9 years out.

Sep 27, 2011

My how time flies. It is hard to believe it is 9 years, and sometimes it feels like forever. My body feels like my own now. and I recognize myself in the mirror. I finally can look in the mirror an see a woman who I think looks good. This year I decided to stop coloring my hair and now it s silvery grey. I thought it would make me look "old" but apparently not so bad. I have been asked out more times since I went grey than I ever did as a brunette. Surprisingly many of the ones asking are quite a bit younger - in their 30's. what in the world??? is that all about?  NO, I have not been accepting.

Now for the bad, I am in the process of a divorce. It has been a long time coming and the reasons are complex. I don't believe it is a gastric bypass casualty. 9 years post op. We have had many issues for many years, even before my wls. I'm not going into all of them out of respect to my husband and my children. Suffice it to say, I will always love my husband, always care about him and I wish him a good life. He is the father to my children and deserves my caring and respect for that alone, if nothing else. and we also have now 4 grandchildren together. We just do not belong together..

So life will be off in another direction. I have never lived alone or on my own before, so that is a little bit scarey and exciting all at the same time.. It will be an opportunity for growth. Having met my husband at 13 and married at 17, well, my dating life was skipped right over so I am starting out like a 15 year old in the dating world where men may have had 20 partners or more in the past so that is quite nerve wracking as well.

I'm still following the same basic diet, though I am a bit more relaxed. I'm doing a lot of yoga for body for exercise and mind relaxation and stress control.

If you ever have any questions feel free to email me.


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Lake In The Hills, IL
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Jun 08, 2002
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