December 12, 2007

Dec 11, 2007

Well, it looks like another stall at 197.  It seems like every 5 pounds, I have a stall and it is very frustrating.  I haven't been posting on the boards because I hate to be a downer.  I figured I would post when I have something good to say.  Today was the first time I visited the boards in a week or so.  There was a post asking where I was and people actually missed me.  I cannot tell you how good that made me feel.  What special people here at OH.  I was so flattered that anyone even noticed I was gone!  Thank you.

I feel like my appetite is returning.  Is that normal?  I never used to be hungry and now I am all the time.  I was hoping it would stay the other way forever, but I guess that is wishful thinking.

I had my parents over the other day for dinner.  My mom and dad always make these comments that get to me.  My mom with the "are you losing that roll in the middle?" and my dad with "your face is still not thin enough", I could just scream!  Why do they have to say anything if they don't have nice things to say?  Meanwhile they are both overweight!  My dad keep saying "get your ass out there and exercise", but he doesn't.  I hate when people preach and they don't even do anything themselves. It was a nice time, but sometimes their comments are too much to take.  Parents!

I am plugging along, still having trouble getting in all the water and exercise.  My back is really acting up (I had surgery a few years ago) and it is preventing me from doing anything too strenuous.  Even walking for long periods of time is painful.  So, I have been using my arm weights and doing some stretching.  I bought a pilates tape, but am too afraid to use it.  I have to be so careful I don't reinjure my back, especially since I am planning to return to work in March.

Well, that is about it.  Hopefully the scale will get going again and I will have something more positive to post.  I just don't understand why I'm losing so slow.  It is not very motivating :(

November 27, 2007

Nov 26, 2007

Yayyyyyyyyy, the scale is moving!  Phew, I was getting real worried there for awhile with my long plateau and slow weight loss.  I now have lost 35 pounds in two months, and I am very happy with that.  Last night I had a piece of pizza and it went down fine.  It is not something I will be making a habit of,, but it is good to know I can have it once in a very blue moon, since it is my favorite :)

My Depression meds really seem to be kicking in again, thank goodness.  I guess I will just have to take these forever due to my chemical imbalance.  I guess things could be worse.

I did well for Thanksgiving.  Kevin and I had a quiet one home, just the two of us.  I made turkey cutlets, stuffing, mashed potatoes and cranberry sauce and had a tiny bit of each.  Everything stayed down fine.  The other day I tried a hard boiled egg and was sick for the entire day.  I guess I can't have eggs.  The same happens with scrambled eggs.  I used to love eggs, now the smell of them makes me sick.  I also cannot have tuna or fish right now.  I get sick on it.  Hopefully that won't be forever, since it is so good for you.  Lately I feel like I would rather not eat than eat what I can have or take the chance on something new and possbily get sick.  That isn't healthy because I am barely eating.  I am going to try and get something in every 21/2 hours along with all my water.  I'll have to pace myself.  It is not easy!

I bought those Profect bullets with 25 grams of protein in each.  I was so excited about them and ready to buy a case of them, until I read that post by Unjury saying if it is not pure Protein Isolate, then we are not getting the full amount of protein.  Bummer!  I really liked those.  It was an easy way to get in 25 grams on those days when you just aren't that hungry to eat the protein.  Oh well, they were expensive anyhow.  I did discover soy nuts, though.  They have 10 grams of protein in 1/4 cup, no sodium and 5 grams of fiber (which my doc says I need more of).  They are a great healthy, protein filled snack.  Try em'!

I weighed myself yesterday and was 200, sooooooooo close to onederland.  I was hoping to hit onederland by the end of the week, but, wouldn't you know it, got on this morning and was 202.5.  Go figure!  I am trying real hard not to let the scale get to me, but I sure am happy when it goes down lol.  I need to do my measurments and go by those.  They are more accurate than the damn number on the scale lol.

Well that's it for today.  Here's hoping I make it to onederland by Sunday!!!  Cheers!!!

