GERALDINE B.

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Wow, it's been a journey for me since my last blog. . .  A journey which has change my life like nothing I could have ever imagined.  It's all like a dream to me; a dream that I could sleep through forever!  However, with this happiness comes some sad moments, as well.

Prior to my surgery, I had the opportunity to get to know some people who have become really special in my life.  I met them through my surgeons support group.  I'll never forget while we were sharing amongst each other, one of my friends told me that as soon as the weight started coming off, I would experience a shift in my current friends.  "Lana" told me that my real, true friends would truly come to surface during my transition.  At that time, I thought to myself, "yeah right", not my friends. . . They're my girls, my homies; they got my back!!!

You know what, "Lana" was right!  Boy, have I been getting played, for years. . .  The ones that I thought would be in my corner forever, where the ones that dogged me the most.  Wanna know a hard lesson I had to learn?  I learned that sometimes folks befriend you to make themselves feel good about "themselves".  I've learned that "I" was that token friend - the one that drew attention. .  The one that everybody hide their flaws behind. . .  They'd tell me, "Girl you look nice", "Girl, you not too big", "You al'right". . .  But really, they were telling me "undercover", keep yo' big ass just as big as you are, so I can look good!

But, the weight started falling off and the more it fell, the more distant my so-called friends became.  Why?  I figured that one out too!  They had to distance themselves from me, because now, I'm no longer the token friend. .  They can no longer hide their flaws behind "me". .  My weight loss has caused a "shift" in the attention.  Now, I'm the smaller one and they can't hide behind me anymore.  So, instead of being an encouragement to me, or instead of getting their weight, health and personal being in check, they chose to kick me to the curb. . .  All of a sudden, I'm being treated like l've got a plague.  No one wants to hang out anymore.  We're busy, got things to do; "Girl, I don't have any money to go out!!"  I come around and I got to get that "twice over, up and down look", or the "Ummmmmmmm, check you out!!"  Or, the one I hate the most, "Look at you trying to get a man!"  Why folks gotta be so ugly; why they gotta hate?  If they only realize what we had to go through to loss all of thisweight, the sacrifices we made, the challenges we faced, they'd be more kind!  (I guess)

To all of you guys out there who can relate or have experienced this truly devasting awakening to the truth, know that life goes on.  We find out who are true friends are and we allow them to embrace us with all the love and encouragement they have to give.  And get this, we make new friends, as well!  I share this with you to let you know that although your normal circle of life may change, after weightloss, "you" don't have to change. . .  Be yourself, Improve yourself, hold your head up and let the world know that you made a choice to change your life for the better.  And anyone that can't share in your joy, tell them to kiss your "skinny" ass!!! lol lol lol  "Smooches"

Ever ask yourselves, "Why are we here"?????  I've viewed soooo many profiles in my years with ObesityHelp.Com.  With each view we all have the same goal and that is to finally lose weight.  Some of us are here due to health complications, some are here to help motivate confidence in one's self.  Some of us are even here to prove to someone or another that by losing weight, we can finally be excepted; even loved......  Personally, I'm here for "all of the above".  

Why do we allow society and all of it's negitivity about large people,  push us to a place of needing to be accepted in their world?   Don't you hate it when you're looked at from an outward appearance and not recognized for the intelligent person you are?  We are human, just like they are; we have feelings, just like they do!  So again, "Why are we here"???

I'll tell you why; we're here for the support of each other.  We're here to give each other the strength and courage that others fail to offer.  We're here to say to one another, "I know your pain", "I know your hurt", "I know your disappointments", but most of all, "We know that "together", we got each other's backs and we're here to change ourselves for "ourselves".......

Do you agree????