I was 24 when mine did. Needless to say I do not want our grown kids to go through that.
I'm just glad to know that there are others who have had these issues and survived.
I know this is an old message and all. I was just wondering why you were taking four calcium pills? I'm currently four months post opp. And I was told to take two multi vitamins and two calcium pills as well. And as for staying on the chewable I was allowed off as soon as I started having solid foods again.
I'm also wondering how your doing now with everything after the surgery?
Gastro sleeve 11/20/2014, Starting weight 299, Current weight 230.5 ,Goal weight 190 or less. 
Hope everything works out ok for your wife with her bloodwork. Will be thinking of you on 4/7/15 that's getting close. Soon you will be on the losers bench with us. Just remember that first week is a little pain for a couple days and I just wanted to sleep most of that week away. The second week things really start looking up. In the end we will find it is all worth it. Probably best that you and your wife are spaced out at least a couple weeks apart for this reason.
Keep me informed of how things are going for the both of you also!!
Lora
Doingitright2015
HW in life 282 HW265 at start SW 244 CW170
Thanks for that. I can take all the advice I can get. I'm glad everything is working out good in your recovery. That is a big "unknown" for us. Unfortunately my wife had to have her surgery postponed due to some concerns in her blood work. So we are now working through that as well. I have gotten mine scheduled and is on April 7th. A lot of changes coming.
Keep us updated on your progress.
Steve