November 19, 2007

Nov 19, 2007

I was just telling my dad that I was at a stand still on the scale.  He asks me every minute how much I have lost.  All my life he has wanted me to lose this weight.  He always looked at me with disgust when I was fat.  He is a very loving father and was great to me all my life, except when it came to the weight thing.  He always told me if I didn't lose the weight, I would never get married and blah blah blah.  He was also my food police watching everything I ate and commenting on everything I put in my mouth (which we  all know just makes us eat more), while my size 0 sister could eat anything she wanted and stayed thin.  My weight has always been the one goal I could never achieve, which is why I went to such drastic measure to get it off with the surgery.  I also did it, because I wanted my dad to be proud of me for once and to get his dream of me being thin.  I just wanted to feel what it was like to have him look at me with pride instead of disgust.

Anyhow, when I told him about the stall, he said, "Oh, you're kidding me.  I expected you to be a bone by Christmas."  He said it in a joking way of course, but it really bothered me.  Maybe because of the expectation and the pressure it puts on me or because I feel like a failure that I am not losing fast enough and that everyone is expecting me to be thin at Christmas, and I'm not going to be.  Lately, I don't want to see anyone who knows I had the surgery because I feel like they are all expecting me to be skinny and I'm not.  How do you all handle this?  I think most people think when you have this surgery, you lose all the weight immediately, but that is just not how it works.  And my dad always says, "well then why did you bother having the surgery?  You could have lost this slow on a regular diet." 

Sometimes I just hate when people make these ignorant comments when they haven't done any research on the surgery and don't know what they are talking about.


November 15, 2007

Nov 16, 2007

Well, I am not as down as I was writing the last post.  I lost a few more pounds, but that isn't the reason.  I had to come to the conclusion that there are going to be ups, downs and stand stills.  As long as it comes off eventually, I guess I can be patient.  I am okay with that.  I think seeing so many people post about itt happening to them as well, helped me to accept that it doesn't necessarily mean I am doing anything wrong, but that the body is shifting weight around and getting used to the healthy food. One person said she was at a plateau for 10 whole weeks, only to lose consistently afterwards up until her goal!  That made me think that everyone's body is different and will lose at it's own pace.

 I am still angry at myself for not exercising, but doing laundry, cleaning and vacuuming count as something, don't they???  I know brecause I work up a sweat doing them lol.  I know I will add in extra exercise in my own time.  I am shooting for next week.  A friend on the boards and I decided to hold each other accountable for our exercise and set small goals each day/week.  I think that will help.  Besides that, I have been feeling a little more energetic lately.  I think my Depression meds are taking affect, which will hopefully give me the motivation I am lacking.  I shouldn't have ever stopped taking them, but when you feel better you want to believe that you don't need them anymore.  But, I guess it is something I will need for the rest of my life, like a diabetic needs insulin, I need my Depression meds to balance out my chemicals.  I guess we all have our crosses to bear.

Lately, I have been having this uncomfortable pressure in my lower abdomen.  Other wls patients have told me that it is probably trapped gas and that I should try Gas X.  So, I asked hubby to bring it home for me, tried a few doses, nothing happened.  Next, I was told to try Milk of Magnesia.  Called up hubby, asked him to pick that up.  Tried that and helped a little, but if I stop taking it, I get constipated again.  I feel like I am always constipated and if I don't take something everyday, I won't go and I'll get that pain.  I can handle that.  I was worried it was an ulcer or a hernia.  I don't want to go back to the hospital, blah!  I was going to give my doc a call and see what he recommends.  Otherwise I feel great except that I don't eat much.


November 8, 2007

Nov 08, 2007

I just finished reading Dawn's post on how wls has changed your life and all the replies.  I am truly happy for everyone and their new lives.  But, I feel like I am still the before.  When they talk about how they used to have no motivation or energy and they used to be a couch potatoe, I saw myself now.  

I got on the scale again today and I am still the same.  I just don't feel like this is going to happen for me.  Nothing ever goes right for me.  I am not saying this to be a martyr or to get pity; I am simply stating a fact.  I can't imagine being that happy, being social and energetic and outgoing.  Maybe it is not my weight, but it is my personality.  I am not comfortable around a lot of people, which is why I choose this site as my support and I don't go to in person meetings.  I am hoping when I lose weight I will feel differently, but I'm beginning to wonder if that is true.  I feel the same right now, if not worse because I had the surgery and really thought I would be losing like crazy and enjoying what everyone calls "the honeymoon period".  Well, that is not happening.  I feel like I am losing slowly and no one is noticing, not even my own husband.  And everytime my parents invite me over or any of my friends do, I don't want to go because I feel like they will think I'm a failure for not losing.  I feel like they are expecting me to be skinny and I'm not, far from it.

