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Mssxyred1 22 years, 1 month ago
Hi Lisa, I am going through the same thing that you are going through right now. I did not tell anyone except my husband and my mother about my decision to have surgery until I got my date. I got a date (June 27) and I have told my sisters and a few friends, I'm getting the "you shouldn't do it" speeches, the "just go on a diet" lines and "You look fine chunky". I have been reading the memorials also, But you know what?? I am going through with this. I received a post from someone who said God brought you to it, He will bring you through it..My thoughts and prayers will be with you.
midlifestu 22 years, 1 month ago
Hi Lisa, I hope it helps you to know I am having surgery same day as you are! June 30th approaches and I have had 2 months to think about it. Someone here posted something about writing down all the reasons and enthusiasm you had when you first decided to go with this surgery. Then read it back during this down spells. I find it does help me to remember why I am doing this in the first place. I also suffer "what ifs" but I understand it's a normal part of this process(helps to know that). I think anyone having any surgery goes through this, not just with a WLS type of surgery. Personally, I don't "live" right now, just existing. I am missing out on everything including my 11 yr old son's growing up. To me, I would rather not be here than go on living so morbidly obese. I am willing to risk it. Besides, odds are in our favor nowadays! And you can take your God along with you on surgery day. I am. HUGS from Me! Marykay
anitanbug 22 years, 1 month ago
Lisa ~ You are very normal right now! I think just about anyone who is post op went through the "what if's" and listening to all of the negative comments from those who are not truly educated on WLS. Your right in saying that you have a very big decision to make. This is such a personal decision and one that only you can make with the knowledge you have. My suggestion to you is to stop reading the memorial page! I did the very same thing and would cry everyday thinking that with the luck I had, I would be the 1% that does not make it through the surgery. Think about yourself in this. You spent enough time thinking of others. You need to do this for yourself! You mentioned that your kids have plans and things to do....think about the future and if you will be able to watch them in what they are active in. Are you truly happy with YOU right now? Weigh (no pun intended!) the pros and cons of the future with and without WLS. You sound like a very down to earth person (just from reading your profile) and I am sure you will make the decision that is best for YOU!! Keep your chin up, Lisa! There is a lot of support out there for you in whatever decision you do make! God Bless!
Lynda 22 years, 1 month ago
Lesa, When I was deciding whether to have this surgery the one deciding factor to me was: Am I happy with how I must live my life at my current weight? It didn't matter to me that my life would be shortened by morbid obesity. It was how is my life now? There are risks with everything. Lynda
tameaka S. 22 years, 1 month ago
Lesa!!! It seems that this decision is one of the hardest decisions that one could ever have to make. To think that you could die from this procedure is hell. But lesa, in my opionion and let me quote my doctor's words for a sec. we could die from all of the co morbidities that come along with being obese, how many 60 yer old's do you see that are obese. there is a 2% mortality rate that's less than a woman giving birth. truthfully speaking in my opinion anyone who says "go on a diet" is obviously ignorant and does not understand the struggle with being obese. i can understand how children may be worried about mom BUT i know you want to live to see your children become adults. (i am not implying that you won't) even if you decide to not have the surgery. i pray that god will bless you with a sound mind. I too read the memorial page daily but you know what? I know if you ask the lord to let HIS will e done he will grant you with inner peace and you will make the best decision for you. god bless
IHAVELOSTALOT B. 22 years, 1 month ago
Lesa, I wish I could reach out there and give you a big old hug and big kick in the rear end to the people who said to you just stop eating so much!! Don't they think if it were that simple you would have done that long ago? Please don't let the naysayers sway your decision. You have to decide this for YOU!! Your kids are typical kids it sounds like to me, everythings ok as long as it doesn't interfere with their life, huh? Oh, to be teenagers again. You have to be SELFISH in this decision and only think of YOU and what YOU need. I know it's hard especially for someone like you who it seems is always doing for everyone else. I hope I have not offended you in anyway it was not my intention, I just don't want you to give up on a chance at a new life just because the people in your life aren't as supportive as they should be. I hope you make the right decision for you! God Bless You and Big Hugs
Michelle P. 22 years, 1 month ago
I can so relate to you! I am a pre-op awaiting insurance approval and I go through these same up and down feelings - CONSTANTLY. The only thing that has calmed me is prayer. I believe God will take care of me and I have total trust in my doctor. I know this doesn't help too much, I have been told over and over to do these things. So finally, I just started believing in those things and it has sunk in. On another side note, stay away from the Memorial pages! I do the very same thing and it's hard, but remember that percentage is very low. Take care and God bless! Good luck in making your decision. You will be in my thoughts, and prayers!
LHWILLIAMS 22 years, 1 month ago
HELP HELP HELP!!!! This has been a real tough weekend. On Friday 13th had another thought of not surviving wls. All weekend I've been reading memorials and eating and smoking. I just don't know if this is the right decision for me or if I'm just getting the usual nerves. My surgery is two weeks from today---will I or won't I? My youngest little girl doesn't want me to have it done because she said it will mess up her summer and she doesn't want to take care of me. My oldest daughter informed me she would be there for surgery but her newest boyfriend is taking her to the beach for the 4th of July so she won't be very much help. My son is a typical, but very good, 16 yr old who just wants to be on the run but he will do what he can. My mother is very supportive whatever decision I make but my father said "just stop eating so much and go on a diet". My aunt said she hoped I wasn't in the % that died, just go on a diet. I've always been the strong person, there for everyone whatever the problem might be. For the past 24 yrs I've lived to support my children. I'm the mother the father, the sole breadwinner, the taxi driver, the shopper, the home nurse practioner, the janitor, the plumber, the carpenter, PLUS the daughter, the sister, the sister-in-law, the banker, the co-worker, the jack of all trades to who ever needs something, etc. This is hard coming from someone that is always for decided and strong. OK PITTY PARTY OVER---I'VE GOT A DECISION TO MAKE. Any words of knowledge would be greatly appreciated. I don't feel very normal! Hugs and Good Luck to all pre-ops Lesa
Amy G. 22 years, 1 month ago
Best wishes on your journey! God bless you & may He keep you in His hands! :-)