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Deman
on 5/30/09 6:53 am - Gainesville, FL
Topic: RE: 3 mos post op and husband cheated
Sorry to hear about you troubles. Some times spouses become insecure after one improves their self.  My wife became insecure after my wt. loss and at times still is. I  hope things work out  for your family.  I will pray four you. Deman

  
 

 

 
 

 

peggy76
on 5/22/09 10:41 am - girardville, PA
Topic: RE: 3 mos post op and husband cheated
 not to be assuming anything but........ are u sure he waited... it might not of been the first time...  could it be possible that u didnt want to know before? an now ur more aware of everything in ur life an holding ur self to higher standards...as well as ppl u share ur life with... 


                
CatJ
on 5/7/09 4:52 am
Topic: RE: Spouse can't handle my WLS

I am a domestic violence survivor.....HONEY RUN!

If he is telling your children he intends to kill you under any cir****tances then its time to go. I will share with you the thoughts that finally had me leave my abusive ex husband.. I looked at my baby daughter and thought to myself, "when she grows up and lets a man beat her it will be my fault because by staying I am teaching her that is how a man treats you when he says he loves you." Then I loved at my 2 little boys and thought..."someday they will get upset with their wives and beat them and another woman will have suffered because I choose to stay and let them think it is ok."

I packed right then...and I like you didn't have anything - no job, no where to go because my family wasn't a choice because he would have followed me, and no money.

I went to a battered women's shelter, then to the projects. I put myself thru school while on welfare being a single parent with 3 small kids. Now I am successful with 3 teenagers and even bought my second house.

Leave - if not for you -FOR YOUR KIDS!

    

Highest (Surgery 12-19-07) 230/Current 130 /Goal 140 - Made Goal at 8 months post-op!

bellab33
on 4/22/09 5:53 am
Topic: RE: Anyone have an UNsupportive spouse?
even my bf is being this way, i honestly think its bc most woman that are over weight have always had to be better at everything esle, such as personality and brains and the way we do things that after the weight loss we will be that much better and that tmost men are scared that we will just drop them. after reading so many posts that has to be what it is.
*~BRIANNA~*

"It's not  how good you are, its how good you want to be"

(deactivated member)
on 4/21/09 5:52 am - Clear Lake, MN
Topic: RE: Spouse can't handle my WLS
Your post is very scary......I would talk to your councelor, and then get the heck out.....

The threats of killing you I would take serious......

I checked out this forum today because my hubby and I are going through issues of dis-trust, etc. I've been getting a lot of attention lately from males and it's taking it's toll on my hubby....I feel I'm getting analized at everything I do..... I don't look for attention, I just get it.....It's hard on me also, because I don't know whether to enjoy it or run from it....

I'm at a loss......

Kelly

NewLeaf
on 3/23/09 3:46 pm - Canada
Topic: RE: WLS for two

Hello--there are several couples I have seen (whole families) at the VSG forum...you might want to ask them the questions :) Good luck

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on 3/21/09 11:37 pm - Irvine, CA
Topic: Maintenance Scheduled for Thursday, March 26th

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eljayem
on 2/13/09 10:05 pm
Topic: WLS for two

My husband had the surgery 2/07 and has lost 130 pounds - he's down to the 180s now.  He had some complicaitons, isn't really following any diet, but he's doing okay.  I am considering following suit (BMI 41ish) and am wondering if anyone here has experience with both partners having the surgery.  I'm a nurse, and knew what we were in for - I'm marginally worried about his jealousy which seemed weird the first year or two of our marriage, although we've been married 12 years, and at 48, even smaller I wouldn't  be a prize.  I also think he has unrealistic expectations about me controlling his eating after my surgery.  I recognize WLS is a tool, not a solution, but I'm hoping that it will make it easier to not overeat.  Just looking for some advice  or comments.

Eljay
 
While the weight loss is easier with surgery, the lifestyle is harder.
Mariah
on 2/8/09 8:35 am - Richmond, IN
Topic: Healthy recipe forum

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I have sent out over 120 invites now and I even won a mixer from Kitchenaid on tuesday for so many ppl joining.  I dont need it since I already have 2.  So I promised it to give it to a lady on here that recently lost her job and had signed up.  I hope she enjoys it and you all love the site as much as I do.  

 Anyone else wants to join  the recipe forum just let me know at [email protected] I send you an invite!!!

 This is my favorite site for Healthy Recipes

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http://www.mrrebates.com?refid=190995

 

 

Shawna G.
on 1/6/09 11:25 pm - Newberry, FL
Topic: RE: Anyone have an UNsupportive spouse?
My husband is not completely supportive.  He states it's because of the "concerns" of having a dangerous surgery that I "really don't have to have".  I finally have him "OK" with the Lap Band-- however, I've decided to have the RNY-- which he does not know (at the moment).
 Shawna
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