I had this surgery because my problem with dieting was how slow the weight came off.  I had so much to lose, that one pound a week just wasn't keeping me motivated.  I would do really well on Atkins for three months or so and then run out of steem and motivation because I was losing so slow and had so far to go.  When I was doing my research on the surgery, I knew it was going to be hard work.   I didn't expect to wake up from surgery skinny, but I did expect the first six months to be a joyful time where I was going down sizes quickly and being truly inspired and motivated.  

I complain about my lack of energy and motivation to exercise, but I know if I was losing, I would dive into this wholeheartedly.  I know people may shake their heads at that and say it is another excuse, but I know myself.  If I began to see the results and the scale was going down, I would hit that gym and get totally into it.  It has happened before.  When I was working out regularly and working at the gym, I was so into it.  I worked out all the time and really hard.  I actually loved it.  But doing exercise at this weight is so hard and lately I am just down about not losing and giving up all my favorite foods.

I have been through a lot in my life thus far.  I've dealt with a suicide of a long time boyfriend, back surgery, having to leave my excellent job as a teacher to go on medical leave, severe Depression, drug dependency, financial distress, buying a house 14 hours away from home and living where I had no family or friends, only to find out my husband was having an affair while we were there.  Then I moved back home to CT, had to sell our brand new home,  and decided to take my husband back and work on my marriage.  While dealing with that, I was also trying to get my pain medicine addiction under control.  This was very difficult considering I would always take those to numb not only the back pain, but the emotional pain as well.  I finally got off the pills, only to start drinking in place of it.  Drinking was my new pills.  I just needed something to numb me out, so I wouldn't feel the pain of what my husband did to me and the depression I was going through, which was worse than ever.  It was so difficult to have to deal with my feelings without any substance.  I got off the pills, off the alcohol and quite smoking before surgery.  I also went to therapy both with my husband and on my own.  I've done a lot to try and straighten out my life up until now, and I had hoped the surgery would be a whole new beginning for me.

Last summer I applied to every district in the state for a teaching job.  Teaching is my passion and I just wanted to get back in the classroom more than anything in the world.  I went to interview after interview getting turned down with a Masters Degree and 7 years of experience.  I have the credentials, impeccable letters of reference and a straight A transcript.  I kept asking myself, what is the problem here.  Until, one day, I went to an interview.  As I was sitting outside waiting for the person before me to finish, the door was open and I could hear and see everything (which I thought was very unprofessional).  Anyway, the girl being interviewed was slim and pretty and looked very professional in her size 2 teacher's skirt suit.  As I sat there I listened to her answers, cookie cutter, cliche', not very intelligent or impressive at all.  So, it hit me.  I am not getting hired because I am fat.  It hit me like a ton of bricks.  How unfair, how absurd, how superficial could they be??!!  I am an excellent teacher and they don't know what they are passing up.  It didn't matter.  I was not going to be hired going to interviews with my huge body stuffed into a dress and  heels on that I could barely walk from the car to the office in.  I felt horrible about my appearance and I am sure it showed in my body language, attitude and on my face.

My hope was that after surgery, I would work hard, lose the weight and have a whole new positive attitude.  I figured I could go in to those interviews confident and proud and get the job I've been hoping and praying for.  Now I am starting to feel like that might not happen.  I just don't know how to get motivated and change my attitude.  

I imagine being able to tell a success story like some of the ones on the boards.  I look at the people who have lost a hundred or more pounds and am amazed at their accomplishment.  I dream of getting there, but I don't believe I can do it.  I guess that is the problem.  I don't believe in myself.  How am I going to change?  What am I going to do?


November 7, 2007

Nov 07, 2007

Well, today is my six week anniversary and I have lost about 24 pounds, though sometimes it is 27, depending on the day.  I am so mad at myself for not exercising.  I have absolutely no excuse.  I am home all day every day with nothing to do (I am out of work right now).  So, what is my excuse?  Laziness, no motivation, pain?  I have no idea.  I just cannot get myself started.  Everyday I say I am getting out there and every day I disappoint myself.  I really wish I had someone here during the day to work out with.  We even have a gym here at our apartment complex, a nice one!  It has tredmills, bikes, stair masters and eliptical machines that each have their own tv.  There are free weights and nautilus machines, everything I could want.  And there probably isnt even a soul there during the day. WHAT IS MY PROBLEM?  All I do is complain on the board about not losing enough weight, yet I won't get out there and start.  Being overweight with a bad back and severe Depression doesn't help matters, but they are not good excuses.  I thought if I lost some weight, I would become motivated, but I guess I haven't lost enough to feel the new energy.  I just read that someone lost 43 pounds in three weeks!  That is almost double what I lost in half the time!!!  What am I doing wrong????  Well, hopefully the next time I post I will be feeling more positive.

October 13, 2007

Oct 25, 2007

I went for my 3 week follow up and lost 14 pounds.  I was disappointed, but the doc says I am right on target and doing great.  He explained that those who are losing 40 pounds in a month are those who started at a much higher weight.  He said they will lose much faster, as do men.  He also told me not to be so hard on myself, that I was doing great and my incisions were healing well.  I know what he says is true, but I had just hoped for at least 20 pounds after only having liquids for three weeks.  I guess I need to be more patient with this journey.  

I just remember one of my reasons for deciding on this surgery, was the amazing weight loss I had seen from those who had the surgery.  And, knowing that one of the reasons I would fail on diets was the losing one pound a week and having 100 to go.  I just felt like it was going to take forever to even make a dent in my weight.  I don't know, maybe I was wrong to consider that as one of the reasons to have the surgery.  I know it is an individual journey and everyone loses at their own pace and that if I follow the doc's diet and instructions, I will lose.  I will just focus on that.


October 13, 2007

Oct 13, 2007

Wow, it has been forever since I have written.  I guess it took me that long to figure out how to change my profile and add posts lol.  And I thought I was computer literate.  I still can't figure out how to add clip art and glitter words and stuff, so if anyone wants to help me, give me a holler!

Well, I had my surgery about two weeks ago and I don't feel like I lost anything, which is so frustrating.  How can I be only drinking liquids and not lose a pound?  I don't have a scale so I don't know for sure, but my clothes fit the same, still snug and I still look fat.  When am I going to start losing?  I read that everyone noticed pounds melting off as soon as they got home.  I hope I am not going to be one of those slow losers.  I haven't been exercising yet, so maybe that is why.  I am so lazy.  Exercise is going to be difficult for me until I lose some weight.

One positive thing is that everything went smoothly and I have been healing with not problems.  The surgery was much easier than I thought it was going to be.  And, I don't feel hungry at all, though all the food commercials drive me crazy with head hunger lol.  Also, I am so glad I found this board.  Everyone has been so supportive and nice.  Everytime I have a question, this is where I come.  I just don't know what I would do without it.  It is so nice to be able to talk to people who are going through the same thing.  Thanks everyone for your encouragement and support.

Well, hopefully I will be more positive next time I write.  I don't have a scale, so I won't know if I lost until my follow up appointment on Wednesday with the doc.  I'll keep you posted.
Mousie

May 24, 2007

May 25, 2007

Well, Tuesday I had my psych appointment and nutritionist class.  It was nice to get those over with.  Now I just need to go June 6 to get my endoscopy and consult with Dr. Zuccala.  After that, I should only have to wait a week or so to find out if I am definitely approved and get a date.  I am so excited, but scared at the same time.

I am having a hard time imagining never eating sugar again, since I love it so much now.  And, when I heard pureed meat, I almost gagged.  I think I'll stick to the protein shakes and softer foods.  There is a lot to give up for this surgery and sometimes they are not sensitive to how difficult it is.  They just tell you to quit smoking and drinking alcohol, like it is the easiest thing in the world.  When in reality, it is very hard to do.  Some of these habits people try a lifetime to quit, and never succeed.  They also tell you to exercise every day.  When you have not been doing exercise at all, it is a lot to do exercise everyday.  These things are some of the hardest things to give up on their own, never mind all at once.  I am not saying I can't do it, but they do make it sound easier than it is.

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